I need to inform that I never in my life thought I’d get feelings for a married man?

[Anonymous]

We work together at the same department literally almost see each other every day, and I believe it’s the way he approached me from day one, he is a good looking and my type so that makes it even worse but that’s not the problem I think it’s the way he approached me and came across me as a very friendly nice guy, I didn’t develop feelings for him at the beginning maybe few months past and I still blame him, he would start asking me if I thought he was attractive I brought his wife up right away than once he mentioned how his wife thinks his ugly and he wanted to see my reaction so I have every right to say it’s his fault I started kinda feeling bad for him bc like I said he was nice to me from day one and it kinda got to me I still shrugged him off bc I know his married, than I know I’m not the only one feeling down way bc other coworkers start notching that he might have a crush on me type of thing to this point, I can say my feelings might not be as strong but when I get to work it comes back bc I see him, what should I do I just don’t want to me waisting my time on something that will not benefit me in life, the thing is I’ve been single for a few years and I’ve had desire to patiently wait for the right man (single) and I’ve been preparing myself until he came along and now I feel lost and confused am I overthinking?

[Anonymous]

Crazy that this is just one entire sentence… I’m also not sure what the question is. Are you wondering if he likes you? Why even entertain the idea? He’s married, nothing could ever come of that. I think it’s inappropriate for your coworkers to fuel that as well. They’d never want women gossiping about their partners as if they like another woman.

[Asker]

I don't know if he likes me but if you would read the entire thing I mentioned how he approached me with mentioning how his wife thinks his ugly and asking if I think his attractive and yea you right I haven’t entertained it but I kinda felt bad for him so yea

[Opinion Owner]

I did read the part about him asking if you were attractive, but what are you asking in regards to that?

[Opinion Owner]

**asking if he was attractive. That’s what I feel he asked in so many words.

[Asker]

So what are you trying to tell me it’s my fault

[Opinion Owner]

I’m literally trying to ask what you’re trying to ask? What is the question?

[smashleyy]

Even with rereading this nonsense I still don’t know what the actual question is here. Invest in a journal

[Anonymous]

Have some class and decency and control yourself. If this guy cheats with you, YOU are a homewrecker.

[Asker]

It’s never been mentioned about cheating

[Opinion Owner]

This is how cheating starts.

[Asker]

Honestly I think it’s his fault

[Opinion Owner]

You are typical of a woman in this scenario in that you blame it all on him and take no responsibility for your own actions and choices. You are and will be every bit as guilty as him.

[spartan55]

Overthinking? Don't think so. Using poor judgment and being dumb? Yes.

[Asker]

How so if I’m not entertaining it his the one

[spartan55]

If you weren't entertaining it then you wouldn't have written this post. Blame it all on him... stop acting like we are all stupid.

[Asker]

No I try avoiding him at all costs but somehow he finds me work wise and starts chatting there where days where I would completely go ignoring him but the problem is I see him every day

[spartan55]

Then start gray rocking him.

[Nikki1989]

Married men are the biggest cheaters of all. Don't go down that road.

[Asker]

Are you trying to scare me from getting married