Is it okay for men to have a high body count but not a woman?

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I just read this article from a conservative female influencer names Thaïs D’Escufon about the subject.

Why do I encourage men (and not women) to experience various sentimental adventures before committing to a long-term relationship? 🤯

➡️ I would first clarify that I do not push men not to attach themselves to anyone and endlessly multiply conquests. Depending entirely on this form of validation until you are past 30 betrays an imbalance.
As in everything, you have to find a happy medium.

But how can you be discerning towards women if you don't master any aspect of female psychology 🧠?

Never having seduced, or having seduced very little before committing to a long relationship, means exposing yourself to enormous suffering and your couple being a failure or a source of daily hassle.

For what?

Because you take the risk of being completely emotionally dependent on her, which will also push her away.
- You will fail every day to understand it.
- You will not see the harbingers of his progressive disinterestedness.
- And when the day of separation comes, it will be so brutal that you will take years to recover from it.
With children, the disaster will be total.

On the other hand, being experienced makes you attractive to women. 👩🏻

For what? 🧐

Because you radiate self-confidence. Because you have the choice. Because by understanding her you will know how to make her happy. Because you will know how to build a stable home 🏠 with her and maintain her interest in you over the long term. 👨‍👩‍👦‍👦

A woman doesn't need experience to be confident. She knows she can please. The challenge for her is rather to choose the best option to which she can claim , and stick to it. 🤝🏻

Love has never been synonymous with equality.

dynamicyandere · Accepted Answer

Having a high body count doesn’t mean someone is good with relationships.

You have PUAs (pick up artists) with body counts that are over 100+ but they can’t sustain a long term relationship because they don’t have the character and relationship skills necessary to have a healthy relationship.

It’s not body count that matters, it’s how good of a boyfriend/girlfriend you are when you’re with someone.

Also, even if you’re tying your self-worth to how attractive you are to the opposite sex, it doesn’t have to end with being in bed together.

You can totally have a lot of girls attracted to you, without sleeping with a bunch of them, and still be highly validated.

You want to be the sought after gentleman that attracts a lot of women, is selective, and have other women jealous of whoever you’ve chosen to be your special someone.

If you sleep with everyone, that just shows a poor lack of self-control, impulsivity, and also makes your significant other feel like one of many.

Being attractive to a lot of people will make you more attractive. But remember, it doesn’t mean you should be putting out all the time.

Saving yourself for only those who are really special to you will give your sex meaning and make your significant other feel so much more special.

If you want to be premium marriage material, you’re not going to want a high body count.

inhua · Accepted Answer

whether it's ok or not, there's more social benefits for men with high body counts

a man with a higher body count usually indicates that he some value to offer to the women he sleeps with whether it's in his looks/genetics or his money/finances or his status/fame

he also passes the evolutionary Principle of Pre-selection because women tend to avoid murderers and rapists, instinctively she will think of a man who can get consensual sex from multiple women is less likely to be a murderer or a rapist and thus makes him more attractive in process

think about it though, why is it that Leonardo DiCaprio can keep pulling young women despite his dating history being well-known and made to the public? it's due to the Principle of Pre-selection. same applies to Charlie Sheen, Hugh Hefner, pro-athletes, rappers and countless other male celebrities that can be seen with multiple women

on the flip side, high body counts do not benefit women at all with the exception of money but at the cost of their own self-respect and dignity. double standard perhaps but there's evolutionary reasons behind that too

MzAsh · Accepted Answer

Body count has very little to nothing to do with understanding women or developing relationship skills. In fact, a lot of guys who sleep with lots of women do so selfishly and purely for self gratification and know nothing about women or what it takes to maintain an actual relationship with one. Men who are interested in women as people and interested relationships instead of objects will actually be more likely to be selective about who they let into their lives or bedroom.

Aside from that, there is a cultural fixation from men on virginal females (including minors) and it boils down to control. Young girls with a body count of zero are easy to control and manipulate and that’s their bottom line objective. They want a girl child who doesn’t know any better to let him get away with doing whatever he wants. Because she’s innocent, she’ll be less likely to even notice or speak out against his behavior.

8UniquelyBoring8 · Accepted Answer

While it is important for both men and women to have some experience with relationships before committing to a long-term one, it is not necessarily true that men need to have more experience than women. Each person's experience will be unique and valuable in its own way. It is also important to note that there is no one set formula for a successful relationship, as each relationship is different and requires unique communication, compromise, and effort from both partners. Ultimately, the most important factor is finding a partner who shares similar values and goals and who is willing to work with you to build a happy and healthy relationship.

