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Full disclosure: I am an alien and I DO NOT UNDERSTAND MANY FUNERARY RITES OF HUMANS.

In the NYC tri-state area, (maybe the Northeast USA in general - I don't know) they take the dead body & (whole train of cars) procession for a ride past their old house and in the case of cops/fireman, usually past their firehouse or precinct. ITS FUCKING BIZZARO WORLD!!

Usually after the burial a lot of the entourage goes to the diner for brunch/lunch which is the one thing I support that both Christians & Jews here do. Then maybe the closest friends and family back to decedents house to (for Christians) get drunk and tell stories about the poor sap.

Like I said, I don't get you humans a lot of the time but I think the Jews are closest to the best way to mourn (with a BIG exception to the Vikings send off to Valhalla - THOSE GUYS KNOW HOW TO PARTY!)

The Jews "sitting shiva" makes sense to me. Simple pine box. Buried as soon as practical. No rabbi needed - head of family does "service". Set mourning period. Go to decedants house instead of sanitary clinical depressing funeral home where some preacher who never met the guy does a eulogy. EVERY visitor brings / orders food so you don't cook for days or weeks. Sit on uncomfortable box to remind yourself your not supposed to be comfy & cover mirrors so you're not concerned with vanity - all so you can truly focus on the decedant. All old photo albums throughout the home broken out for guests to look at. Everybody kvells, noshes & yentas in their shmatas.

So? What's it like by you? Does any other faiths funerary rites appeal to you? If It were up to me every cemetery would be turned into a park, preserve, trail, ball field or playground.

I've given some thought to Parsi (Zoroastrian) rites (another faith I admire very much) & the Tower of Silence for myself but will likely be made into a tree, plant or a diamond.

Is the Northeast just fucking insane with the drive by corpse?

First and foremost, lying is a NET POSITIVE as it has evolved among ALL species studied for the propensity for deception. The simple, harsh truth is that liars gain advantage and people who do not lie or cannot tell they're being lied to are, inferior, from an evolutionary standpoint. Suck it up. Liars win. Marks lose.

Lies we tell to PROTECT OURSELVES:

We might lie to avoid punishment. For example, children often lie about whether they have completed their homework. If they tell the truth, their parents might insist that the homework be done immediately, which could preclude their participation in a recreational activity.

We might lie to prevent ourselves from being embarrassed about behavior we regret or because we don’t want to reveal private information that might be used against us. We may worry that public awareness of such information can cause us stress or anxiety.

We might lie to avoid conflict. For example, a spouse may choose not to tell the truth about how they feel about their spouse’s behavior for fear that an uncomfortable disagreement might arise.

We might lie to gain social acceptance from a particular group. For example, we might feign interest in a subject matter to join a group that extols that subject. Or, we could post partial truths or fabrications on social media to become popular.

We might lie to get ahead in a competition or business. For example, a businessman might falsely claim great success in the past to secure a new business interest. Such lies can also make us feel better about ourselves when others believe us.

We might lie in a relationship to maintain control. For example, we might falsely state that we have brought a lot of money into a partnership.

Lies we tell to protect others:

We might lie about an illegal activity undertaken by a friend so that the friend does not suffer from negative consequences.

We might lie about something to spare the feelings of someone else.