On dating apps, it makes sense for a guy of average or below height to slightly exaggerate his height

[Anonymous]

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I don't think a relationship should be started out with a lie, but I see this as getting the foot in the door. I personally would never have a problem being truthful because I like to meet girls in person anyways, but I feel like online girls set their filters, and I also believe that girls tend to be unaware of what a guy's actual height is even when seeing him in person. For shyer guys who find it hard to meet in person, online would be a good option, but if you're a short guy and truthful about it, I think you're limiting yourself. I'm not saying to say 6ft if you're 5'5 but I mean like saying 5'9 if you're 5'8, which is what a lot of professional athletes even do. She won't even be able to tell most of the time. I do think it's good to be honest about it rather quickly, and she won't make a fuss if she likes you. If she gets angry and calls you a liar, then oh well, tough luck, but most of the time, that won't happen. Am I right, ladies?

In person, I've had many girls tell me that I look taller. Girls tell me that they wouldn't date a guy a certain height, and I tell them how tall I am, and they change their minds. It's actually kinda hilarious.

Do you think that a girl who usually only dates 5'9 or taller is more likely to make an exception for a 9/10 online profile for a 5'8 guy or a 8/10 profile for a 5'9 guy?
Personally, I truly believe redeeming qualities can make up for height, but most girls will most likely not see these redeeming qualities unless he hits the height cutoff, and a lot of times, it's just the extra inch.

[Avicenna]

It's a terrible idea to lie about your height. If she's that picky about it, you've wasted your time and if she is at least a bit flexible, she will only be that if you're honest. You do more damage to yourself by being dishonest.

Think about this- what if a woman lied to you about whether she had kids? Would you just say, "it's not a problem" and carry on?

I'd focus on meeting women in person if I were you.

[myTake Owner]

This is not for me. Like I said I have no problem being completely truthful but for others it's not so easy. I believe an inch in height is a white lie and I really don't see the problem if this can help someone get a foot in the door. A woman having kids or not does not compare.

[boobliker]

BUT that's a LIE do you want a women to lie to you, Well then!!!

[myTake Owner]

It's a white lie and I really don't see the problem if this can help someone get a foot in the door

[boobliker]

it's still a lie!!!

[Loveydove]

I mean i don’t personally think you should lie even if it’s a white lie to get your foot in the door. Just find someone that will date you at any height inside or having to go through “i lied I’m actually 5 8 instead of 5’ 9 spiel”

[Screenwriter]

A RATIONAL person would not quibble over an inch difference in height whether it was visible in person or written on a profile. Don't fudge.

[Guy13]

If you do that you are wasting time and money...

[myTake Owner]

How are you wasting time or money?
Professional athletes literally change their height all the time to make them taller. The only reason I can think of is because it helps them to be seen as more valuable to teams especially in basketball. Being a pro vs. amateur is a huge difference in money.
Same as in dating. If you're seen as more valuable, you're not going to have to spend more money to get the girls. I don't know why making up a tiny lie is such a big deal to some people. I value honesty a lot, but I think there are times to say white lies to make a positive impact. I don't think lying should be the first resort, but if it's going to positively impact a person's life without hurting another, I think it's perfectly fine and the more moral thing to do. Imagine your closest family member is about to be murdered and you can't tell a small lie to save him/her. That would just be stupid.

[Guy13]

Mr. Insecurity is never attractive and women can sniff that out in a guy like German Shepherd tracking drugs.

[myTake Owner]

I agree with the insecurity thing but this situation is not talking about insecurity... it's just a way to get a foot in the door like a sales strategy. You gotta sell yourself but you don't even have the chance because of an inch difference. Why do 5'10 basketball players claim to be 6'? This definitely has nothing to do with thinking they can't play basketball. If anything, it means they know they can play at the highest level if given the opportunity.

[Guy13]

Dude let it go. It’s foolishness and insecure vanity that is beyond description

[myTake Owner]

... ok