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I feel that it is a double edged sword. It sets the precedence and establishes a sexual relationship early, but at the same time it takes away from the chance of genuine longevity of a potential longterm relationship.
The latter chance you run the risk of running a potentially good match out of your life by not making a move to indicate interest, but you don't want to jump the gun and give the wrong idea either. It is a game of risk either way, it just depends on the parties involved and what they value.
Personally I feel sex on the first date only adds pressure and takes away from authenticity. Going in with no expectations is probably the best bet.
Everything in life is about balance, not more, not less. A woman who has sex on the first date sounds good theoretically but practically after the sex one wonders how many other times has this happened with her. And if she is willing to give up such an expensive asset so quickly, is it really that expensive? But on the flip side, if a woman holds out on sex then there are two things that can happen, when he finally gets it, he will leave out of anger or if he doesn't get it, he will leave out of disappointment.
To me, it would make me think he's only after sex and nothing serious. I mean come on: who sleeps with someone on a first date you barely know? It makes you seem desperate.
I can't speak for others, but I have to have an emotional and physical connection with someone before I sleep with them. That takes time.
Usually by the time we're officially dating, I'm at or near that level where I'd feel like, "Okay, I think I'm comfortable enough to sleep with him" because ideally that trust and established connection has been formed.
That doesn't happen on one date.
If they are "perfect" for you then being sexual with them or not wouldn't matter. No matter how quickly you have sex, get married, have kids, do or not do those things or whatever you decide to do as long as you do them together that person will always be your "perfect person". No act of sex on the first date will change either person's opinion if it's "fate".
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It is always a gamble no matter what.
To be perfectly honest, it would increase my interest in her. Not because she's easy or something, but because it shows me that she loves sex as much as I do, and that she's comfortable with herself.
Also, I would assume that she probably wasn't planning on having sex on a first date, as many girls don't, but either my appearance or personality has made her so horny that she changed her mind. Now, that's hot.
Having sex on the first date puts an end to any kind of long term future. Men take significantly longer than women do to get attached, so skipping to dessert ahead of establishing the relationship dinner leaves nothing to look forward to and no reason to keep putting work or resources into the relationship since he already got what he wanted out of the involvement and doesn’t know you or care about you enough to feel bad about you yet. Most men will start looking for the next snack elsewhere at that point. Don’t be a snack or skip to dessert!!!
I married my wife. We did that on our first date (although I somewhat made the initial move by jamming an emergency stop button on an elevator and kissing her). We already knew each other for a good time though and clicked a lot before we went on our first date. It wasn't like a blind date or online date. I ended up liking her even more after.
If it had progressed naturally to that point throughout the night, I can only see it as a positive, especially as it gets the issue of physical compatibility out of the way early before you've spent weeks or months getting attached to find you just don't work together in that regard. That being said, not an issue if it doesn't happen either and you just end up having a good date with hopefully more to come.
Depends on the person. My boyfriend and I did it our first date and we've been together for nearly 7 years so it's not exactly dooming to the relationship. Though we did discuss that it wasn't necessarily a mistake but did happen way too quickly so we made sure to get to know each other more and make sure this was something we both wanted to be serious before continuing
Depends on the person, the situation and etc
Some fuck on the first date and never talk again, others are married happily for years
THINK:
Attractiveness is made up of 2 parts:
1. Appearance (sexual attraction)
2. Personality (Personal attraction)
If you have SEX on the 1st date... That ALLEVIATES some of the sexual attraction in the short term and perhaps it will never be as high. Because #1 is just a biological force... It isn't like #2
Sex and relationships can be independent of each other.
I used to love a good one night stand, completely uninhibited sex, play out your fantasy bc you’ll never see them again.
My last one night stand was 8 years ago, I married the girl bc she ended up being amazing. We had sex as we got to know each other, turned out she was the one.
My one complaint about my wife is I can’t see her as a one night stand anymore. She’s my wife, so there’s a mental block that I can’t play out the dominant fantasies like before.
in 95% of cases, it will make it a short-term relationship
That would never happen.
But if it hypothetically did, I would be confused as hell. My emotions would be all over the place. I wouldn't be able to sort it out. I have a pretty good feeling that the relationship would be over within 24-48 hours.
It depends on many things. Sometimes that can really increase the probability that a relationship will go well and other times it will decrease the probability. I think that generally speaking having sex just a little bit later perhaps on the second or third date is a better thing.
It would probably ensure that there would be a second date.
. Well you could say the games are out of the way now let see how we get along in the real world instead of who fuck who
There would be less respect in the relationship. Personally I would see her as friends with benefits only in the longterm and would not commit
Your name made me laugh (genuine)... then the question made me laugh (contempt).
I don't think it makes a difference, if you wait or go immediately to the sheets in my opinion.
Would make me lose interest.
How many first dates has she had in the past? Doesn't look like somebody who has her values straight. Anyway, not for me.
if a woman gives up sex too early i may not want her that much.
i mean sex is really getting to know someone on one level but may but be on the right level. i sound old school but i wanna get to know her first.
Depends. If it were really awkward and it didn't seemed like we weren't very sexually compatible then it would have an affect.
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