Food for Thought: For Guys Who Don't Like Their Height and Wish to be Taller

[loveisbeautiful]

Height and weight isn't something I give much thought to, not even for myself. It's just one of those things I don't think much about, just not something I deem thought worthy I guess. Recently though, I've been thinking about it not because I care but because of something my Aunt told me about her grandson.

My aunt her youngest child (her son, my cousin), he has two sons and the oldest is 17 and he's already 6'3. Apparently, he doesn't like being tall and wishes he could be the same height as his friends. He even goes as far as to walk hunched over to appear shorter because he's uncomfortable being so tall. He's also convinced "girls don't like tall guys".

After my Aunt told me that, she then said "I guess we all want what we don't have" and I suppose that's true in some cases. All of that got me thinking though about height and how much like age, it's really just a number.

Sure, are age changes every year but it's not who we are as a person, it's just how old we are but it doesn't define us. Same goes for height, it's just a number but doesn't define who we are as a person. It's just a number So, instead of looking at height as this really great or really bad thing, we should just see it for what it is, two numbers with an apostrophe in between the two numbers.

I understand, society makes a big deal about height which causes those who may lack in height to become self conscious, but I personally think people put too much merit on this and other things that really in the grander scheme are irrelevant. When it comes to being interested in someone, their height shouldn't be a factor because all the reasons that women supposedly like tall guys (in my book) aren't valid ones.

For example: some girls like tall guys because they can wear high heels. I mean, call me crazy but doesn't that seem like a really dumb reason to like someone?

It's like dude! Would you really want a girl who only likes you because you were tall enough for her to wear high heels around?

Another example is: girls say they like tall guys because they make them feel safe. However, doesn't it seem odd that they assume tallness equals physical safety? Being tall doesn't automatically make you tough, it just makes you tall. Toughness and height aren't mutually exclusive. One has nothing to do with the other and has no actual bearing on a woman's physically safety, she just believe' s it does.

So, would you really want a girl who thinks you can automatically protect her because your tall and then if you don't or can't, she freaks out on you? Would you really want that pressure?

Most importantly, why would any guy simply want to be with a girl who's ONLY with them because they are tall? Doesn't that seem wrong? Your height or lack there of, is or isn't a reason to be with someone. How they treat you, who they are, what's in their heart and soul, should be the reason not height.

So, guys next time you feel down about your height, just remember it's just a number and not a clear representative of who you are as person or a man. It's simply just two digits with an apostrophe. That's all it is though.

#HeightIsJustANumber #It'sNoBigDeal

[redeyemindtricks]

Don't forget, boys and girls, about the downside of being really tall:
You die earlier.

... A LOT earlier.

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On average, men's life expectancy is about half a year lower for every centimeter of extra height, over about 165 cm.

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In terms of American units -- Starting from about 5'5" or so, guys lose about 1.4 years of life expectancy for every extra inch of height.
Yep... The average 6'5" guy will DIE FIFTEEN YEARS EARLIER than the average 5'5" guy.

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Tall people's cardiovascular systems just can't take the load as they get older (it's physically harder to pump blood up all the way to their brains -- magnifying the risk of heart attack and stroke).

Tall people are also at MUCH greater risk for almost every common variant of cancer.
I know this all too painfully myself -- I'm about 6'2", which means my risk of getting breast cancer is almost *twice* as high as it is for my five-foot-tall girlfriends. I am also at much greater risk for 10 other kinds of cancer, too. And so are all those tall guys.
https://www.BBC.com/news/health-14220382

Shit just got real...

You sure you care that much about height, girls?

You SURE?

While you're at it... mb you could look for a boy who's both really tall AND way older than you. Y'know, just in case you've always wanted to spend the last 20-30 years of yr life alone.

Careful what you wish for, you might get it...

[Kkaos]

1. It's not black and white, there may be links, research may be able to suggest things. But don't talk as if it's solid fact. There will always be outliers. Same applies to dogs, usually you'd say bigger dogs don't live as long for the same cardiovascular issues, however wolves can live up to 20 years in captivity - almost double that of a lot of domestic dogs. Where's the cardiovascular issue there then? It just vanishes does it?

