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Why do this? hey everyone 👋🤗 I am just looking for thoughts and opinions here if that is okay. Had this guy friend who I worked with, we would always somehow end up alone together but just chat or laugh, he always helped me with everything. On nights out it would always be just us left together, he would always say things that were specific about me like how I would react to things or the way I move. Whenever we were in a group of someone else would be talking he would always look towards me and catch my eye. We used to have our own little jokes and he would sit with his knee touching my knee not moving. He left work and at his leaving lunch I had written he was my og in the card when one of the guys asked him to make a speech he said my og and then gathered himself. People always assumed something was going on with us and I used to be mistaken for being his friend to give you an idea of how close we were. Am I stupid to think there was something there? Well he was messaging to see how I was doing lately and told me he had a girlfriend? Can I ask what you all think, was he just flirting with me for that long as a joke or to keep busy or something? I just want to understand.

Hey everyone 👋🤗 I am just looking for thoughts and opinions here if that is okay. Had this guy friend who I worked with, we would always somehow end up alone together but just chat or laugh, he always helped me with everything. On nights out it would always be just us left together, he would always say things that were specific about me like how I would react to things or the way I move. Whenever we were in a group of someone else would be talking he would always look towards me and catch my eye. We used to have our own little jokes and he would sit with his knee touching my knee not moving. He left work and at his leaving lunch I had written he was my og in the card when one of the guys asked him to make a speech he said my og and then gathered himself. People always assumed something was going on with us and I used to be mistaken for being his friend to give you an idea of how close we were. Am I stupid to think there was something there? Well he was messaging to see how I was doing lately and told me he had a girlfriend? Can I ask what you all think, was he just flirting with me for that long as a joke or to keep busy or something? I just want to understand. Have no intention of pursuing, just want to hear your thoughts 💭

I watch true crime where the ex lovers of these serial killers talk about how love made them do stupid things, these killers showed really early on they were trouble & these women continued to stay with them because they were so in love with these guys. 29F & being under the impression that I have an avoidant attachment style, over the years I’ve ended “friendships” when I grew tired of dealing with their behaviors that didn’t sit well with me. I have a habit of letting things build up & just eventually ice them out vs confronting them early on. Not to mention, when guys showed earlier on during the talking stages that they may have ways about them that don’t sit well with me, I’ll end it from going any further. Someone I saw very briefly in my early twenties previously dated a girl that was probably bipolar & put him through shit, I would make comments like how I couldn’t believe he still stayed with her through all of that. And he pretty much implied I can’t understand why he did that because I’ve never been in love. I hate being spoken down to, condescension results in me dipping out asap. Again, I pump the brakes in any kind of interpersonal relationship. Am I naive in assuming I’m this way because I just have a strong personality? Or is it because I haven’t met the person that has me so enamored & it results in me being strung along? Thoughts? Similar experiences?