What is going on?

[Anonymous]

So I’ve been talking to this guy. We spoke about how things would be and agreed to just see how things go but he’s not wanting a serious relationship right now. He’s told me his reasons for not wanting a relationship are cause he works away he’s home for one week then gone for 2 so he’s scared he’ll get hurt and feels like a relationship wouldn’t work with him gone so much of the time but at the same time he’s at a point in his life where he feels the next natural step would be to find a relationship and start building a life so he’s struggling with that a bit.
Everything seemed to be fine as I know it now we’re essentially friends with benefits or whatever you wanna call it. But he was showing all the signs he’s intrested calling me cute names; baby, gorgeous, beautiful, Bub. rejecting other girls, kissing me just because and always wanting cuddles. The way he’d look at me was like I was the only girl in the world. I felt special. I was over almost the whole week that he was home a while ago and everything was great but then he went back out to work and he did the usual send a snap when he was at the airport and then again when he was taking off and then again when he landed and I left him on seen cause I was busy and flustered with other things that I just didn’t know what to say and then when I did message he didn’t seem to want to talk and ever since he’s not messaged me at all and when I message him he’s giving me closed off responses like he’s not interested in talking and when I ask if he’s okay he’s just giving me the whole I’ll be alright don’t worry bout me bullshit or saying he’s not okay but then not telling me what’s up. I went over to his house again the week just gone cause he was home and I only stayed one night cause he made plans without me and things just felt different. Not entirely sure what to do or what’s happened. I tried to speak to to him bout it and he said everything was fine and not to worry and that was he’s just not been feeling well

[spartan55]

Guess you don't understand what a casual relationship is.

[Wise4myage]

Not wanting anything serious, means he's just into casual sex for the time being.

[Asker]

I’ve spoken to him about what he wants and everything and we both just want to be friends with casual sex at the moment cause neither of us are really ready for commitment but we’re not opposed to a relationship in the future. This doesn’t tell me why he went cold all of a sudden and won’t tell me what’s wrong though.

[katestar]

My guy friend is the same way.