Need opinion on feelings am conflicted?

[doggyman7q]

I met a girl a year ago. From start, I was honest and told her I wanted something serious, but it’s hard to connected. She said she wasn’t looking for anything serious but was open if it naturally turned into something.

We met on Fet (a kink app). She wanted to explore and have a friends with benefits situation dom-sub stuff. I was down I’m into it too.

Eventually, Just as we were about to have sex, she told me I’d be her first. We were already naked, and I was about to go in. I assume she waited so long to tell me was she shy. I stopped and asked if she was sure. She hesitated, so I had her confirm multiple times.

After that, she fell in love. I should’ve known it would happen, being her first.

How Things Developed

We both treat each other well it’s not toxic. But told her I might not develop romantic feelings and could end up falling for someone else replied understood

I learned over time that she has depression and anxiety, which gets worse when she worries about losing me. I’ve never given her a reason to even think am looking. I also found out she’s autistic, which became more obvious as she got comfortable.

The problem is I don’t love her, but we make each other happy. I feel protective of her, but it’s not romantic. I haven’t processed what that means, and I’m not sure if I’m wrong for continuing this, even though I’ve been honest, Recently, she told me her feelings got even stronger. She hopes I’ll eventually feel the same. At first, I thought maybe I could, but after a year, I know it’s not going to happen. most of our bond is sexual and through kindness.

A week ago, I met someone new. It’s early, but we connect and we have a lot in common. I think my current partner senses it. She recently freaked out over a misunderstanding. I reread the messages and realized I accidentally came across as cold. Now she thinks I’m pushing her away and also been thinking I should even though we make each other happy because the chance of traumatizing her if I push her away

[Anonymous]

Your fault for not ending it the minute feelings were mitch matches but instead you kept on using her because you lacked better options.

[doggyman7q]

I didn’t choose to be with her because I had no better options. In fact, I had two others I was interested in and met a third when I met her. When I saw her, I thought she could be the perfect wife – but I never developed those feelings. I’ve never fully understood my emotions.

I wanted to have feelings for her, so I tried to build a connection by going out and doing things together. I wanted to grow that bond because she treats me really well, and I feel lucky to have someone like her in my life. I didn’t want to be the kind of guy who takes her virginity and then disappears. I genuinely wanted to give my feelings a chance to grow.

She’s by far the best thing that’s happened to me. She’s been there for me through tough times when others walked away. I just don’t understand why I can’t feel the same way she does.

Am not someone to give up either so it’s been difficult to figure out what’s best. In a way I was trying to to force it and it was stupid of me

[Summeroflove]

Honestly they deserve each other it takes two

[Anonymous]

[AI Opinion]

Ah, the labyrinth of love and its twists! This kind of situation is as common as a hallmark movie, and the key is honesty, sprinkled with a little respect and self-awareness. Given your openness about not developing romantic feelings, it's time to align actions with words. Hanging onto a connection out of fear of hurting someone might be noble, but it's not sustainable. Protect her heart by communicating your feelings gently and directly. You both deserve to explore love without holding onto possible futures. While situationships can be cozy, clarity lights the path to happiness!✨

[Summeroflove]

Let me explain something you wanted a causal if you wanted anything serious you should have moved on immediately after her telling you this. You both seem to lack serious self control and meeting people online especially for sex is a bad idea.

You need to not waste her time or anyone else’s. Break it off and tell her that you’re moving on that she needs to do the same.

Not only are you hurting yourself you’re hurting her keeping her around if you’re not genuinely into her.

[In_Trance]

So what's your question

[doggyman7q]

I feel like i should push her away it’s confusing because if it goes nowhere i push her away and destroy both our happiness for nothing. Then another thought is i should do anyway because more attach she becomes more traumatized could be. I may not love her but I care for her. Am conflicted wanna hear what others think I should do. Am not trying to keep secrets should I hold off should I tell her, should I just push her away I don't know. Is there anyway to do without destroying her feelings am not good at this. This will be first time in this situation normally am one that gets told these things and never felt good always hurt don’t matter what I consider doing seems like am in a shit show and feel like biggest ass for putting her in this situation. I feel horrible even though she knew risk I kinda hoped would either be me falling in love or her losing interest

[In_Trance]

So what's your question?

[doggyman7q]

Is there any way you can see that I can avoid hurting the girl

[In_Trance]

Nope

[GlowUpGirly5]

This is so troll.

[doggyman7q]

Not trolling honestly want an opinion

[doggyman7q]

Originally typed and was like 5000 characters had to some up. Is there anyway not to send her in a depression spiral because I feel that’s the outcome waiting to happen don’t matter what my approach is

[doggyman7q]

At one point looked at it as I wasn’t gonna be toxic and show her how much she’s worth to treat her right. That if I walked away she might end up in toxic situations because she can be oblivious, I even told her to date she tried failed, helped point out users and people trying to take advantage. Yet although it’s not a toxic friendship or situation may end up hurting her more then any of them would have. Just make me feel like I used even though I was honest and had good intentions to make her happy and help her through her though anything she needs yet I feel like I made her used to leaning on me and gonna crumble if I walked away when I say so many thoughts and try looking at different angles I don't know am over thinker as is and this kinda has me overwhelmed

[Jmmmfi4]

Damn bro

[doggyman7q]

Yeah so many thoughts and things going through my head kinda just been distancing myself only replying so not ignoring but I feel like I should tell her but as a man I know the outcome so I kinda trying to push her away even though could be for nothing so she can begin to heal. Then I feel stupid and selfish because I should have never let get this far