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It started with mutual attraction. The question came of if he's in a relationship he admitted upfront that he's in a fucked up situation of being legally married but due to immigration he can't leave until his citizenship is granted. It's already in the process. The person he is married to is on the same wavelength, they want to get divorced but they will wait until his process is over.

There is no issue in our relationship except this HUGE one. The reason I constantly feel torn on walking away is because he's the most amazing man ever, flaws and all. And I believe that what we have is irreplaceable. I walk around happy as fuck because of him but with a weight on my shoulder.

In honesty, the government system where I live is very fucked up and they literally treat immigrants like shit unless you are filthy rich. So for no logical reason other than being cruel even when you have all requirements met, they give appointments then keep rescheduling and putting it off. Realistically in my country the process of getting citizenship then residency takes 10+ years.

He doesn't want to start the process over in divorcing her and marrying me because it's been about 4/5yrs already and he finds it stressful to start over. I am telling him that makes no sense since he will therefore be chained to her for an indefinite number of years, unhappy and preventing us from having a free relationship.

It's a tough decision but when I talk about it he seems defeated. I say if he doesn't know what to do then that in itself is a choice. He says I don't understand because it's his whole life he's built here that he could lose by choosing to get a divorce before having his citizenship at least. I am concerned that we won't be able to raise a family because my biological clock is ticking. I also hate having to be okay with him living there with her and her family. We can't live together. We can't be seen. My family wants to meet him. Tell me your thoughts. It's almost been 3years.

I have always been slim and borderline underweight. Lately I have noticed my body slipping towards the lower of my usual weight range so I’m looking to reassess my fitness and eating to see if I can just put on a bit more weight. 2021 was a lazy unhealthy year for me. I didn’t really fuel my body properly and I didn’t exercise much which I love to do. I don’t want to have massive muscles or anything, I think I just want to have a bit more strength (and in doing so a bit more weight on my bones). In general I’m healthy and I have regular periods so I’m not concerned about anything, just working on being the healthiest I can be while still staying true to my natural figure. Also it would be nice if I had more arm strength to open those tricky jars haha. Are there any fitness specialists out there who can advise me on how to go about putting weight on combined with fitness? I love to swim laps twice a week at least (I used to do competitive swimming during my school and university , and it’s the only sport that I do tbh, normally I smash out around 40-50 laps) and my goal this year is to swim more as I let it go significantly in 2021. But if I’m exercising more, I want to make sure I fuel my body properly so I don’t lost more weight. So that’s my deal. Again any advice would be great. If you have been through a similar thing I’d love to know how you put on weight. I should note that I’ve never had an eating disorder and my relationship with food is good (just in case anyone questions why I’m the weight I am). Apparently there is a skinny gene in my family…