Is this a don't on the first date?

[Bysin21]

I went on a date with a guy who seems nice. He was a gentleman via opening doors etc. Walked me back to my car as we held arms.

The only thing that stood out to me was that he asked me if I wanted to come back to his place after the date. I said no, not yet. He told me he was just putting it out there. He said if I wanted to go on another date to let him know.

He's not my typical type in that he is on the shorter and skinny side. I'm much heavier than him... I am working on my weight.

My question is... is he just seeking sex since he asked me over so soon?

Is he really interested in me? He said let him know if I wanted a second date. But it seems like I would have to initiate planning a time. Maybe he's trying to be considerate b/c he knows I work a lot?

What are your thoughts?

Thanks

[Anonymous]

Never "assume". Even if he was, it doesn't mean that's ALL he wanted necessarily. My suggestion is first figure out if you like him enough to see him again (ignore the offer he made, just look at how you feel and how the date went in general, did you like him? Is short and skinny a deal breaker for you? etc). If the answer is yes, then talk to him and establish that you are BOTH looking for the same things as far as relationship goals (ie looking for it to lead to long term, or something casual?). Make sure you're both on the same page to start with. Then you aren't questioning things or making assumptions. And don't just ask him what he wants, be sure to tell him what you're looking for and want also.

[Opinion Owner]

Asking you over so soon could mean he was just that comfortable with you. And sex is a fantastic ice breaker! lol But that's where men and women are very different often. Women generally need more time to get to know a guy than guys do to sleep with a woman. You can never make the assumption that it means that's ALL he wants though.

[Gingerguy33]

I do think it’s possible he could be looking for just sex I would ask him straight up what his intentions are

[Phsk_wmn]

I say get to know him better, don't agree to intimacy if you're not comfortable enough yet. If he's a decent guy he'd wait and wouldn't force you to do anything you're not comfortable doing. And guys have different preference, I know it's hard not to think about the insecurities we have on ourselves but don't dwell on it too much ;)

[Wise4myage]

Anytime a guy asked a girl to come to his place, he most likely has sex on his mind.

[JohnK123]

No just maybe more time to hangout