2. I'd rather be tall and happy with myself and live to 70 than live my whole life having to look up to people and being insecure and have the reward of enduring that for an additional 20 years, except this time have the remaining 20 years being not only short, but frail and with arthritis as well.

If your goal is to live as long as possible and have the joy of experiencing the inevitable decline of your own physical and mental state for as long as possible, go right ahead.

[redeyemindtricks]

@Kkaos

1/ Nothing in science is ever "solid fact". BUT... when there are 66.5 shitloads of evidence all pointing in the same direction, and NO evidence pointing in the opposite direction... uhhm you know what that means.

2/ Luckily, I'm on board with you here — I don't much care about the years at the END of life, either.
In fact I'm prl even more extreme: Honestly, I'm still struggling to think that life will be worth living after menopause finishes ravaging me. ugghhhh. La la la la la ::fingers in ears:: it just ain't gna happen...

[HikerDude]

I usually love your takes, but I have to call you out on this one. There's zero credible research that demonstrates any link between height and mortality. Most of the "research" into this is selective data-mining garbage that does not control for any confounding effects. Besides, you're citing stats on pro football players, which is akin to citing mortality stats on combat soldiers in WWI.

[redeyemindtricks]

@HikerDude The second study involved baseball players, not football players.
If you think about it, it's common sense that they would have to use professional athletes of some sort for any historical study — since the data aren't available for anyone else. (Does YOUR health insurance company know yr height? Of course not. Does YOUR government know yr height, other than the self-reported number on yr driver's license, which can actually say anything you want it to? Hash tag nope again.)

On top of that, ironically, the restriction to a particular class of athletes actually makes this a BETTER study, because all kinds of lifestyle variables are heavily controlled (IE it becomes much less likely that there will be significant differences in **other** relevant variables such as diet, drug use, etc).

Yr soldier analogy is irrelevant. That would be a valid objection only if someone were talking about how tall athletes had earlier mortality than shorter RANDOMS from the GENERAL POPULATION —

[redeyemindtricks]

which exactly no one is doing here. (If tall soldiers had significantly shorter lives than short ones, then — absent some more obvious explanation, like, if they fought in trenches with shots being taken at their heads — then THAT, too, would be VERY strong evidence here.)

In any case, these studies are both from pubmed; I doubt you're gna tell me that's "not a credible source". I've got the originals (from which the graphics were taken) bookmarked somewhere; I could probably find 'em if you want.

The connection between CANCER and height, in particular, is absolutely beyond argument at this point. That's been shown to be true in literally 100.0000 percent of properly designed studies.
In fact, that is so well-known that, at my first mammogram, my mammo tech was SHOCKED that I didn't know (since as a 6'2" woman, I'm basically a walking cancer time bomb).

[disgustingweebtrash]

"I want a tall guy so I can wear heels."

Gee, and they call men shallow? That's pretty fucked to want to date a tall guy just so you can wear sticks on the back of your shoes.

[OlderAndWiser]

I have had a woman online reject solely - as she admitted - for the reason that she was 1" taller than me. That was extremely frustrating as I really thought she and I would be a good match. I'm 5'9" and the girl I am dating now is 5'8". So if she wears heels, she is taller than me, and if it looks like either of us GAF about that. . . it is an optical illusion!

[disgustingweebtrash]

@OlderAndWiser I forgot about this opinion, i'm quite surprised to see so many upvotes for it (the downvote is probably the asker!)

There are certainly girls out there that don't care about height, girls like that are blessings, and if they don't bother with heels, even better :D

[loveisbeautiful]

I didn't down vote anyone, why would I do that?

[Tomblebee]

Why did bowler hats go out? Solution.

[LittleLily]

I hate people that downvote comments but don't have the balls to actually put their own opinion across as to why they disagreed and/or downvoted. Pussies.

