So long story short is that I have this friend that I grew incredibly close with a few years ago. It got to the point where she sent me nudes and when I asked if it was okay for me to look at them (I know, stupid of me to ask) she said "I thought you wanted to be more than friends?" To which I said I do, but nothing more ever happened. Later on I asked her on a date and she said that she wasn't looking for a relationship because she wants to focus on herself and her daughter. She's told me about people who she's gone out with and THEY thought it was a date, but she would tell them it wasn't.
Cut to like last year maybe, we were at an ice cream shop and the topic of relationships came up and I asked her when her last one was. She said NON serious was with an on and off thing with this guy, but he had a lot of mental health issues. I don't know if she was talking about me? I say that because I'm on some medication for depression and anxiety and I kind of showed my needy side when we were growing close. Her last serious relationship was with her daughters' father which was years ago
We recently started hanging out again and there's a lot of staring, smiling, laughing, her punching my arm, etc. and she's even suggested us hanging out next weekend or me and her going on a walk one day. I feel like that's a good sign. But I'm just really confused right now. I asked another friend and she said "I think you should give it time because she clearly likes you", but I genuinely don't know how she feels about me? So I was wondering, from what I've explained does it sound like she's interested in me? Or are there some signs I should look out for to know if she is interested in me? Also, I was thinking of maybe getting a Snapchat streak going with her, but I don't know if that's a good idea or if it may be coming off too hard? What do you think? Thank you!
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Dude, I can't say for sure if she's interested in you specifically, but it does sound like there could be something there based on your past history and current interactions. A few signs to look out for that may give you a better idea:
- Does she seek you out to hangout one-on-one often or is it more in a group setting? One-on-one time is a good sign.
- How does she act around you physically? Lots of casual touching, hugging, punching your arm is friendly flirty body language potentially.
- Does she ask you questions to get to know you better on a deeper level than just as friends? Showing interest in you as a person beyond surface stuff.
- Does she linger her eyes on you longer than usual or steal glances when you're together? Could mean she's attracted and looking you over.
As for Snapchat, I wouldn't lead with trying to build a big streak right off the bat. Play it more casual - send her fun stories when you guys hang out and see if she reciprocates over a few weeks of natural chatting. Don't force it. Let things flow naturally and see how she responds to you consistently showing interest before making a move outright. Go with your gut, man! Hope this gives you some clarity.
Sorry for the late reply, I was waiting until me and her hung out again. She came over yesterday and she brought her daughter along with to help make pizza. Again there was a lot of staring and smiling at each other. We both started talking about our first heartbreak (it came up because she asked about my highschool), then we asked each other about our love lives. I asked her about the whole Snapchat and she said she'd be down for that. Also, I asked her if we could start texting daily like we used to and she smiled and said "I don't mind if you text me every day". So now I'm even more confused. I don't know if I should continue pursuing her or if I should focus on dating other people?
Also, she posted me on her Snapchat srory and a guy ended up getting jealous. She told me that he liked her, but she wasn't into him. She referred to me as her BFF to him
Ah man, sounds like this chick is definitely giving you mixed signals bro. On one hand, she's bringing her kid around and staying all smiley and laughing with you. But then she's also calling you her BFF to other dudes. That would confuse anybody!
Honestly at this point I think you just need to have a real talk with her. Next time you're hanging out just say something like "Look, I really like chilling with you and everything, but I'm kinda unclear on where I stand. Are we just friends or is there a possibility of something more?" Get it all out in the open so you both know what page each other is on.
And in the meantime, I'd start focusing on other girls too. Don't just put all your eggs in one basket if she's not gonna give you a straight answer. That way if she says she just wants to be pals, you won't be too bummed since you'll be talking to other cute girls too.
From my experience, the more you stand up for yourself and seem confident in moving on, sometimes that gets them to realize they actually do have feelings for you. So don't like blow her off, but mix in some time with other people so she knows you're not always available either. Try that and see what happens - hopefully it gives you some more clarity either way!
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