Why are my dreams about my ex never romantic?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I often dream.

When I dreamed about my previous love interests, I either hugged them or kissed them or so on, all of these messages gave me very positive feelings.

With my ex though, shortly before and all the time after our break up, I have dreams that I ask him to come reconcile and he refuses. It’s like a never ending story, always happens same in every dream, I go to him, I ask him to reconcile and he seems to reject over and over again.

I wonder what kind of dream is that, aren’t dreams supposed to help you move on?

Why don’t I dream about the happy times we had? Why don’t I kiss or hug him? Why is it always me asking him to get back together and him rejecting that. My subconscious is not helpful at all haha

Then I am moody whole day.

I had fun yesterday, it’s just yesterday I met people who made me realize how special it was what I had with my ex and how uncommon it is to have it in life. I haven&5 thought of my ex, but yet, in my dreams I still go to him and ask to reconcile. I don’t want to have those dreams anymore.

[Anonymous]

Dreams are often a reflection of our subconscious thoughts and emotions, and can be influenced by a variety of factors such as past experiences, current emotions, and fears or anxieties about the future. It's possible that your dreams about your ex rejecting your attempts to reconcile may be influenced by your own fears or anxieties about the relationship, or may be a reflection of your subconscious awareness that the relationship has ended and may not be reconciled.

It's important to remember that dreams are not necessarily predictive or indicative of what will happen in reality. While it's understandable that these dreams may be causing you stress or anxiety, it's important to consider them within the context of your own emotions and experiences.

If you're having difficulty moving on from the relationship or these dreams are causing you distress, it may be helpful to talk to a trusted friend or counselor for support and guidance. They can provide tools and strategies to help you cope with your emotions and move forward in a healthy way. Additionally, practicing self-care and focusing on your own well-being can also be helpful in managing these dreams and emotions.

[Guy13]

Must be nice. I just snore loud enough to wake myself up and/or think I’m dreaming. Don’t you wish yiu were as skilled as me.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

hahah fortunately I don’t snore.

However, once I cried during dreaming and I cried so loudly it woke me up. It was in November. I had a dream my ex was standing with an unknown girl at a station and telling me “she’s not my girlfriend but she will soon be”, I remember I cried out very loudly from the heartbreak and it woke me up.

Now, I think I was silly. How could I think I would cry for the sake of a man, 3 years ago if you told me that I would laugh out loud or I’d be ashamed of myself had I known I’d cry a lot for that in future.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I always dreamed but I had very colorful and happy dreams, I was in Safari walking next to lion some days, somedays I was in a fairytale land of elves and magicians, sometimes I was flying next to dolphins in sky hahah

Once I had a dream, a lion was chasing me and when I couldn’t run anymore, it caught up with me asked if I knew where the zoo was. So most of my dreams are very fun.

It’s been only around the break up time when I started having these awful dreams.

When I was locked in Georgia unable to go back, I had a dream I took a drill and was drilling the Earth to reach China ahaha

I can say I have really crazy dreams.

However I am scared of tigers, I have had these dreams of tigers chasing me ever since I was 18, one day a huge tiger run out of the zoo, and I was scared it would meet me, that’s when these dreams started.

Now this tiger dream changed into dreams about my ex, I guess my ex has been more dangerous to my heart than a bengal tiger in my dreams

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Before break up, we had some small break ups leading to the last major one, I had a dream my ex hurt me a lot and then died, then he was born again and I raised him from the childhood.

When we finally broke up I had a dream my father died. It’s not like he was a father figure for me, no. I don’t also like those nicknames, feel cringy to even mention.

I just think I had that dream cause he was a protective male figure for me and I guess the feeling gave me the sense as if I not only lost a partner but also a father. Dreams are really interesting.

[Guy13]

DREAMS as a means To Grieve from Grief: grief is a strong, sometimes overwhelming emotion for peoples, regardless of whether their sadness stems from the loss of a loved one or from a terminal diagnosis they or someone they love have received. They might find themselves feeling numb and removed from daily life, and sometimes unable to carry themselves and duties forward possessing a saddening sense of loss.

[Guy13]

Mayo Clinic source

[SnowedIn]

I am totally guessing but want to offer some help if possible. I think the dreams are trying to tell you that you made the right decision. That he's an ex for a reason and to look forward, not back. They're not romantic because the hard drive that is your brain doesn't want you looking back fondly.

[TomMarks]

That could be your subconscious telling you that trying to reconcile with him won’t work and to move on with out him.

[Jennz6]

Because it wasn’t Romantic

[Alex8736]

it's a sign telling you not to get back with him

[Bklynbadboy12]

Well maybe he wasn't the romantic type