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You have this guy friend you've known for ten years. He likes you- he's asked you on dates before but you've always said "no" because you don't want a relationship. But you're close. He comforts you when you struggle- most recently with the loss of a family member, flying to a different state to care for your nephews. You talk and hang out often, sometimes at each others' places. He is always there for you and stops whatever he's doing to help you. He recently bought a house and took a management position at a major company. Your mom likes him. You feel safe around him and trust him with your life.

He recently started dating a girl. He's even introduced you to her. You immediately become jealous and insecure. You call and text your "friend" more often, telling him you "think of him". You buy him things that you know he likes. You drop subtle criticisms about his girlfriend. You invite him over for dinner one evening. He feels something is "off" but you say everything is "fine". Your conversations seem normal and casual. He continues talking about his girlfriend and being excited to meet her family. You're confused. You don't know if you really love him or not.

You can't take it anymore and decide to ghost him. Cold turkey. No contact. Your friend is obviously confused and worried. After a month of ignoring him, he comes to your apartment door. He knocks but you don't answer. It's pouring rain outside. He has keys to your place but he doesn't come inside. He sits down with his back against the door and begins talking as if you're there. He says he loves you; that he always has. He observes you're hurting and he says he's a bad friend for hurting you, but he doesn't know why. He says he will walk out of your life if means you'll be happier, but he at least wanted to say goodbye. He stops talking. You...

I might answer this question myself. Of course not all of them are gold diggers. I have seen one category of them working and or studying steadily, another category where they have relocated for work outside of Russia, another category where they drive cars like Mercedes, another category where they paid for the meal for both of them, another category where they marry the wrong Guys, another category where they married a low wage earner, another very major category where they ignore men or dont want any relationships and the list goes on and on. So this renders my question pretty much pointless.

However i keep getting told how these Russian girls sit back and do nothing in dating and expect us to do everything, invest in them even if they dont return anything, pay for them and the dating instructions in Russia go almost as closely as possible to invade their space, just short of r a p i n g them. I personally get gold digger vibes from that.

Some of them even told me (perhaps as a joke but i can't tell) about migrants from Europe or America coming to Russia and depart later away from there having married one of the Russian women so these women would gain citizenship or a green card and a ticket out of Russia, basically any legal type of permit into the country where those migrants came from and take her there too. This has happened before and its not so uncommon.

This scared me because i can not know whether its for the citizenship they are in for or the real deal. I almost never had a relationship with a Russian girl but right now i am on the safe side since i am not in Russia anymore. No need to dig for a citizenship and a passport where i am.