Also, people like that aren't worth dating, so it's best that you get shut down before it gets serious. I've had guys shut me down because I wasn't skinny enough, or they had a thing for small boobs. Men who turn women down for the size of their tits or ass are assholes, and women who turn down men for their height are even worse. Your height is just about the ONLY thing you can't change about yourself.

I've dated guys shorter than me without a care in the world.

[UnknownXYZ]

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I cringe when females say they have a height "preference" when really mean height "requirement".

"Most importantly, why would any guy simply want to be with a girl who's ONLY with them because they are tall?"

Thinks no female ever. I doubt the majority of females who have preferences for tall males only choose males on the basis of their height. What you wrote was an exaggeration.

"So, guys next time you feel down about your height, just remember it's just a number and not a clear representative of who you are as person or a man. It's simply just two digits with an apostrophe. That's all it is though."

Yeah... It's not.

Firstly, I am pretty sure a lot of females would make great dating prospects if they got past the height issue, I think it is very naive to say that females suck if they reject a male based on his height. Afterall, we all have our dealbreakers like many males can't get past a female who is physically ugly. That's just life.

Secondly, being a short male cuts off (especially in the west) cuts off at least 85% of females in his age range. Let's not forget that a male typically has to approach and court females. The remaining 15% of females who don't care for height aren't going to magically fall on his lap. It also doesn't mean that just because the female doesn't care for height means he is guaranteed to date her. This goes with a 6'2" males as well; not all females who want a 6'2" male is going to accept him. Finding doors you can go through will be way harder for the short male as opposed to the tall male.

I would have respected this myTake a lot more if you were being a bit more realistic if the message was more towards the idea of "Yes, you're short. Deal with it." This is because is you are not sugar coating the harsh reality.

The remaining last thing I want to to say is that I appreciate that you are critical of the poor and superficial reasoning behind why a lot females care so much for height. I do think a lot of males short just get over the height thing and stop being so negative and bitter about it. No female, who doesn't care about height, will want date someone insecure about their height anyway.

I do agree height is very superficial and I really question those who are quick to *just* say "I am just attracted to tall guys. I can't help who I am attracted to." It's such a cop-out. Attraction is more nuanced than that...

[BrittBratt2416]

I cringe when men say they have a weight/race preference when its really a requirement lol To fat? NEXT! To Dark? NEXT!

[UnknownXYZ]

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@BrittBratt2416 That annoys me too.

[Bananaman177]

Clearly you have no fucking idea how visceral the hatred is for short men, and that it's not just "all in their heads."

Look at these:
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[Bananaman177]

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[OfDeath]

It's true. Being tall is not seen a a problem. Being short is.
Tall dudes who don't like their height just have delusions.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Part of the reason why I don't do most social media (Twitter, Facebook, etc). If a gal has an issue with my height, she's not for me.

Too bad I can't both up and down vote this

[loveisbeautiful]

I never said it was just in a guys head.

[Bananaman177]

Well, I thought your "helpful" advice was very glib, flippant, and dismissive.

You go read through those selected comments I posted and substitute "short" for "Black" or "Jewish" and you can get a clear picture of the kind of hate and RAGE that guys are subjected to all because of a number they can't control.

Those short men are sons, brothers, uncles, fathers, and friends. And because of genetics, they get treated worse than pedophiles by the majority of women. And I don't think that needs to be addressed by telling short guys to "buck up."

Maybe more like charging some of these women with hate speech and inciting violence when they post comments like that all over social media. Like I said, if they were saying the same thing about black men, everybody would be up in arms. But you have millions of women online say, "All short men should be killed! Yuck! So gross!" And nobody bats an eye.

Pretty fucking disgusting in my opinion. Unlike height, being a fucking evil cunt IS a choice.

