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I'm a 23F, about to be 24, still in college. Though I've been asked out before, not by the right guys, I'd never had a first date. I never had a boyfriend. I have a specific type/look in men that I'm attracted to. But the guys I would seem interested in are either not interested in me or they are not aware of my interest in them. I'm quite quirky in appearance, personality. But I'm very smart, curious, open minded and observant (If you're curious as to why I look like, you can go to this link If I'm pretty like people tell me, how come guys don't ask me out?

I'm also usually forward when speaking with others. After a guy who I fell for didn't return his feelings, I shut out and stopped approaching guys and showing interest, in fear of rejection and just encountering the obvious. It took me months to get over him.

A lot of people in my age bracket are already in relationships, engaged or married. And it seems like they're all pretty much the same in personality, style, common interests and friends. I feel like the odd one out without any experience or proposals. I was raised in the Midwest, but I currently live in the deep south. So that might explain a lot. This not only feels odd to me, but like it's too soon for everyone to be married this young. I want to be in a relationship, but I feel like I'm too weird or quirky for men to handle or to be attracted to. Like I just turn them off right from the start of the conversation or minutes into. So I just keep quiet and too myself, unless someone interesting enough catches my eye. I don't like to waste my time with people who aren't gonna make time for me, benefit me or who I see as fake and toxic. Pretty valid, is it not? I know what I want and what I'm looking for, but I'm open for something different to me.

Could anyone give me any ideas as to why? And if you are or have been through what I'm going through, please give your story. Thank you!

So there’s this guy that I’m friends with, and we have been friends for sometime. I used to have a crush on him and I admitted to him that I was attracted to him. He said he didn’t feel the same way and I didn’t feel a ways about it so we just moved on. It took me a minute but I finally got over my attraction.

However, this man makes sexual jokes about us engaging in sexual acts, saying he thinks of me when he uses his sex toys, touches my leg, likes to make fun and a lot more. He flirts with me a lot. I catch him staring at me sometimes too, and when I look up sometimes he’ll look away, sometimes he’ll maintain eye contact. More than what a guy friend would do.

However, anytime I jokingly say he likes me he gets unnecessarily defensive about it. Also, he tends to play some songs (love songs or affectionate songs) when I’m around, he tends to do that when he can’t express himself. And he gets jealous when I talk to other guys (romantically or not). Even if it’s for a short spell, he stares at the man. Or if I talk about having another guy friend he gets fairly defensive about that too. But, he talks to girls a lot and has female friends too.

And the one thing I’ve noticed when interacting with his female friends is that they tend to act weird around me. As if they have some type of animosity towards me, but I don’t hang out with them enough for them to even have animosity so I have no idea. I suspect that he may talk about me to them a lot and they don’t like that, and some of them may even like him but he tends to give me a lot of attention. So I’m trying to figure out, is it possible that he likes me?

2 years ago I gave an acquaintance my phone number, which is something I already hate doing. For most calls he would either end the phone call after a few minutes to "see why 'she' is calling" or talk with people off the phone.

Important Side Note: He told me about a planned group outing with our mutuals and "someone else." I found out through social media that "someone else" was a girl I've seen around but never really spoke to. I suspect that "she" is the person he would cut our phone calls short to talk to. I thought it was really weird of him to hide that she was on the trip, especially since I recognized her; I literally don't care who he dates because I was only platonically interested in him at best. This incident, however, made me feel like being his friend was not a good idea.

One day, I told him that he should delete my number if he calls me again and exhibits poor phone etiquette. Like clockwork, the next time he called, he cut the call short because he couldn't understand why "she" was calling him. I told him to never call me again and promptly stopped answering calls and texts.

As time went on, he and "she" developed a relationship that he posted about. "She" recently had his baby. I was hanging out with some mutuals and he came around. I acknowledged him but cut my time short because I didn't want to spoil the mood. Since then he has been watching my social media stories, DMing me, and calling me. I have not responded.

A part of me feels bad for my lack of communication with him, but I also don't understand WHY he's trying to talk to me. A part of me wants to ask him why he's trying so hard to engage me when he should be tending to his girlfriend and his baby, and a part of me wonders if he's just trying to work on being friends. I personally do not trust this man and would rather he would accept that I told him to leave me alone 2 years ago than pursue a friendship.

WDYT?