My roommate is a guy I met and hit off with. There is no intimacy but he comes across as flirty all the time. What does it mean?

[Lunarwolf29]

So I met my current roommate on a dating website. We went out for a date hit it off and had sex. Really great sex. He listened to my story about how im struggling and offered me his extra room with the benefit of financial support. The catch is that there will be no intimacy. I still really like him but I'm questioning if its because we had sex or if I like his personality and want this arrangement to grow and become something more. I am doing my best not to flirt and be respectful of boundaries. He doesn't act as affectionate as he did when we met so i can tell he is being respectful of the rule placed but his tone and what he does is flirty. I don't even know if he knows that is how it comes across. I tried flirting back in a light friendly kind of way and he seemed more open to it. He smiled more and laughed more and we generally had a good time. I both want him to be this way cause I think its his norm but I want to tell him it kinda hurts. I want to tell him that my friends tell me that its possible his feelings will grow as he sees me grow... How should I go about this?

[Johnagain]

GO to basic training; ARMY. Then, A. I. T, (at a not so hardcore post, like Ft. Gordon; lots of fraternization)
See others flirt, fuck, and reject you. Feel that alone - loneliness while you soldier hard and graduate.
Experience that PAIN as your roommate sees others while your away. Form a tough self reservation and determination to not get so involved with sexual partners. Now, go forth and fuck more for the body count and be happy. Or just reduce your oxytocin levels so you don't care as much.

[Anonymous]

So if you hit it off and had sex, why "no intimacy" if you're living together? That was the mistake here, moving in together. A guy that has you move in (and you've had sex), is hoping there'd be more with you living there. So if you said to me, "no intimacy", I doubt I could have you as "just a roommate" under those circumstances. You'd be a constant reminder of that "great sex", and why wouldn't you (someone) want that again?

[KrakenAttackin]

Damn you people are fucked up. Find a roommate, fuck him, wonder if there is more, still see other people, still fuck, but are just roommates...

You create all of your own problems.

[clemdenim]

what do your instincts tell you and what do you want to do about it

[Guy13]

If you show slightest interest then he’s all in…

[Guy13]

Good luck with his portion of the bills. I’m sure he thinks he can charm his away out of that too…. Is he straight?

[Iron_Man]

He’s not serious