[nbbn5]

so much hate against shorter guys on the internet its so bad , all the screenshots were surprising

[loveisbeautiful]

I wasn't being mean, I was just trying to give them another way to look at things so they don't feel bad about something that shouldn't matter to people. I have nothing against short guys, half the guys in my family are average height or a little shorter than average but that doesn't matter to me. There's only two people on each side of my family that is super tall and that's my cousins 17yr old son on my dad's side of the family and my cousin on my mom's side of the family. That's it. I would never be mean to anyone especially over something as irrelevant as height in the grander scheme as I said (to me) it's just a number but not something that defines a person. Who they are and how they treat people is more important.

[OfDeath]

But I bet you probably wouldn't date a short dude and you don't find him attractive

[loveisbeautiful]

@OfDeath not true. I once liked a guy who was 5'4 and I'm 5'6. I also liked a guy who looked to be around my height. Most guys I like are of average height, no taller than 6'0 and that's not even why I like the person.

[Bananaman177]

I didn't say you were being mean. You sound very nice.

I said you were being glib, flippant, and dismissive.

Kind of like when somebody tells all black people, "Oh, who cares about the N-word? 'Sticks and stones can break my bones but words can never hurt me!'" Or telling your Jewish neighbor, "Ahh, let the Neo-Nazis march in the parade, the holocaust was like a hundred years ago, Shlomo!"

I don't see any difference between hating somebody for their height and hating them for their skin color, or hating everybody with blue eyes...

And it's great that you don't despise short men, but MOST WOMEN DO. And that is the problem that needs to be addressed, not short guys' self-confidence issues.

Address THIS:
http://www.cbsnews.com/news/height-and-suicide/

You might have a short son, do you want him to kill himself in his closet for his younger sister to find?
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=TbLl7S10rCA

[loveisbeautiful]

No, of course not. I don't think anybody would want that. I would never dismiss how mean people can be, I know first hand from being bullied for three years in middle school and not for any specific reason, just for the simple fact that I existed. So, I would never be flippant or glib about the mean things that people say to people who don't fit the societal norm. That's why I wrote this because, I know first hand you can't change other people, you can try but if they think they're in the right, their opinion will never change. All you can do is make yourself happy and try to see past those people and focus what you have going for you and all the people that aren't huge jack asses. You know what I mean?

[Bananaman177]

Yeah, I got bullied for 3 years in middle school too, along with every year of Elementary and High school and yep, even College. Been bullied by co-workers as an adult as well.

Sorry to hear you didn't like the small taste you got of what some people can never escape.

But now you know why the suicide rate for males increases measurably by height, in fact you can measure the rate of increase by the inch. Every two inches below six feet, that's an 8% uptick in likelihood of suicide for males.

And what's funny about that is the fact that only 12% of all humans on Earth stand six feet tall or higher. Men and women combined. Kinda funny when 88% of all men are considered below average, but we can see from data collected by dating sites that that is EXACTLY the metric that women use:

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[loveisbeautiful]

That's sad.

[btbc92]

True. But remember it's about genetics as well. I'm not attracted to tall guys romantically, and I'm 5'3. I have back issues and so forth. I would feel like a child. My parents are and an odd couple. My dad being my height and my mom on the tall side. The thing is they always loved the opposite of what their height was. And this is okay. Think about how it can and will impact romance as well. Will that person feel comfortable to bend down but so short or up so tall and cause difficulty? Lose immediate attraction? These things are of course something to think about reasonably. However, confidence is key. Just find somebody who loves your height genuinely and sincerely. However, I have always seen couples who are around 2 inches to 4 the most comfortably as partners. As long as that person isn't doing that unreasonably to hurt you, I say that people should just be more respectful of other's decisions. If they regret it later, then it's not your fault.

[whyisitnotworking]

You don't want tall men? Interesting. Why?

[btbc92]

@whyisitnotworking

I think I made it very clear that I am 5'3. Tall men intimidate me, I don't get immediately attracted to them. I would be like a child compared to somebody like that. Somebody between 2-3 inches tall is 'safe' for me, if I was interested in dating again. Other than that, me having back and health issues, it just wouldn't work. I wouldn't feel comfortable. I'm not trying to be mean, but I refuse to pretend either. Looks overall shouldn't have to matter. But that is a romance killer for me.

