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Been dating a female for about 6 months… We went on 1 date & spent quality time with each other twice… I was approached by this female saying she liked me and wanted me for years once she found out i was no longer in a relationship… We texted everyday… The chemistry, charisma, & sexual tension was definitely there… She told me she was single when i asked about her ex fiancé who she was engaged to… she said for a year & 43 days which I’m assuming it was due to him being incarcerated… he is the father of 2 of her kids… She said they still had love for one another but they decided they were better off as best friends… when she got overwhelmed & overstimulated with personal issues she would push me away & shut me out for days at a time… Her distancing herself started to bother me so i communicated it to her which she said if we communicated things would work out between us so that’s what i did… she became angry at me… she said how she eventually wanted to be my girlfriend and had future plans with me in them… she said she could see herself falling in love with me because im a good person but then we had a disagreement because the distancing became more common than ever… so she said i was suffocating her because i didn’t believe anything she told me so we friend zoned one another… Then she kept texting me i told her to stop texting me… she texted me one day saying she missed me… So we were back in good graces… Then i planned something special for her because i knew she was going through some personal issues and i had Christmas gifts for her… So on Saturday we had sex after she seen her romantic gesture and gifts but that same day she said her baby father was coming home soon… she texted me Sunday thanking me for the best few hours she had in a long time & she kept admiring her flowers while smiling so hard… Then after that things got weird she only texts me in the mornings now… my assumption is he’s home…

Do you think its appropriate for a new romantic partner to spend the night at the house when child is in the house? Or should that wait till they are married or at least engaged?

I am having this little ethics debate with someone and we can't seem to agree with each other and asking for more input and why.

For me, i don't think its appropriate for, lets just say, my girlfriend to spend the night when my son (3y) is asleep in the next room when we have only been together for less then 6 months. When my son is not here I would rather her be here but I don't see it being appropriate when he is here until a long-term stable relationship is established.

I daydream and think about romance a lot and having that one person that is my partner in crime forever. I have no interest in being with multiple women. But I find most people just want something temporary or non-serious. Is this hopeless and I'm being unrealistic?

For example, a dark skinned girl asks, "do you like dark-skinned girls?"

Or a Chinese girl asks, "do you like Chinese girls?"

When it comes to ethnicity/skin tone, I always say that I really don't care. If I find her physically attractive and she has an amazing personality, I wouldn't be able to say no. This is the complete truth, but I'm wondering if she'd rather hear, "yes, I love dark-skinned girls" or "Chinese girls"

Or if a tall girl asks, "do you like tall girls?"

For this one though I'd answer a bit differently. I'd still be being honest but I think height is an interesting one because the vast majority of guys prefer shorter, and women usually are a good amount shorter, so it really is just the normal thing. However some are clearly in different circumstances.

I'd be very genuine by saying something like "I usually prefer shorter girls but if she looks good and has an amazing personality, how can I say no?" Do you think she'd rather hear "yes I love tall girls"?

For those who are unaware, I just want to point out that these examples illustrate the differences between male and female perspective on dating. Men might have strong preferences but women are more likely to have strict requirements for measurable standards such as height.

Some other examples:

"do you like thick girls?"

"Do you like girls with small boobs?"