Search Results: find my style

my boyfriend of 6-months has an anxious avoidant attachment style, meaning as much as he wants intimacy he’s afraid of it too!

I’m fully aware that anxious avoidant people find it difficult the deeper they get into a relationship, but I’ve made sure to ask him often if he’s ok with the pace of everything, he’s vocal enough to tell me and he knows he can tell me, every anxiety wave he’s said he felt better after talking to me.

In our culture we date to marry, he introduced me to his parents before I was even ready to tell mine, soon after our families have met a few times now, but he’s have a lot of anxiety about the future, I asked if the pace is too fast we can slow everything down, but he wanted our families to meet, he wanted the pace to stay as it is, everytime I asked!

Is he going to leave me?

I am no where in the position of being in a situation where I get the joy of picking out rings. However ever since my brush with death in my dual truck accident I been reconsidering life. The things I've done and what I want. I also have been plagued with pain nightmares and mini nervous breakdown or panic attacks.

During a recent panic I pulled my car over to relax. I looked up and it happened to be in front of a mall I had bought my engagement ring. Feeling nostalgic needing to relax I went in to the store. There were many memories which washed over me. Good and bad.

I stopped at the ring styles I always wanted. During my first engagement He would have bought it for me had I asked but I didn't dare to. He even implied "that's the one you want isn't it"

I horrifyingly shook my head no in shock. A lie yes but I was very apprehensive at the idea of asking for something so costly with not contributing anything to it. It would have eaten at my conscience. We picked a set which ran significantly less.

Staring at the certain rings I realized I still want what those rings stands for... A forever and happily ever after. A partner whos my equal. I want someone who we balance each others and equally contribute to one anothers needs.

I also realized I'm not the same girl as then. I'm wiser at putting cash a side and I'm more confident. This time I can turn to a man I love and confidently say to him that's the one I want and I'll help pay for it.

My previous husband would have been offended by this. Though he was much older than me and from a different custom.

Do people considered it rude to A pick out one's own ring?

B would it be rude to offer to help pay especially because their requesting a certain ring which may run a bit steep?

As for me I've made up my mind lol that's the ring I want... I don't have the man to go with it yet but I'm hoping to find him! 🤣... And he doesn't have to worry I'll buy it if he can't afford it and then his as well!

I cannot decide.

I've always prefered scoop / round neckline over V neck but this V neck looks really good.

What looks more feminine and flattering to you? (color isn't the subject here atm)