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We’re currently in a dating app era & the idea behind dating apps seems practical yet you hear more bad than good things about them. Almost 30 & I’ve never been in a LTR, I have accomplished everything I currently want out of life but been able to find a quality guy. I’ve owned a condo & strive to eventually own a home in a few years, are dating apps to blame behind being single or is there more to it (aka am I the issue)? I’ve been told I’m attractive by all kinds of people for a good chunk of my life but I’ve never been approached in person by a guy I’d like to date (getting checked out doesn’t count).
The only times guys I find attractive have acknowledged me were on dating apps, it’s just there’s times where maybe I feel burnt out & can’t be bothered to end up meeting that guy in person.

Or when I feel like I have *options*/ I’m in a mood where I just don’t want to put in the effort. And when the app outlook looks dismal at a given moment (like now), I consider deleting & reinstalling at a later time. I get bored after communicating too long etc, it may seem like self sabotage topped with my terrible anxiety but I’ve never felt SO unsure about something in my life & that *something* is dating. Unsure if my lack of libido/lack of interest in being sexual might play a part (no health issues). There’s always that voice in the back of my mind that makes me think the right guy will change all of that but who really knows. I’m worried I’ll be shriveled up & when I finally have that drive, it’ll be too late to find a match. I heard an influencer say the other day that there shouldn’t be pressure or a rush to date, it’s an opportunity that’ll always be available.

TL; DR: Is dating hard for most? And is my case bad luck or someone unsure of what she wants?

It’s been a year and I can’t seem to get over the hurt he caused.. I feel hopeless and I feel that I’m at risk for losing everything I worked hard for including my teaching license because I can’t get my mental health together that is revolving around him. I hate him.

I went on a date with a guy that ended up only wanting something casual after I expressed to him that I didn’t want that and he made it seem like he wanted something more.. and it hurt because of how he made me feel initially.

then I found out he’s possibly bisexual and has an attraction to trans women and that caused more anger on top of him disrespecting and disregarding me. It’s like I was nothing… he lied, manipulated and then insulted me in the end.

he doesn’t fully understand the pain he caused by being a selfish liar.. and then to know I’m a hurt or wounded individual and he really played on that. It’s sick