Boyfriend threaten to cheat on me if I don't have sex, what do I do?

[Anonymous]

So I haven't had sex with my boyfriend in 50 days. There's no actual reason for it, it just that I feel like im being used for my body and that it is all he cares about. When we are together, he is touchy all over my body and rubbing his penis against me. I enjoy sex with him and he makes me feel good when we do it. What makes me want to have sex with a man, he has to do something or at least make me feel good to make me want to do that. He hasn't done any of that. The issue is he is around me 24/7 until we have sex then after it days later he is distant and refuse to talk to me. So he's been wanting to do it for the longest and told me this morning that he was in the mood. I will admit I said silly things like "go do it with someone else" as a joke several times and he got mad and told me that if I continue to say that, he will actually do it. Along with that he said it was his last strike, he needs his needs met and can't masturbate. He will have sex with someone else and my feelings will be hurt. Need help on what to do? Should I just do it?

[bamesjond0069]

Men are entitled to sex. Not necessarily in every circumstance however in 50 days clearly yes. you're being a total bitch and yes he will eventually cheat. Almost all men would. But tbh if you are ok going 50 days without sex then you clearly dont like the guy so just breakup. I know if i didn't fuck my girlfriend in like 2 days she would be jumping on me demanding sex... and id do it because she's entitled to sex. And if i dont have sex in a day or two ill be jumping on her and she will fuck me because im entitled to sex too. This is how relationships work? Dur?

[Birdlegs]

You’re not entitled to anything

[bamesjond0069]

@Birdlegs in return for a relationship and fidelity any self respecting man would demand sex. If not why is she entitled to a relationship or fidelity?

[Birdlegs]

She’s not entitled to a relationship either. I think being faithful comes with being in a relationship though, as does sexual intercourse but it’s not a transaction. You aren’t providing a service that entitles you to sex. If you work then you’re entitled to receive payment. If you pay a prostitute then you’re entitled to receive sex. But a relationship isn’t like either of those scenarios

[bamesjond0069]

@Birdlegs a man is entitled to receive sex but not necessarily from her. If she says no he should just dump her. Thats what id do but i mean most men don't even have this issue i dont think because this issue means precisely she doesn't even like the guy so the relationship is already over sooner than later

[Birdlegs]

Why exactly are men entitled to sex? What gives us the intrinsic right to it?

[bamesjond0069]

@Birdlegs right to have it if you can get it. You dont have to deny sexual opportunities because someone tells you to. Thats ridiculous.

[Anonymous]

I'm torn on this. Because I don't know either of you. And that's very relevant to this. I really disliked your comment about "being used for your body" and I don't KNOW if he's truly doing that or if it's just you feeling he's doing that. Because if a woman gets it in her mind you're guilty of something it really doesn't matter what you do. Because you've been tried, sentenced, and convicted without a trial.
However. I was equally mad at him threatening to cheat on you. You NEVER do that to someone you claim to love! That's not a loving act, that's manipulation pure and simple! Not only would I not sleep with that person I don't know if I could ever look at them the same again. Because I would always question if they ever even loved me.

[oiqt99]

That’s not ok at all. No one should be pressuring you in any way into any kind of sexual contact/activity. That could even potentially be sexual assault. Plus, the way he’s threatening you by justifying cheating on you, seems like he could easily cheat at any time. You are worthy of a man who will treat you right, care about you wholeheartedly, and respect your body. His actions are not justified.

[Smashingdoozy]

No you shouldn't just fuck him because that's way he wants. He sounds like an ass so I would actually say dump him but... Talk to him first, tell him you're not getting anything out of sex and you don't want to fuck him until he makes you cum.

[casanova411]

I don't know what to tell you. I bet he is very frustrated that you won't have sex with him. In a way part of a romantic relationship is having sex. However, he's acting really very strange and inconsiderate to you. In a way, part of a relationship is having sex. If i were you id allow things to be sexual but communicate your feelings with him and give him a chance to change. If he doesn't maybe you will need to think if this relationship is right and healthy for you two.

[FunkyMonkee]

Leave HIM!! You DON'T need someone pressuring you to have sex if you're not ready for it and someone that'd do that is PROBABLY NOT someone you wanna spend the rest of your life with!

[Redstang88]

Have you told him any of this? Hold out on a guy for 2 months for as far as he knows no reason, yeah he’s gonna start looking elsewhere

[RV2121]

If he actually cheats you can cheat on him too so play the game in reverse.

[Anonymous]

You're clearly incompatible but you are the one with a limited shelf life. Dump him, find a partner more compatible while you still can.

[DWornock]

If he could fine another girl that he finds attractive enough, he wouldn't make that threat. Therefore, take it with a grain of salt.

[Shy_Steve]

It's up to you, Do you like being with him when he is like this or not?

If you don't you are better off ending it.

[Twalli]

Withholding sex in a relationship is never a goid thing.

[Anonymous]

If you don’t put out, he has every right to get it elsewhere.

[Sour-rose]

Fk that guy. Straight up.

[Anonymous]

It doesn't sound like you two are compatible.

[Luckycharms12]

Firstly read first line seen enough just dump him

[Luckycharms12]

But hope you said all this to him

[whereismyjohnny]

Uhm… leave?

[Paulalove98]

Leave?

[Anonymous]

How long have you both been together now

[Anonymous]

Yeah, dump his pathetic ass.

[Iron_Man]

Get rid of him

[SignedAutographs]

Leave

[MrSmithee]

sounds toxic