Apple1996 · Answer

Neither gender should have a high body count if they want to eventually settle down

SoIcyGang · Answer

The reason for the double standard is the nature of our interactions as men and women.

For a woman to have rampant sex is the easiest thing in the world. What is hard, is for her to have self control. To not fuck like a maniac when the entire world of cock is easily accessible to you.

For the man it is the exact opposite. As a man you must meet MANY requirements in order to have a high body count.

When a man has a high body count it really means something posititive for him. That positivity is the acceptance from women, and reward is sex with women.

A woman does not need to meet any requirement in order to have sex. All she has to do is spread her legs.

That's the root of it all. So i feel like it should be no surprise to anyone that this double standard exists.

As long as mating strategies are different, double standards will he here to stay.

As long as it remains so difficult for a man to have sex, as long as it remains that women have easy access to sex, these double standards will stay.

mattclark242 · Answer

I feel like body count does not matter. when guys set with other guys they never say what her body count. no they say look did you see that hot girl pass by. people think of body count as use up but it not.

It like an old book it still a good book no matter how many people read it first. it still there and your still geting the stuff (DNA) to mix.

Kid do matter as some guys do not want girls with kids and some women do not want men with kids that are not there. But some are ok and like kids.

also do not have sex with someone you do not want to just to do it or make money unless you want to. but if not you be unhappy.

Men have been look at as good for haveing been with a lot of girl

But girl are look at as bad for it and I think that just bad culture that need be fix. It been that way sine 8th grade health class back it 2008 or 2011 when we first want to know where sex and baby came from.

Good advice have sex with who you want to also have good safe fun sex. sex should be fun and roleplay should be fun. do not make your self or other do thing they do not want to do. also do not have sex with someone you do not want have a kid with cause kid can alway come at any time from sex.

If you religion want you to wait then wait if you want to.

when I each with girl most of the time all they care about is if the guys hot they do no care about how many people he been with.

RingOfFire · Answer

Men are biologically programmed to have many sex partners, women are not.

The average man produces about 2 trillion sperm in his lifetime and produces 200-300 million sperm a day or 1,500 per second and can impregnate women throughout their lifespan. They can release about 80-300 million sperm in a single ejaculation.

Women are born with all the eggs they will ever have and will release a total of about 500 of them in their lifetime. After age 40 their chances of getting pregnant are about 5%. Once a woman is pregnant, she cannot get pregnant again for at least 9 months.

In 9 months a single man could theoretically impregnate as many women as he could have sex with non-stop.

Since reproduction is the most important function of any living thing, men were tasked by nature to spread their seed to as many women as possible to fulfill that duty since women are inefficient at this task due to their restrictions on the number of pregnancies they can have in their lifetime.

Men were designed to impregnate women and women were designed to nurture and care for the offspring until they are of viable age to take care of themselves.

The reason so many more men cheat than women is that having multiple sexual partners is part of men's physiological design and destiny. It just happens that in the most recent tick of the evolutionary clock this destiny has come into conflict with the societally correct rules du jour and having multiple sexual partners is at the moment considered something bad, even for men.

ManOnFire · Answer

I don't think it's great for either men or women to have high body counts. Although I would argue that it is somewhat worse for women to live that kind of lifestyle. Women who have sex with lots of men tend to view themselves as goddesses who can always get what they want, and still carry that mentality over into an actual solid relationship. They also tend to have what I call a 'knowledge of evil' where such a lifestyle tends to make them judge each man they meet a certain way, because of their 'experience.'

Men who have sex with lots of women don't necessarily think they can always get a partner, they just think they have good game.

Adam1978 · Answer

In the end its the gender culture that defines these. Men don't want women with a body count as a partner but he is fine with having sex with them. Women doesn't over all care, if they fuck around with the high status guys, which easily can get a high body count. So in general if a guy can get a high body count he is preselected by many women, they do not anylonger require commitment. The feminists either was played by the players or they are actually so stupid that they don't see in the end result. Traditional roles has been developed to keep both genders in check not just female or male.

KingOfMe1 · Answer

It's okay for anyone to have a high body count.
If you don't like it, just realize it's because you're programmed not to; and I'm not talking about some evolution mumbo jumbo. Society has programmed you. And on top of that many of us are just insecure and hold negative ideas that make us feel bad. We literally do it to ourselves. Has nothing to do with the other person.

There is nothing wrong with someone sleeping around and then wanting to stop and find a husband or wife. That's their life to live. You live yours.

Every relationship you have is special because you cannot recreate that with someone else. There is only 1 of you and 1 of them in the whole world.