[whyisitnotworking]

Just 2-3 inches taller would make you feel safe around a man? I guess mostly even Women would be around 4-6 inches taller than you... So this 2-3 inches taller ma would practically be smaller or around same height of the other ladies. He will Still be manly and make you feel safer around taller women and way taller men?

[btbc92]

@whyisitnotworking It's not about being manly. I just wanted somebody I can see as an equal, and being around the same height is more effective for most people. Many girls just say they want a tall guy because of what they see on TV, the media, and envying other girls. It's not realistic. They're young. When they get older non of that is not going to matter because either they learn the hard way, or they will have no choice. Because these guys these days are going after younger girls and we're just going to keep getting older.

[btbc92]

And besides, being that tall like I said is a romance killer. I don't think I would want to commit to somebody I can't see wanting to be intimate with in marriage, as that is the only place I would have sex in as it should be. However, since many men that I attract are often secular men, I'm celibate. So it doesn't matter to me anymore. I'm not dating in this life. So they are free to be with other women.

[whyisitnotworking]

5'3 is at least a decent Height for a woman. Do you are fine. But you seriously want and are attracted to men who are merely 5'5-5'6?
That's TOO short for a male. And not many men are that Height anyway. Ever had such small men?
And whenever you wear heels then you would tower over him. Isn't it?
Plus he would be smaller than most women even smaller than your Female friends, won't you feel ahsamed and embarrassed about your small man?

[btbc92]

@whyisitnotworking

Too short for you but somewhat perfect for me. That's 3 inches taller. I'm fine with that. I don't wear high heels. I hate them. I wear flats or at least one inch. And why would I be ashamed or embarrassed? If I like him, I like him. He's dealing with me, not other girls. I can careless what other people say or think about his stature. They're not the ones dating him if that's the case. That is how much I'm willing to commit to that person if I say I love them and chose ONLY them! It's do or die. I just expect him to feel and treat me the same way. That is real love. Not that fake pathetic crap people do today. Plus an inch for me would make my 5'4. So how would I tower over him?

[btbc92]

Again, I never dated. So I never had anybody. But there are a lot of small guys depending on where you go.

[whyisitnotworking]

An Inch heels is nothing. Even his shoes would have an Inch long heel so even he would be around 5'6-5'7 in shoes. What back issues do you have?
Generally 95% ladies want a guy that lot more taller than her. The taller the better and anything around 6' automatically makes him appealing to the women.
You know the women call anything less than or equal to 5'8 as short midget for a man? ?
I feel he would almost be at your eye-level. What's the manliness in it? What if HE is insecure about his height and very shy awkward embarrassed to be around your Female friends?

[btbc92]

@whyisitnotworking Well, I'm not other women. If he is so concerned about how they think then he is not the type of person for me. I don't care about the 95% that do. They're decisions doesn't influence me. He wouldn't be at eye level because again, I'm small, petite and short as is. I'm no where near average height. 5'5 or 5'6 is taller than me. Believe me. My grandma is that height and I can still look up to her. So I don't care if 6+ is appealing to other women. I'm not like other woman. If he can't learn to trust and believe in me, then he needs to just be on his own then. I'm not giving up my life to somebody that insecure. I already have my own problems. I have costochondris and that affects my upper body and back due to inflammation. That's another reason why I'm not dating because I'm not healthy. I don't need the stresses of a relationship effect my health.

[btbc92]

Plus out of all of my close friends, I'm the tallest. All of my close female friends are shorter than 5'2. They are not shallow at all. I don't be friends with shallow and loose women that you see on TV like the 'it' or gossip girls. So he wouldn't have to worry about that. The shortest of my friends is 4'8.

[whyisitnotworking]

You have NEVER dated?
See even the females in your family are Taller than him if suppose he is only 5'5
:/
May I ask a thing, is hairy body esp torso a deal breaker as well?

[whyisitnotworking]

You are the tallest girl on your group of 5-8 girls?
Even 4'8 girl? Wow how tall do your Female friends like men?
Where are you from?
How tall are other girls other than your friends?

