Height and weight isn't something I give much thought to, not even for myself. It's just one of those things I don't think much about, just not something I deem thought worthy I guess. Recently though, I've been thinking about it not because I care but because of something my Aunt told me about her grandson.
My aunt her youngest child (her son, my cousin), he has two sons and the oldest is 17 and he's already 6'3. Apparently, he doesn't like being tall and wishes he could be the same height as his friends. He even goes as far as to walk hunched over to appear shorter because he's uncomfortable being so tall. He's also convinced "girls don't like tall guys".
After my Aunt told me that, she then said "I guess we all want what we don't have" and I suppose that's true in some cases. All of that got me thinking though about height and how much like age, it's really just a number.
Sure, are age changes every year but it's not who we are as a person, it's just how old we are but it doesn't define us. Same goes for height, it's just a number but doesn't define who we are as a person. It's just a number So, instead of looking at height as this really great or really bad thing, we should just see it for what it is, two numbers with an apostrophe in between the two numbers.
I understand, society makes a big deal about height which causes those who may lack in height to become self conscious, but I personally think people put too much merit on this and other things that really in the grander scheme are irrelevant. When it comes to being interested in someone, their height shouldn't be a factor because all the reasons that women supposedly like tall guys (in my book) aren't valid ones.
For example: some girls like tall guys because they can wear high heels. I mean, call me crazy but doesn't that seem like a really dumb reason to like someone?
It's like dude! Would you really want a girl who only likes you because you were tall enough for her to wear high heels around?
Another example is: girls say they like tall guys because they make them feel safe. However, doesn't it seem odd that they assume tallness equals physical safety? Being tall doesn't automatically make you tough, it just makes you tall. Toughness and height aren't mutually exclusive. One has nothing to do with the other and has no actual bearing on a woman's physically safety, she just believe' s it does.
So, would you really want a girl who thinks you can automatically protect her because your tall and then if you don't or can't, she freaks out on you? Would you really want that pressure?
Most importantly, why would any guy simply want to be with a girl who's ONLY with them because they are tall? Doesn't that seem wrong? Your height or lack there of, is or isn't a reason to be with someone. How they treat you, who they are, what's in their heart and soul, should be the reason not height.
So, guys next time you feel down about your height, just remember it's just a number and not a clear representative of who you are as person or a man. It's simply just two digits with an apostrophe. That's all it is though.
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Don't forget, boys and girls, about the downside of being really tall:
You die earlier.
... A LOT earlier.
On average, men's life expectancy is about half a year lower for every centimeter of extra height, over about 165 cm.
In terms of American units -- Starting from about 5'5" or so, guys lose about 1.4 years of life expectancy for every extra inch of height.
Yep... The average 6'5" guy will DIE FIFTEEN YEARS EARLIER than the average 5'5" guy.
Tall people's cardiovascular systems just can't take the load as they get older (it's physically harder to pump blood up all the way to their brains -- magnifying the risk of heart attack and stroke).
Tall people are also at MUCH greater risk for almost every common variant of cancer.
I know this all too painfully myself -- I'm about 6'2", which means my risk of getting breast cancer is almost *twice* as high as it is for my five-foot-tall girlfriends. I am also at much greater risk for 10 other kinds of cancer, too. And so are all those tall guys.
Shit just got real...
You sure you care that much about height, girls?
While you're at it... mb you could look for a boy who's both really tall AND way older than you. Y'know, just in case you've always wanted to spend the last 20-30 years of yr life alone.
Careful what you wish for, you might get it...
1. It's not black and white, there may be links, research may be able to suggest things. But don't talk as if it's solid fact. There will always be outliers. Same applies to dogs, usually you'd say bigger dogs don't live as long for the same cardiovascular issues, however wolves can live up to 20 years in captivity - almost double that of a lot of domestic dogs. Where's the cardiovascular issue there then? It just vanishes does it?
2. I'd rather be tall and happy with myself and live to 70 than live my whole life having to look up to people and being insecure and have the reward of enduring that for an additional 20 years, except this time have the remaining 20 years being not only short, but frail and with arthritis as well.
If your goal is to live as long as possible and have the joy of experiencing the inevitable decline of your own physical and mental state for as long as possible, go right ahead.
1/ Nothing in science is ever "solid fact". BUT... when there are 66.5 shitloads of evidence all pointing in the same direction, and NO evidence pointing in the opposite direction... uhhm you know what that means.
2/ Luckily, I'm on board with you here — I don't much care about the years at the END of life, either.
In fact I'm prl even more extreme: Honestly, I'm still struggling to think that life will be worth living after menopause finishes ravaging me. ugghhhh. La la la la la ::fingers in ears:: it just ain't gna happen...
I usually love your takes, but I have to call you out on this one. There's zero credible research that demonstrates any link between height and mortality. Most of the "research" into this is selective data-mining garbage that does not control for any confounding effects. Besides, you're citing stats on pro football players, which is akin to citing mortality stats on combat soldiers in WWI.
@HikerDude The second study involved baseball players, not football players.
If you think about it, it's common sense that they would have to use professional athletes of some sort for any historical study — since the data aren't available for anyone else. (Does YOUR health insurance company know yr height? Of course not. Does YOUR government know yr height, other than the self-reported number on yr driver's license, which can actually say anything you want it to? Hash tag nope again.)
On top of that, ironically, the restriction to a particular class of athletes actually makes this a BETTER study, because all kinds of lifestyle variables are heavily controlled (IE it becomes much less likely that there will be significant differences in **other** relevant variables such as diet, drug use, etc).
Yr soldier analogy is irrelevant. That would be a valid objection only if someone were talking about how tall athletes had earlier mortality than shorter RANDOMS from the GENERAL POPULATION —
which exactly no one is doing here. (If tall soldiers had significantly shorter lives than short ones, then — absent some more obvious explanation, like, if they fought in trenches with shots being taken at their heads — then THAT, too, would be VERY strong evidence here.)
In any case, these studies are both from pubmed; I doubt you're gna tell me that's "not a credible source". I've got the originals (from which the graphics were taken) bookmarked somewhere; I could probably find 'em if you want.
The connection between CANCER and height, in particular, is absolutely beyond argument at this point. That's been shown to be true in literally 100.0000 percent of properly designed studies.
In fact, that is so well-known that, at my first mammogram, my mammo tech was SHOCKED that I didn't know (since as a 6'2" woman, I'm basically a walking cancer time bomb).