EricSummer · Answer

I think having experienced relationships with a small number of different people helps. I would not put so much focus on the conquest, though. I would never have left a woman only to be free for new experiences.

In addition, women can also benefit from such experiences. For example, my first girlfriend and I learned so much in the four years together from 17 to 21. When she eventually dumped me it was because she matured faster and already wanted to settle down. After a short while she did, with a guy 8 years older than us. After that I was then seriously looking for the woman for life, but this needed a few attempts. I think that's just fine.

Anyway, for me it's not really a choice as I get attached to the woman either way.

LazerBean · Answer

Whatever woman said that is coping hard with her mistake of marrying a hoe. The more extramarital sex a man has had, the lower quality he is and the less fit for marriage he is. A man with a body count of 2 is 64% more likely to go through divorce than someone married to the first person they had sex with, and are less likely to report being very satisfied with their marriage.

LaFemmeFatale_1 · Answer

I don’t think it’s okay for a man either, if I only had 1 sexual partner, why should I sleep with someone who’s had 250? Where are his standards?

Does he sleep with any girl he gets a chance to sleep with? Then why should I like him? If he’s open for literally any girl?

Anonymous · Answer

There are many ways to learn that involve wisdom, discernment, intuition and the power given to us by God. But many people have forgotten this so they learn by mistakes, pain and action. There is absolutely no need to be promiscuous to learn, or to make dozens of mistakes to learn but people have forgotten how to learn without doing so.

When you remember your power, and reconnect beyond your ego and go to your spirit, you will also radiate self confidence due to the intuition you have.

kappasan · Answer

The question should not be like that. More like, "does it matter for a spouse that their male/female spouse has a high body count?".

Because there is the typical old nasty quote that "Men are studs, and women are sluts" when referring to a high body count, it makes the title question relevant of course.

Of coure every man wants a "woman for themselves" which is, no doubt, a primitive instinct/impulse. And a "virgin woman" has the highest chance to "produce a healthy offspring that is theirs". From that point of view,.. yes, men see high-body-count women as "used" (even if they don't say it).

Anonymous · Answer

There's less of a cost for sure. Because despite the amount of noise you'll hear on here about how lots of women would "NEVER" date a player, the fact of the matter is, most women don't make a man's sexual past a huge factor in determining his datability. In much the same way that most guys don't make a girl's height, education, or career a huge factor. It's not that they don't have an opinion on it (sure, they'd probably RATHER the dude they're setting down with NOT have fucked his way through the cheerleading squad or the full calendar of Playmates or a bunch of A-list actresses, but they're certaintly not going to rule him out because of it).

On the other hand, guys are much more likely to be willing to FUCK a girl whose been around the cock carousel, but are not really down with wifing her up.

strateguy632 · Answer

statisticaly someone here copied a study that lady with more past lovers then when marry are more likely to divorce, in contrast to guys with many, but commit are committed. also, subjectively contemporary society considers a lady with many partners, even separate times, a slut perhaps wrongly unfairly, but according to that standard not okay.

Adaeva · Answer

Women with high body counts lose their ability to bond. That is why virgins have a very low divorce rate and women with high body counts have very high divorce rates.

It doesn't work that way with men so it is not important for men to have low body counts.

RavVid · Answer

Some feminists resent biology isn't equal which is only laughable.

I think there is some truth in what is being said but a fatal error. Men should have lots of experience but women don't need experience implying they shouldn't. Difficult for men to get lots of experience when the girls are saying no thanks we don't need experience.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

No. The whole permise doesn't make any sense to begin with.

If men have a high sexual body count then obviously since 99% of men are heterosexual then that means by logic women will be having a high body count as well since women will be having sex with men.

If it's morally wrong to sleep around then gender is irrelevant.

es20490446e · Answer

I have a high body count. I will tell you what: if I could get a partner and give up casual sex all together forever, I will sign immediately.

The thing is: women have much easier to find a decent man to settle down. On the other hand a male having a high body count could just mean he can't find anyone for that.

Personally I found it very difficult to find a woman with the attitude to form a happy family.

shades777 · Answer

everyone wants the person that has the benefits that experience brings without the actual experience. But its nonexistent, there's not a virgin on earth thats gonna give a man the blowjob he actually wants.
And there's not a virgin man thats going to beable to please a woman romantically.

You want senior level results with entry level skills?

Tomisworthless · Answer

Females with many sexual partners are unfulfilled in marriages and often fantasize about their best sexual partner who still holds much space in her heart mind and soul. This eventually leads to divorce as women overwhelmingly file for divorce, benefit from divorce and keep the children

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