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Both genders are guilty of this. However we are (supposed) to get better at judging and/or giving advice as we get older and more experienced.

But I’ve had grown ass woman say some ridiculous things to me in the past. I feel like many of them take a common mental shortcut falsely believing that dating is same more men as it is for themselves (when all else equal). It’s not. Not at all. Not even close.

That’s not say I don’t know women have to deal with some common pitfalls. Many men will lie to women and tell want them just what they want to hear to get their foot in the door. They figure that once a woman catches feelings for them they will get a “pass” on their bs. Sadly this sometimes works if the guy is good at it. But not always. Also it never works out in the long run for guys. Plus it makes women more bitter and resentful to men in general after the process.

But anyway I feel most women who criticize men don’t put the mental effort into understanding the challenges most men face in the early steps of dating.

Most don’t understand how we are expected to take risks and stick our necks out. How we get shit tested. How we usually have to plan dates and usually spend money. How the odds are usually stacked against us. How we are supposed to keep calm and brush off (sometimes nasty) rejection and just move on quickly forgetting about it. How women falsely assume that men run into just as many opportunities as they do. Etc.

https://www.yahoo.com/news/texas-family-asked-neighbor-stop-144437808.html
After a Texas family asked a neighbor to stop shooting a gun in his yard because their baby was trying to sleep, he came over and killed 5 people with an AR-15 style rifle, police say.

Neighbors came to a Texas man's fence and asked him to stop firing his gun in his yard because they had a baby next door who was trying to sleep.

In response, police say the man drunkenly went next door and killed five people with an AR-15-style rifle, ABC News reported. He remains at large.

It is the latest in a string of shootings resulting from seemingly normal and even mundane interactions.

In Kansas City, 16-year-old Ralph Yarl was shot in the head after he accidentally went to the wrong house to pick up his younger siblings. In New York, a 20-year-old woman was shot and killed after she and her friends pulled their car into the wrong driveway.

Authorities from the San Jacinto County Sheriff's Office told KTRK-TV, a local ABC News affiliate in Houston, that the yet-unnamed suspect had been drunk and firing shots from his front porch in Cleveland, Texas. At about 11:30 pm on Friday, neighbors intervened.

"My understanding is that the victims, they came over to the fence and said 'Hey could [you not do your] shooting out in the yard? We have a young baby that's trying to go to sleep,'" Sheriff Greg Capers told KTRK. "And he had been drinking, and he says 'I'll do what I want to in my front yard.'"

That's when the agitated man retaliated, police said.

When police arrived on the scene, at least 10 people were in the home, several of whom had been shot "from the neck up almost execution style." Five victims are dead, including an 8-year-old child, KRTK reported. Three others are injured, and their condition is unknown, KHOU-11, another local TV station, reported.

Of all the men and women you've known in life: friends, partners, family members etc who tend to be better listeners?

Here's some advice on how to be a better listener:

"Show You Are Listening

Part of really listening is responding in a way that shows the other person we are paying attention. We can demonstrate we are truly listening in four different ways. For example, if a coworker comes to you and complains about their micromanaging boss, you could show you are listening by:

Reflecting back the content
Example: As you see it, your boss is micromanaging you…

Reflecting back the feeling
Example: So you feel frustrated because…

Reflecting both content and feeling
Example: You feel frustrated because your boss is micromanaging you…

Being silent and attentive
A helpful phrase to show you are listening might be:

So you feel ___________________ because ______________________.

Other helpful phrases might include:

You seem…
You sound…
What I’m hearing is…
As you see it…
Tell me more…
Is there anything else…
Not only is listening to others a key life skill, it can also have a tremendous impact on building trust in a relationship. When we take the time to listen, we show the other person that we care—that we are interested in understanding their perspective. That can go a long way toward building, or rebuilding, a relationship.

“The purpose of life is to listen – to yourself, to your neighbor, to your world and to God and, when the time comes, to respond in as helpful a way as you can find … from within and without.” ~ Fred Rogers