What do you do when you are feeling extremely lonely?

[Anonymous]

The last few months I have been feeling exceedingly lonely and hopeless. I feel like I’ll never have the kind of love story I want that I grew up seeing in TV serials, movies and reading in romantic novels or prose. It just depresses me to the core that I may live my whole life and never have a love story or that I might watch the years fly by and end up a lonely cat lady at 45.

I am also scared if I just marry anyone I’ll end up divorced with three kids at 33. I don’t want to end up raising kids by myself and be alone forever when I am that young but I am also scared of waiting until I am 33 to get married and then end up running out of options because the men older than me will be mostly married or divorced. I even worry I will have children late - ideally I wanted at least one before 30 but then again I don’t feel ready at 24 (I turn 25 in a couple of months)

What do you do when you start overthinking about things that are beyond your control?

[Fireguy17]

you are way too young to have to worry about that.
like all of the sappy Hallmark movies, the TV serials, Lance Fitswell novels, they are all fiction.
Rarely if ever does life happen that way.
I'm sorry to have burst your bubble, but if/when you start putting unrealistic expectations on how you think your love life should be, you are probably going to be very disappointed.
Finding the right person is a lot of work, (all most like a job) and takes a lot of time, but it does happen, and usually not overnight or at first glance.
You are able to control your thoughts, just start asking friends, parents or relatives how they met, and like my mom and dad met, he was from the city and would come out to a lake cottage and go to the farm where my mom lived, and she would go run and hide in a barn because he was a hoodlum from the city.
Not the greatest of love stories there, but she was either the 2nd or 3rd person my dad ever dated, and they were married almost 50 years before she passed.
Not the most romantic start, but he kind of proved himself to her, and won her over.

[Being_a_good_Indian]

Feeling lonely is a normal, human experience. You can feel lonely when you're by yourself or even when you're in a room full of people.

The most prevalent cause for loneliness was feeling disconnected. Many young adults spoke about being lonely because they felt unable to express themselves, their feelings or talk about their issues. They also talked about being lonely due to feeling they did not matter to others and were not understood.

Loneliness causes people to feel empty, alone, and unwanted. People who are lonely often crave human contact, but their state of mind makes it more difficult to form connections with other people.

Relationship anxiety can come from difficulties you're having in your relationship: You may be concerned about whether or not your relationship will last. You might be unsure if you can trust your romantic partner. You may even be struggling with commitment issues.

Consulting to expert or therapist will definitely help you out. I hope it helps you to understand the matter.

[Guy13]

You prefer to worry than do is your issue. You like Drama even if you have to dream it up. Get out and about. meetup. com

[exitseven]

There is a spot near a river that I have been going to since I was in high school any time I was feeling sad. I just go and sit and try to figure out how to make things better.

[shortster]

Just try to focus on what I can control.

[htmndg183]

Still finding the solution.

[Nahid1707]

Important you move on
Take your time