So I would really appreciate some insight from the girls out there about whether or not this girl at work likes me. I certainly don't want to make it awkward between us. We pass each other at work and our conversations have always been light hearted and work related. I take the opportunity when I can to show my appreciation for the work that she does as she is in HR and that as we all know can be a really difficult job. Well after a big presentation she did i made the point of congratulating her on what an awesome job she did and she seemed appreciative. I asked her if she would love to get coffee the next time we are in the office together (which would be a week later) and she said "Wonderful! Yes I should be in". That day came and i felt nervous so i just left it and neither of us spoke about grabbing a coffee together. Well fast forward to last week - it was a rough week as there was a huge round of layoffs across the company and i am sure she was heavily involved in all of that and i can only imagine how awful it was for her and others in HR.
I let the dust settle and then reached out to her yesterday and said "Hi [insert her name here] - no idea what sort of week you had last week but my heart went out to you and others in HR. I hope you are okay." To which she responded a short time later to say "thank you [insert my name here]! I'm on vacation now recovering!" To which the conversation went thusly:
Me: "Good for you! Did you go anywhere warm and sunny for vacation?"
Her: "Opposite! I'm skiing in Japan!"
Me: "WOW!!! FUN!!! I'm jealous - I hope you have a truly awesome time!!!
I would love to catch up with you for lunch/dinner when you are back so I can hear all about your trip!"
Her: "Thank you! I appreciate you reaching out
Yes of course! Sounds like a plan"
So she is back from vacation next week and i am sat here wondering what to make of this.
Is she interested in me the way i am interested in her? Am I overthinking this? What should I do?
I let the dust settle and then reached out to her yesterday and said "Hi [insert her name here] - no idea what sort of week you had last week but my heart went out to you and others in HR. I hope you are okay." To which she responded a short time later to say "thank you [insert my name here]! I'm on vacation now recovering!" To which the conversation went thusly:
Me: "Good for you! Did you go anywhere warm and sunny for vacation?"
Her: "Opposite! I'm skiing in Japan!"
Me: "WOW!!! FUN!!! I'm jealous - I hope you have a truly awesome time!!!
I would love to catch up with you for lunch/dinner when you are back so I can hear all about your trip!"
Her: "Thank you! I appreciate you reaching out
Yes of course! Sounds like a plan"
So she is back from vacation next week and i am sat here wondering what to make of this.
Is she interested in me the way i am interested in her? Am I overthinking this? What should I do?
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Look, noone can tell you this girl 100% likes you, all you can go from is that she didn't reject you and all you can do is to try. It's best to try so you don't have any regrets. When you can try to realize that coffee. If she goes along with it great, see from there. If she makes excuses take it as a bad sign of her not interested. If she rejects you, don't sweat it, at least you'll know and be proud of ysf for even trying. Personally I'm never that bothered about rejecting, I just have this mentality if someone doesn't want me than their loss and I guess that just shows they aren't for me cause if they were they would actually want me. So if you have that attitude you'll be fine. Good luck!
Yup that's the outlook i have on life too! Thank you very much for your opinion i really appreciate it!!!
Just one question for you though - if it were you - would you be looking for me to reach out when she is back off vacation and settled into regular life for me to reach out again and say i dunno something like "Let me know when you are free for lunch/dinner?" Or should i just wait for her to initiate now? I guess with my request to have coffee and now lunch/dinner i feel like i have made my intentions known that i want to take things one step further than casual office banter? Do you know what i mean? Basically i am trying to work out whether i should leave the ball in her court or make another attempt to initiate when she is back and settled from vacation?
Well it would be nice of her to replay something like hi im in town but she may also feel awkward to do so, so id text if she doesn't. Personally I do approach men as well so I know the struggle but u know as I said I dont want any regrets.
Basically you need to make it clear this time, to know if there is a chance or not not to keep wondering like the last time it went unfinished.
Yup i hear you, fair enough
She might be interested but my only concern here is getting involved with someone in HR. It might be a work no-no. She might have her own rules that she doesn’t date employees. Don’t push too much with her. See how it is when she’s back from vacation.
Appreciate this thank you. I was wondering about this too!
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