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This question is one where I have no way of answering myself but I was curious to ask regardless.

I think we are pretty much left to on our own, to sort out this side of life through trail and error— if even that. I think many people will go to their grave not even having rally been safe if what they needed emotionally. I recall reading when I was a kid that children need a minimum of 13 affectionate touches a day. I told my my great grandmother (who actually was the one affectionate person is ever known) would jokingly tap me 13 times every morning on my head 😂 I don't know where in the world they came up with that number it’s just funny bc it’s so ridiculous but was said with authority.

Anyhow I feel like a lot of people would be calmer snd happier and more helpful to others live healthier & probably longer, if that side of life was smoothed our. It’s really difficult tho to know what you need bc emotional needs - not material replacements - tho ubiquitous are unique & hard to market and so we don’t get much advertisement for them. Plus it’s not really something considered cool to talk about so I tbh k we get used to thinking of something basic as a special need for certain people who think about that stuff bc they need it.

im wondering how many of you give thought to your emotional well being & if you are aware of being content or feel wanting, etc etc

I work at a school and have feelings for a colleague. We talk and text regularly. Once, he told our mutual friend he doesn't date in the workplace. I'm leaving in a week and my crush has been helping me job search. Recently, there were days when he would text first 2-3 days in a row. We seemed to have become good friends, having heart-to-hearts. Last Saturday, there was an elementary graduation, and prior to it he had asked me if I'm going. We talked about a student whose parents aren't present much, and he suggested we take the family photo with him if his parents didn't show up. When I got to the grad, it seemed I'd missed a text from him asking where I was. He was already seated in the front row and I took an open seat in the row behind. A few mins later, I finally noticed his text. Once it was time to socialize, I decided to congratulate the students, who I think of like my own children, before going over to chat with him. He started chatting with others. But, the conversations and picture taking took longer than I thought, and when I was done he was gone. I found him at his work desk. We had a moment alone. Eventually, I wanted to get back to the party, he went home. I left with the students and noticed him still in sight, walking towards the station. I called out to him, and we took a pic together with some kids. Since then, we've had conversations and text but there's also this other girl who seems to flirt with him at work. Yesterday was my last day with the students, and I've been super emotional. After the kids left, I went straight to see him. But, the other girl was there. He was showing her videos of students, and they laughed together. My former teacher is my colleague and his co-teacher, so she's usually in the room too. I sat with her, and she whispered that she thinks they like each other. I eventually left. Since then, our text convos seem to be short. I can't tell if I've lost my chance or if I'm just emotional.