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You have this guy friend you've known for ten years. He likes you- he's asked you on dates before but you've always said "no" because you don't want a relationship. But you're close. He comforts you when you struggle- most recently with the loss of a family member, flying to a different state to care for your nephews. You talk and hang out often, sometimes at each others' places. He is always there for you and stops whatever he's doing to help you. He recently bought a house and took a management position at a major company. Your mom likes him. You feel safe around him and trust him with your life.

He recently started dating a girl. He's even introduced you to her. You immediately become jealous and insecure. You call and text your "friend" more often, telling him you "think of him". You buy him things that you know he likes. You drop subtle criticisms about his girlfriend. You invite him over for dinner one evening. He feels something is "off" but you say everything is "fine". Your conversations seem normal and casual. He continues talking about his girlfriend and being excited to meet her family. You're confused. You don't know if you really love him or not.

You can't take it anymore and decide to ghost him. Cold turkey. No contact. Your friend is obviously confused and worried. After a month of ignoring him, he comes to your apartment door. He knocks but you don't answer. It's pouring rain outside. He has keys to your place but he doesn't come inside. He sits down with his back against the door and begins talking as if you're there. He says he loves you; that he always has. He observes you're hurting and he says he's a bad friend for hurting you, but he doesn't know why. He says he will walk out of your life if means you'll be happier, but he at least wanted to say goodbye. He stops talking. You...

Came across this woman while looking at one of Kevin Samuel's video. Listed below was her comment for the video.

"I have a high value man and I just listen and do everything I can for him. He takes care of me and my daughters better than their father ever did. I am 37 and he helps me with everything so I will do all in my power to show my appreciation. I never called in to Kevin's show to ask any questions. I grew up with my man and him taking in me and my children was a blessing."

My initial thinking was this.

If you grew up with the man who is now your husband and knew him since childhood, why is it you ended up having kids with another man instead of just marrying this guy and having his biological children.

So I asked her this and her reply back to me was this.

"because I wasn't around him daily. We lived in two different cities that were close but still far enough to only see him summers at the Boys and Girls Club we attended. He wasn't the only guy in the city (lol). I also grew up with My Ex Husband (my daughters father). We're all the same age. I was able to spend more time with my daughters father because he was more assertive and went after me.

My husband now was a bit more shy and was also dating someone else. He wasn't my type He was just a nice friend. His relationship didn't work and my marriage ended. We remained friends and hung out on dates. He was always a gentlemen. One day we had too many drinks and now we've been married 7 years. He said he always knew I was supposed to be his wife. We still to this day are friends first."

Now let's say you were this guy in this exact situation with a 37 year old woman with a little girl that is not biologically yours. Your wife appreciates and loves you but you still have to see her ex-husband from time to time when he comes to visit the kids. Would you be ok being in a relationship like this?