He ruined my life… why am I not allowed to ruin his?

[Anonymous]

Why was it okay for him to disrespect my boundaries regarding sex… to make someone feel safe in the beginning just to be hurtful and bring up things that I didn’t want

I feel triggered by his actions because of things that happened in my past and my attachment issue… is that his issue entirely? No.. but what he did still felt so predatory and hurtful

He’s bold enough to do what he did why can’t he be bold enough to tell me he’s bi or that he’s into trans

Why isn’t he bold enough to go with his true attraction… he’s bold enough to hurt me why can’t I hurt him back?

He’s bold enough to insult me and say “ does your dad know that you post those pics “ then maybe I should be bold too and let his dad know what he likes?

He ruined my life and everything I worked so hard for because he couldn’t respect my boundaries and tried manipulation/ coercive methods to get what he wants. It’s not okay. It’s triggering and I hate that I’m still hanging on after a year feeling hurt and worthless

To be straight up and tell him I’m protecting my emotional and mental well being and wasn’t ready for anything and he pretended to care.. it’s wild

He deserves to be exposed

He is a predator

Other

[ohsheeT]

You need to just walk away if you do what you want to do that means you're still stuck in the drama and then that means he's going to be stuck back in the end it's going to go back and forth back and forth that's when everybody's going to know everything because everybody's going to be so hurt they're just going to blab their mouth you just need to take the pain and walk away you don't need to keep it going that's for sure if you keep it going that means you're not into it for everything you just said because you're going to keep fueling the fire .
And if you keep it going the only one for to blame for ruining your life is going to be you

Think about everything you've been through all the drama is the drama that is the evil part of everything walk away from it take your losses and walk away from it nobody ruined anything except for your day you're adult enough to figure it out and get out of the mess by not communicating like getting a hold of yourself and acknowledging arguing or hurting each other is not going to get anybody anywhere except for put in jail or somebody hurt walk awayre-state//background_color_rgba (0, 0, 0, 0), font_color_rgb (77, 77, 77), justifyLeft

[Asker]

I hate him so much…I don’t want to be here. I’m having a hard time coping

[ohsheeT]

Are you still with him

[ohsheeT]

I mean do you live with him

[Asker]

No he didn’t want to be with me.. I’m bitter that he did me wrong and he’s attracted to trans women

[Finchie40]

Because getting revenge on someone doesn’t solve or fix anything , it makes you just as bad as he is if you choose to stoop down to his level , Just walk away and act like he no longer exists to you , walking away and not giving a fuck is the best revenge to get on anyone , that betrayed you or hurts
You in anyway, by you trying to get revenge, you are just hurting yourself even more , because you are wasting your time and energy on someone that truly doesn’t give a fuck about you , The more you try to more they are going to laugh because you look like a desperate fool trying to win one over on them. The damage ks already done , move on and stop wasting your time on him period

[Asker]

I don’t want to live anymore.. I feel so depressed

[strateguy632]

You conssented. Your regret now is too late.

[Asker]

I didn’t have sex with him

[strateguy632]

Ah, i misunderstood. I saw "disrespect my boundaries regarding sex… to make someone feel safe in the beginning"

[Asker]

On top of that he’s gay

[strateguy632]

I would tell his church leader he was gay.
But more thAn that revenge... will just cause escalation.
As james bond said, "when you plan revenge , dig (literaly) your own grave for your corpse."

[Asker]

Why am I digging a grave? I’m already in the ground

[LiamJHayden]

It is best to move on as though the person does not exist and be happy.

[Asker]

You keep telling me and I’m telling you I can’t until he suffers

[LiamJHayden]

I want what is best for you. You now think revenge will make you happy, but after the fact you won't be. You can be the far better person.

[Asker]

Don’t you think I’m past that? My job is at risk, mental health… possible legal issues for exposing him?

Yeah.. no.

[teamvic]

Well what do you plan to do for revenge firstly

[Asker]

Send a letter to his church about accepting gay men who can’t come out the closet so that they don’t have to be 37 years old still trying to prove they’re straight by manipulating you and trying to use you for sex.. also he has an attraction to trans women

[AviatorTom]

Revenge is never worth it. Just move on.

[Asker]

Why not? He played me

[Asker]

He played on my vulnerabilities