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For context, me (20) and her (19)

So I've know this girl for 4 years. 4 years I've liked her. She told me she used to kiss guys while she was in a relationship. This was when she was 14-15.

But when I met her she was dating this guy. 4 years later.
Me and her stopped talking for 6 months.

After those 6 months, we meet up and she told me she broke up with her boyfriend. Again she dated for 4 years. Apparently she cheated on him. That's what she told me.

That same day i slept with her. And it was nice. And she is genuinly caring, basically want u want from a girl. But she cheats!!
And I don't know what to do. She also took my virginity away. She was my first everything. Really... Everything. And im happy it was her. Cuz like i said she is really like perfect girlfriend material, minus the cheating.

I feel so stupid, why do I still like her? Even if me and her start dating, she will probably cheat again, I don't know.

Also im not interested in sex buddies. Just not my style xd.

Black male's experience in college

" Back in college I’ve seen the sexiest Asians just throw themselves heavily at white guys. It was a surreal experience to say the least. I thought I had some sort of favoritism being an exotic, good looking black guy.

I never dated at all in high school, so had no idea what to expect in freshmen year, but I remember the first girls I ever talked to were Asian & they wanted nothing to do with me. I had a white girl that I befriended and at my first big social circle, she was my wing women & everything she told me to say seemed really good. I had no idea how to interact with women myself but the Asian girls still seemed just… indifferent, like they had no reaction to me & it wasn’t fun. Everyone else I encountered freshmen year was extremely social & fun to talk to.

It was probably because they knew I was talking to them with romantic intent & didn’t want to lead me on or had no interest. Then I asked a close white friend and he told me that Asian girls don’t like black guys, they are obsessed with whites, don’t take it personally. Some time later next semester, I got semi close to an Asian girl whose a friend of my best friend.

When we all hung out, she talks about the little things her boyfriend does that she doesn’t like but she gets very gushing about him anyway. Fast forward to sophomore second semester we were all hanging out in the student game room… she reads her phone text & begins crying & runs to the bathroom. My friend and I share a concerned face. Never knew what happened but I thought that this boyfriend must be a real catch. Until I saw his pictures and he was a very chubby, very average or a bit below average white guy. This girl was a 5ft Asian girl with perfect features everywhere, and had a very bubbly, love-able personality. Fast forward 2 years later, they break up. It’s revealed the dude she gave so much love to saw her as a fetish to release all his desires upon."

I keep seeing post after post here of women complaining about men using coffee dates as 'interviews' before the real first date with all the bells and whistles. Why?

An after-work, weekday cup of coffee that only lasts a half hour or so is the perfect way to have a lowkey meetup where both people can ask each other the basic questions and gauge each other in a calm place is a great way to know if you want to really make the effort to spend crazy money and spend all night running around a city with someone.

I'd really like to know why women are so much more bothered by this than men.

My own standards are to date someone who is on par with me more or less. I’m not perfect. Not a saint. I’ve been told I’m attractive but I know I’m no young Brad Pitt. However I am independent, got a good job, in good health, have a very interesting past and some fun hobbies.

There was only one time in my life I found a woman who was truly on par with me. It tragically didn’t work out because she met me at a bad time in my life. There was also one time I swung for the fences in college and went after a girl who was “out of my league.” She actually approached me first but I had zero game back then and screwed it all up.

But anyway virtually all the women I’ve met who were really into me in last few years weren’t exactly on par. However most of them were confident I would like them. I tried dating a girl who I saw potential in but she had very serious emotional issues (family abuse) that I wasn’t equipped to handle.

Anyway confidence is great. But why is it that women seem to daydream unrealistically about they are entitled to in dating vs. men?

A found a friend of mine the perfect guy. He’s nice and they look perfect for each other! She went on a date and said he was like a friend and there wasn’t chemistry. She’s old, what’s she being so fussy for.

FYI, our parents met for the first time at the wedding (arranged marriage). Look at this generation of girls.

So let’s say you’re talking to this possibly perfect person for you, good looking, personality and chemistry, etc.

You both go on a date and obviously it wasn’t planned but you hook up and it went really well, how would that effect the future between you two?