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I'm on the the heels of a horrible break up from a relationship I never really wanted to be in anyway.

I'm sore but well on the mend.

This whole thing has been going on for about 6 months.

Long story short, on my street is a really popular and vibrant restaurant. There are a ton of wait staff there, all male.

There are a couple that would kind of scope me out but I felt it was curiosity since I am fairly mysterious.

One server in particular has pathetically, IMHO, tried to get my attention when I would pass by by clearing his throat.

Once he decided to stare and not look away.

I don't jump to these silent cat calls.

He's tried to smile at me and stuff but I've been stoic because he is a smoker and I am judging him. I'll be honest.

Fast forward, I have started getting takeout there from time to time. When I walk in, some of the kitchen staff will look at him when I come in.

I purposely look away and I see him in my peripheral vision staring at me.

When I was waiting for my order, all he could do was stand really close to me when he was ringing in his table and I was ordering take out.

I caught him once staring, he looked away so fast and swallowed so hard. He was so embarrassed.

Th other evening a friend of mine treated me and we ate there.

We were seated at the back. He kept coming to the back sneaking looks at us. He works the patio.

My friend ordered some takout and we were waiting for it on the patio. He came to take our order and went straight up to me. My friend then explained we were just waiting for take out. He smiled and left.

Then he stood at the top of the stairs so he could totally see and hear us but he was pretend not watching.

We both pretend to ignore each other, actually.

I am just still reeling from all the recent emotional abuse and I feel this push-pull behaviour is a sign he is another immature, undercover narc looking for attention from someone he views as vulnerable.

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So last night I met up with boyfriend, we were supposed to spend the night & Saturday morning / evening together.

Unfortunately my brother (paramedic) got called into work & he was supposed to help our father with an appointment on Saturday morning. Dad is disabled so us kids take turns on who goes with him to appointments as we're both in the medical profession.

I told my boyfriend this & apologized a number of times for the short notice. I told him you know I'd have to not stay the night but we can continue on with the rest of the plan for Saturday.

Anyway come the morning he's left where he was (he comes from another city, was at a hotel). He didn't even bother telling me he was leaving or saying goodbye. I only learnt about it by asking what was he doing & a text back of "driving".

He said he was annoyed & had woken up at 4am with "nothing to do", etc. Honestly, in all the back & forth, it seems all he cares for is the sex (why else leave)

Yes I get it but honestly it was a minor situation on my side. It's not like I waited until he was asleep after having sex & walked out on him... he knew why I left and had been okay with it that evening (he'd agreed to Saturday).

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I won't be involved with him much beyond this. I am not someone who takes kindly to emotional manipulation / abuse which, in many ways, his antics are.