[btbc92]

@whyisitnotworking Okay whoa, Like I said. I'm celibate I have no interest in dating, marriage, etc anymore. Therefore what he has is none of my business as I'm not interested. I'm just speaking out of example. Overall, some of my friends are already dating, and like I said, their not shallow like other females. Most became Christian as they were once secular, we live in USA obviously, and for the one or two that is dating, their dating somebody who is around their height or a bit taller than me. One already have 2 kids with the guy. Another one got married last year. He's about 2 inches taller in height as me and she's about 5'1. I think, don't know the actually height, looks can be deceiving. But he's short too. And I can safely say he's around my height.

[btbc92]

@whyisitnotworking Not all females in my family are tall. The females on my dad's side are a little taller than me and are attracted to taller men. My dad is the only short one out of the family. So I don't see what the heck is wrong with the rest that act like 'woe is me' nonsense. If he can get 40+ women, father 2 children, get my late mother pregnant 4 times, and get married, I don't see what is other's problem besides not having confidence.

[whyisitnotworking]

your dad is 5 ft 4? while females in his family are taller than him , even his wife was lot more taller then him?
Females in his family say they dislike short men and ONLY like men around 6 feet? is it so?

[whyisitnotworking]

your 5ft 1 girl friend has a mere 5 ft 3 hubby! that is cute. lol
is he well built? as in powerful muscular enough to make her feel safe around him?

[whyisitnotworking]

Hey so?

[btbc92]

@whyisitnotworking No. He's not. But he's everything psychologically she ever needed in a spouse. Normally what you're talking about is her type. But he's not. But she very much loves him. See this is the key to successful relationships that others don't get.

[Bleh-___-]

When we say it makes us feel safe it doesn't mean we're expecting him to knock a burglar out lol. It means that him being larger in turn makes us feel smaller and safer in his embrace (god that sounds cheesy).
Anyway, the whole height standard issue doesn't matter to me. It's just another personal preference that we can't help but be attracted to. Some dudes are only attracted to girls with a large rack and some people are only attracted to certain races. Common theme here is they're all traits we can't control and we're all attracted to our own thing and that's fine. The problem arises when you make the entire relationship based on their physical appearance.

[PBGreat]

I am 5'11 and as a female it is already hard, in my opinion, because to the other females, if you want to where heels, they're like "You are already tall. Why do you need to wear heels?" So for me i like taller guys just because otherwise, i feel like a giant.
Not to discredit short guys or to say that short guys aren't desirable, because trust me they are. I have met many guys who are shorter than me and we get along really well. Its just if you are smaller than me i don't want to feel like i am intimidating you. Does that make sense?

[nbbn5]

i am asking this as i wanted to know from a tall girl what she consider tall :)
so what is tall for you?

[loveisbeautiful]

Yeah, it does.

[PBGreat]

@nbbn5 Tall for me is anything taller than me, so aproximately 6'2 or higher. But i don't find a problem with that :)

[nbbn5]

oh okay :)
thanks for the reply :)

[JailbaitGamerGirl]

WellI don't NEED a tall guy for heels. It's just a preference. like it has no actually merit in whether or not I'll date a guy, but it's a nice bonus. Like if I had two guys who were exactly identical in every single way except for one was 6'2 while the other was 5'10, I'd choose 6'2. Because I'm almost 5'8, and I like wearing 4-5inch heals. If they weren't identical, and there was one small personality difference in the 5'10 or even if he was 5'5 guy, then I'd pick him. JUST A BONUS! It doesn't really mean much. Though I don't think I'd go for a guy way shorter, just because I'd think he'd feel uncomfortable with a girl walking around in shoes making her like 6'0. Tho if he's cool I'm cool.

[AlwaysBelieving]

Not sure whether to up or down vote.

[JailbaitGamerGirl]

@AlwaysBelieving Uh, why would you downvote? I was saying that not all girls aren't so shallow as to use height as a relationship factor.

