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Pretty simply question, to which I sort of already sort of know the answer, but I'm more or less curious for people to elaborate in terms of the specifics as it relates to how they deal with height when in comes to online dating.

I'm a short guy, about 5'5 with shoes on. I'm a decent looking dude, and I've had a handful of girlfriends in my 30 or so years of life, but when it comes to online dating, I feel like my success is not at all in line with with the success I should be having in terms of my overall looks, career, profile quality, etc. It's especially interesting to use and pay for the apps like bumble and tinder that then allow you to directly see who finds you attractive. In my case, the only people liking my profile are people who I would consider to be 3/10 at best. when I know I'm at least a 7 and most of the girls I've dated have been around there as well. This has made me wonder if the reason for this is that in an online setting, people are simply filtering me out by height and the only people who are even seeing my profile are really unattractive people who are too desperate to even care who they are dating. They're just happy to get a date.

So if you're given the ability on the site, do you filter out height and where is your cut off if you do.

A first date is like a casting call or an audition. We have some ideas of what we are looking for and want to see if our potential partner has those qualities. So, ladies, when you are on a first date, which of these factors is first and foremost when you are sharing that meal or strolling and talking to a new guy? If your answer is not one of these options, please explain in the comments.

Is this a new trend that started in the last decade or so, am I wrong for thinking this or am I self projecting?

I just find it funny because a lot of people I've known with low self esteem have had shades of narcissism and a strange inferiority/superiority complex. Are they delusional and this is just how they cope by bouncing between two extremes?

I feel like I'm no exception to this, because I find myself on this pendulum swing between these two extremes at times depending on the situation and circumstances, but I'm able to dismantle this nonsense by objectively analyzing the situations.

I notice this a lot when it comes to dating where people who lack quality options (or any options at all) thinking they deserve some sort of perfect being, or those who demand loyalty and respect but simultaneously lack morals & ethics. I find it so hilariously asinine.

Some examples - undesirable/incel type of men demanding some sort of make believe traditional virgin woman/wife BUT they lack masculinity or desirable traits (like personality, strength, athleticism, overall attractiveness, and competency, etc.. )

And overly sexual & aggressive women who lack morals & ethics and anything else desirable/respectable from a partner, and they do shady hoe shit demanding men who look like professional athletes with CEO incomes.

I just find the lack of awareness funny & kind of sad, I don't know what could be done to find a balance (at least not in a generic advice sort of way because a lot of these problem require immense effort & soul searching that pertains to that particular individual even if the problems are fairly common & shared)