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I had a relationship with this girl years ago when I was a teenager. I liked this girl a lot but I never got chance to tell her how I felt about her before it was too late. She said she wanted to end our relationship and that we could be friends, she never gave me a reason why even though I asked. I think she mistook my affection for ‘needyness’ which must’ve killed her attraction for me or maybe it was because I was shit at sex as I was only young at the time and inexperienced, however this is only speculation as she never actually told me this. As I said many years have passed since I last spoke to her, I deleted her off all socials apart from Instagram because I simply didn’t want to see her name and what she was doing etc so do you think enough time has passed that I could message her again and maybe start a relationship again as it’s almost been 5 years. The only thing that’s stoping me is that I’m not as confident as I was 5 years ago and I don’t want that to kill my chances with her. However I’m more mature and humble now and I can still tap into that confidence it just depends on the situation, basically I’m not confident 24 7 like I was back then. Should I add her Snapchat again or find her number and message her? Im keeping my expectations low of course.

Say there's a guy you really find really attractive. He is neutral to you at first, but you drop a lot of really strong hints for him to get to know you better and take you out on a date. The guy is open-minded and figures "sure, why not?" and agrees to go out on a date with you. However, the afternoon before the date, he texts you and tells you that he always goes Dutch, meaning he only ever pays for his meals and you'll only ever pay for yours. He will NOT be paying for anything on your date, now or ever.

DOES THIS CHANGE YOUR VIEW OF HIM; SPECIFICALLY IN A NEGATIVE WAY?

Keep in mind, this does not involve the "we'll each take turns paying" scenario, since in this case, you persuaded him to ask you out on a date, even if he is still technically The Asker. This also does not involve the "only if the man insists on paying" scenario. If you are fine with paying yourself and the man insists anyway, then you're still option B.

I'm talking about any woman who has the expectation that the man must pay for you on your date and if you're forced to spend your own money, then you will feel slighted or negative towards him, including refusing him sex down the line, or even ghosting him.

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