[backtoblackkkk]

I agree with you on some points. I feel like guys worry way too much about height when most girls just want a guy who is at least a little taller than them. It's even more of a turn-off when a guy is so insecure about his height when there are plenty of shorter, pretty girls walking around! However, I believe liking height is natural and can add to physical attractiveness. An attractive guy will no doubt look better at 6'2 than at 5'6. Height doesn't imply strength and it doesn't guarantee successful dating either, but it definitely signifies status. Taller men tend to make higher salaries and be more successful financially.

[Blake0048]

They like height. Period... all of them do. They are also more shallow about height than they are anything else... which is the reason the OP posted this. None of that is going to help any short guy feel better. "Do you really want a girl who just wants you for your height and do you really want to be pressured into protecting her physically?" Womem don't date tall men SOLEY for theor height so saying that makes zero sense and doesn't negate the fact that women love height. Thats the same logic women use when they say something like "just because the dick is big doesn't mean he knows how to use it" as if thats supposed to help someone who knows thet don't match the standard this generation of women expects men to fulfill. Why is it women pretend they aren't shallow? Do they need to lie to them selves and convince themselves they are actually "sapiosexuals" or whatever supid buzzword is listed on their tinder? God I really despise the way y'all "reason".

[loveisbeautiful]

Not all women are shallow and I'm certainly not pretending not to be, I actually don't care. I just don't focus on trivial stuff like that, it's not important.

[Blake0048]

Then you just dont acknowledge it consciously but subconsciously you are drawn to guys with those traits

[loveisbeautiful]

No, I'm not and I think I would know better then you, what I'm drawn to.

[Blake0048]

Okay

[PBGreat]

Not necessarily. Height for me is important, I am not gonna lie, however, it is not everything. I like someone who is funny and caring and loyal. So yeah height is important to me however it isn't the whole everything. Not all women are that shallow. Don't tarnish us all with the same brush.

[Blake0048]

@PBGreat If its important to you then you shouldn't settle for a short guy. Its important that you're attracted to who you're with.

[morthnenuf]

For real dude im only 5 '7" and have a hard time getting noticed but when i do they gossip snd pass me around like a piece of meat. like i have feelings too😂

[ThatWriterChick]

Height has never been super important to me. I used to swoon over tall guys, but recently have been far more attracted to short guys because personality is far more important. I've actually had more crushes on guys my own height (5"4) than guys taller than me.

[clh72481]

I am attracted to guys that are my height or taller. I am 5'2 and I am married to my husband who is only 5'5 which is very short for a guy. He has told me he has dated many woman that were taller than him and that they didn't mind his height. If someone really likes you then your height shouldn't make much of a difference.

[Anonymous]

I like taller guys because I'm submissive and like to feel somewhat vulnerable in him having to look down at me and literally being above me.

But i'm only 5'5", so if he's 5'6" he's still taller than I.

by the way, I don't think the "feeling safe" thing is a misconception, I think it's a subconscious perception. Being taller doesn't make you stronger, but you can see over other people to spot danger quicker.

[loveisbeautiful]

Most danger isn't easy to spot, some dangerous people can blend in quite well and no one ever suspect a thing.

[whyisitnotworking]

You would consider a 5'6 taker enough for you?😐

[Opinion Owner]

@whyisitnotworking Yes, because I only cadre that he's taller than I.

[whyisitnotworking]

One inch is absolutely nothing, given the fact that you can always wear heels...

[Opinion Owner]

This is an inborn evolutionary trait to seek out taller males because they can see further.
True, you cannot tell which people will be trouble just by looking at them, but if something dangerous is happening up ahead of you, being able to spot it earlier is best. Like I said, it's subconscious notion that taller equals safer, not a conscious connection.

[whyisitnotworking]

I meant just an inch tall is absolutely nothing. Why not want lot more taller man?

[Opinion Owner]

@whyisitnotworking I have flat feet and plantarfascitus, so I literally can't. Also I'm very tomboyish and mostly wear men's clothing. Irrelevant to the point however.

