I'm starting to feel attracted to a man and have no idea how to deal with it.
Thing is, I asked him to (casually) hang out a a month ago &think I sparked something that has been untouched for some time. He declined because of his relationship and after he tried 'ignoring' me for 2 weeks (he'd only say hi or smile once briefly), the contact since then has become way more intense.
We keep things sane and don't cross any boundaries, but often after training, we stay another 15/20 minutes to talk about the most random things. Even when either one of us is already on the way to leave, we end up talking in the parking lot. We make fools of ourselves & share the same sense of humor. Recently he told me he thought I was odd, then said "but you probably feel the same about me".
We often drive off together and he always makes sure to give me time to catch up on him so we can wave each other good bye.
Some time ago he held onto my shoulders as he was telling me to relax and other times he'd pretend to be fighting me. It's like we both have no clue what we're doing but we can't help but enjoy each others weirdness.
Last week, I tried to ignore him, bc I wanted to know if I was just imagining things that weren't there (since I feel attracted) and maybe initiating too much contact, but then he approached me.
First said he 'saved my life' because he caught a ball that wasn't near me. Then later commented on the way I looked and pretended to copy my face, making some extremely sour expressions and keeping that face for some time, then walking off with that face, coming back, laughed and doing that twice more. The third time he smiled at me, stepped closer, then playfully punched my belly. Stepped away, then punched my belly again.
What the actual f&ck am I dealing with? Can I just put this away as friendliness and carry on with my life? How do people deal with feelings? What's going on. I feel happy and sad at the same time, and I don't know what to do about it.
Argh.
Thing is, I asked him to (casually) hang out a a month ago &think I sparked something that has been untouched for some time. He declined because of his relationship and after he tried 'ignoring' me for 2 weeks (he'd only say hi or smile once briefly), the contact since then has become way more intense.
We keep things sane and don't cross any boundaries, but often after training, we stay another 15/20 minutes to talk about the most random things. Even when either one of us is already on the way to leave, we end up talking in the parking lot. We make fools of ourselves & share the same sense of humor. Recently he told me he thought I was odd, then said "but you probably feel the same about me".
We often drive off together and he always makes sure to give me time to catch up on him so we can wave each other good bye.
Some time ago he held onto my shoulders as he was telling me to relax and other times he'd pretend to be fighting me. It's like we both have no clue what we're doing but we can't help but enjoy each others weirdness.
Last week, I tried to ignore him, bc I wanted to know if I was just imagining things that weren't there (since I feel attracted) and maybe initiating too much contact, but then he approached me.
First said he 'saved my life' because he caught a ball that wasn't near me. Then later commented on the way I looked and pretended to copy my face, making some extremely sour expressions and keeping that face for some time, then walking off with that face, coming back, laughed and doing that twice more. The third time he smiled at me, stepped closer, then playfully punched my belly. Stepped away, then punched my belly again.
What the actual f&ck am I dealing with? Can I just put this away as friendliness and carry on with my life? How do people deal with feelings? What's going on. I feel happy and sad at the same time, and I don't know what to do about it.
Argh.
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This is a classic case of emotional cheating. If you were his girlfriend would you want any of this behavior done with you? This sort of thing should be a redflag to you...
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Wtf are you talking about? GIRLFRIEND, end of story. Don't be gross.
Am I the problem for having a crush when a man who's in a relationship keeps seeking my attention? That's a very unlogical way to look at this.
Also I'm not saying I am looking for a relationship. All I'm stating is that I feel attracted to this person but do not understand his behaviour BECAUSE he has a girlfriend.
Don't be gross.
Why are you even entertaining it? You don't understand it? Yeah so what? So, it's not your fault. He is seeking your attention... there's just no way to stop that.
Well, it doesn't make much of a difference to the current situation, but I didn't know he was in a relationship until much later.
The behaviour was there before, which made me assume there would be no harm in asking him to hang out.
Anyway... got the message.
The fact that he wasn't forthright about his girlfriend is sketchy af too.