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I need advice from you to help me decide who is the right man for me. I grew up innocent without any knowledge and much experience with men because my parents are strict. I just got out of my parents' hands this year, now that I am 27. I met two guys in my life.

I know Daniel, a year ago, on a dating site. At first, he was very persistent towards me. I didn't like him at first because he is too old for me but he was serious by calling me every day, being there when I was depressed, and, giving food and gifts as a surprise. However, after 7 months, I'd noticed on his Facebook, that I was not the only foreign girl he added, and gave a flower to another girl who he met online with a letter saying "Smile, it is another day." I got mad and the girl stayed away from Daniel. After that event, he doesn't care about me anymore, no calls, no gifts. He always punishes me by not talking to me for one to three months. He even accused me of wanting him for money or a visa even if it was not even true.

Due to my anger that Daniel didn't talk to me for 2 months. I went back to the dating site and I met Kostas. He is very interested in me and even wants to meet me even just after 3 weeks. He flew to visit me because I rebelled against Daniel's abandonment. I did sleep with him. Kostas was really kind to me online, but when I met him, I realized he cannot really treat me right. He got fed off of my problems and, worse, he left me at the mall alone and threw my stuff because I didn't want to follow what he wants. But after a day, he apologised to me. If we ever have a disagreement or fight, he is willing to communicate through it. Unlike Daniel, he had to punish me first by not talking for one to two months. Or worse, more months.

Please advise me, who should I choose and marry? Or what should I do?

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I don’t think he does based off something that happened today, but I definitely have strong feelings for him.

This is a long story so buckle in.

I’ve been friends with this guy who’s almost 10 years older than me since I was 19. He went to back to college, and that’s how we met. We’ve always just been friends and never crossed any lines with each other and are part of the same group. He graduated 3 years ago and moved back to our hometown (turned out we’re from the same city), but we’ve stayed in touch and I see him almost every time I visit.

Last year we were hanging out and the topic eventually went to dating (not each other just in general). I described my perfect guy and he said something like, “oh like how we do?” And that’s the moment the light bulb clicked in my head. Ever since then I’ve been developing feelings for him. I felt like he wasn’t returning my feelings, so I backed off to try and readjust my emotions.

A couple months ago, he called me out the blue and we’ve been texting/calling/watching shows through zoom together practically every day the last few weeks. My feelings for him are back and are definitely getting stronger. I’m not sure how he feels. It’s like he’s hot and he’s cold, he’s definitely sending mixed signals. He’s asked me what my plans for grad school are, wanted to know if I’d move out of state to go to the same school as him, stays on the phone with me while I share my location while in traffic, etc. In a show we watched recently, they were talking about date ideas and he kept telling me he wanted to take me to those places, so I started to feel like he might feel the same as me. Today I finally had enough of wondering and texted him that I’m wanting his attention more and more, and he deflected it and made a joke.

When we met 8 years ago, I was just a kid and he was pushing 30. I’m worried he still thinks of me as a kid and doesn’t see me as the woman I’ve grown into.

Is he just a good friend? Does he want more? What do I do?