I just don't really care about a man's looks, only his mind. But I can't help it if I feel like I'm with a little bit of he's shorter, so again, I really mean it when I say 1 inch is enough. (In this case XD )

[Opinion Owner]

*feel like I'm with a little boy if he's shorter

[whyisitnotworking]

That's great. :)
5'6 is actually small for a male anyway. It won't bother you that your man is actually always smaller than every man and even around 70 % women as well?

[UglyKittenLovers9]

Personally I am a short girl I am 1.60 cm and for some reason yes I feel safe when I am with tall guy. I think that's because when a tall guy hugs you, you disappear in his embrace and the only thing you feel is safett because he makes the illusion of that safety by hugging

[JustinTheGreat]

I mean none of our appearance defines how we are as people, but people want to be with those they find attractive. And a lot girls find guys who are too short, unattractive.
sometimes it seems like there is a lot of pressure from women (not all of them) that you have to be over 6'0 in order to date them. So of course shorter men are going to feel insecure about their height.
Im sure even you have denied dating someone because you didn't find them physically attractive. we all have.

[loveisbeautiful]

Honestly, it's not about appearance it's more about aura. Which, sounds weird but it is true.

[NaultD]

Im 6'8 and i have always said the grass will always be greener on the other side, and the only way to be happpy is to appreciate what you have.

One thing about being tall is more people notice you and if more people notice you more dice throws that someone will find you attractive.

[whyisitnotworking]

Wow dude. Tall parents?

[NaultD]

@whyisitnotworking average or slightly shorter i have some 6 foot uncles and my brother is 6'2. I'm just the freak of the family.

[whyisitnotworking]

How tall is mother and sisters?

[NaultD]

@whyisitnotworking no sister mother 5'6 maybe.

[whyisitnotworking]

Oh... females are so small

[cutelilPigeon]

tbh I just want someone at least a few inches taller than me and preferably thin. ;v; i don't understand the girls that are like he has to be at least 6'3 and have a six pack and stuff like that. but its what some girls are into.
But I do like a guy that can pick me up and cute stuff like that.

[IsenhowerJ]

You have no control over how tall or short you will be and once you reach your full height, you wonder what things will be like if you were a different height. For me, I want to be taller because I think it will be cool to be as tall as a basketball star.

[slutsdontgetoral]

It is so much easier for short guys to look jacked. Hated competing against short guys because they always looked so huge. Warvin Ward (pictured here) won the overall as a bantamweight at 5'0" and 143 lbs. Short guys don't need steroids to look huge. 20 lbs of muscle on a 5' guy equals 50lbs on a 6' guy.

[TuMeManques]

As a short girl this totally sucks for me. I always look so muscular and long for the long skinny chicken legs my friends have lol

[slutsdontgetoral]

@TuMeManques People always want what they can't have. The joke ist that no matter what you look like you re always someone's reason to masturbate.

[TuMeManques]

Haha I'm not sure if that a good thing or very disturbing lol

[PoliceLivesMatter]

"has no actual bearing on a woman's physically safety, she just believe' s it does." This is so true, 100% agree

[nbbn5]

You are right , height is just a number but I think the thirst of height for some will never get over no matter how tall is that person a 5"11 person wishes to touch 6"0
A 6"1 person wishes to touch 6"2
A 6"2 person wishes to be more taller (my case lol I am 6"2 and i want to be like more 3 inches taller)

[Halucinator]

so that you can catch an aeroplane like a fly?😂😂

[nbbn5]

@Halucinator 😂😂😂lol

[Beerhero]

You girls should not care about height.
If you care too much, then yes, you are shallow, and you deserve someone that will judge you for your weight.

1) Feeling safer? We do not live any more in the jungle, where the male has to protect his family with a spear.

2) Wearing heels? I do not even want to discuss this, it's the definition of shallowness.

[Someguynamedbob]

I’ve gotten into a few fights protecting women, but height really doesn’t affect how you can protect her