The guy I considered a friend, later a romantic interest has left me speechless.
Things between us were in limbo, so I started questioning our relationship a lot.
He refused to talk to me. I literally begged him to talk.
Anyway... the moment I saw him doing many other things except being with me and confusing me all the time, I started pushing for answers.
So he kept lying and confusing me... and I did the following. Left a recorder in our office (cause we work together).
Today... I got it back and started listening to the audio files.
Nothing suspicious till I reached a conversation between on of his friends l, who came to visit him.
The convo was long enough, but the end of it just stabbed me in the heart.
He said to his friend "are there some chicks to fuck.." his friend said "no, you"..."nah this one you know about is pushing me way to much, thankfully we haven't fucked yet, we only made out a few times... she is pushing me a lot lately"... his friend said "she is pushing you since forever"..."yeah, she things she is my wife"... then he continued "I should have gone to a vacation this year, there are some chicks... but I'm broke now".
Those words left me speechless. Looks like the man I consider to be a decent man... was just another pig.
I called him, asked for an explanation. He started yelling at me, telling me I have no right to record him so he said "we are done for now... I cannot believe you recorded me secretly".
This "we are done" resolved into a 75 minutes long phone call. About all of the things he did wrong and all of the things I did wrong.
He said he will think about forgiving me and now he doesn't want to see me.
To be honest I love him... but I'm not sure I want to be with him... not after this all.
I guess I should move on.
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Dang, that's so messed up. I can't believe he was talking about you like that behind your back! What a jerk.
I know it's really hard since you had feelings for him, but you definitely don't need that kinda disrespect in your life. Anyone who treats you like an option instead of a priority isn't worth your time. You deserve way better than that.
It's gonna hurt for a while, but moving on is the best thing. Don't give him a chance to confuse you or drag you down again - just cut contact and focus on yourself for now. Spend time with your real friends who actually respect you.
In time you'll find someone who sees how amazing you are and wants to commit fully. But for now, don't waste another second on that jerkface. You're way too good for that bullshit. Stay strong - you've got this! In the end, you'll be so glad you didn't settle for less than you deserve.
Forget about this guy, there are lot of decent guys out there
When you find another, you will forget about him slowly
For a girl it's very easy to find a guy
Just try and don't think about this guy, you will gradually forget it or that emotional attachment will go away.
Hope this answer your question.
Stop wasting your time with this guy. It is obviously not worth it.