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Long story short, I am having trouble picking between two men that are both amazing but in very different ways. They are complete opposites and both having qualities I love. I met guy#1 several months ago and we both instantly felt an intense pull towards each other the moment we met. Our chemistry was out of this world. I had never felt that way about a man before. I was just drawn to him in every way possible. Unfortunately, I realized early on that we were not that compatible in terms of our lifestyle and personalities. He's very independent and career oriented where as I am extremely clingy and family oriented. He had also just gotten out of a relationship so he was not consistent or ready for anything serious and because of that, he ended things with me so I wouldn't waste time on him. Fast forward a few weeks, I met guy#2. This guy is everything I was looking for in a man. He is consistent, caring, emotionally available, clingy (just like me), and extremely family oriented and ready for something serious. The downside was that I did not feel that initial "out of this world" chemistry with him that I felt with guy#1 even though guy#2 is compatible with me in every way and everything I'm looking for in a partner. Guy#2 and I still have great chemistry, just not magical like it was with guy#1. Fast forward a few more weeks, guy#2 and I are getting pretty serious now and guy#1 suddenly enters my life again wanting a second chance. Time has gone by and he is now "ready" for more commitment. Who do I pick? The guy I can't stop thinking about but not sure I can see long term with or the guy that I can envision a stable future with but don't have intense chemistry with?

So my roommate’s bf’s best friend is super attractive and checks off a lot of my boxes personality & life desires wise. I very much want to pursue something with him, but I’m super nervous since I’m in my mid/late 20s & have only ever had 1 boyfriend (who I dated off & on for a few months at a time for a few years, v toxic), he’s 1.5 years younger than me & has only ever had 1 girlfriend (only dated her for a couple months), & we’re also in a friend group together. I have more hookup experience than him, but I don’t really have a lot of dating experience, especially not healthy dating experience. The few times I have dated in the past, I’ve been told that I’m too clingy or move too fast to be serious bc I’m very touchy when I like someone. My love language is physical touch & sex is how I express a lot of affection, & sex early on doesn’t mean I’m not trying to be serious, it means I’m interested in you. If I can’t express myself in that way, then we’re not compatible.

He invited me over to his place the other night to watch some tv, & I went over & we drank some wine. I was holding his hand, put my head on his shoulder, cuddled up next to him, etc. I was expecting him to make the next move if he was interested in doing so. I’m very nervous about making all the physical moves bc I’ve been told in the past that I’m too cuddly & too physical. Well, he has even less experience than me & I don’t think he really knows how or when to move it to the next level. Long story short, I ended up leaving the other night without so much as a kiss from him, despite me being very cuddly. He seemed receptive to me touching him and when I even asked if I was doing too much he told me no, he just didn’t make a move to move things forward.

Is he uninterested & just wanting the attention? Or does it seem like he’s nervous too?