Is fist bumping and calling a coworker bro enough to know you're not interested?

[fakewomen]

First thing. I am 27 years old not 42. This is a really old account which frankly I'm surpised I even remember it lol. So that's my question. The reason I don't want to tell her is because she is higher in power at a corporate job. She has done things to make me jealous like the typical talk to a guy, laugh, and make sure to walk in the direction you want that person to see they have options. Great you do that. It might work for some guys but it certainly doesn't work for me. HR favors woman here as well and I know she is that type of person to get me fired or something else. It needs to be done vaguely but at the same time well known to figure out.

She isn't worth it for me to jeopardize a good paying job all for a woman. No. So that's my question. I really want to find a way to show her I'm not interested without communication. Make it easy as well to figure it out and move on. If all fails, sigh, I shall talk to her but I really know what the outcome will be. Thanks all.

[WhitneySnow]

I think that should let her know you’re not into her

[fakewomen]

Wish me luck I'm heading now. If I don't see her then her friend told her.

[WhitneySnow]

Good luck

[fakewomen]

Alright so, failed but I am surpised she didn't rush to HR or something. When I finished I gave her a fist bump. She said okay in a way that she was about to cry. But it didn't end I thought it did, she is now stalking me and making it as obvious as possible. This is what I'm afraid of which is why I hate talking about it. I have been stalked before and it sucks. What I am really worried about is if she is in 'love' with me. The only thing she sees from me is my myself she has absolutely no idea what my personal life is. I'm alright when it comes easy on the eyes. I still a regular ass guy. What now?

[WhitneySnow]

She’s really into you. I guess you have to report her to HR now if she won’t leave you alone. I’m really not sure. I’ve never actually had a job so I only know what I’ve heard from adults about stuff like this.

[fakewomen]

She told me a while back when I was just being professional that she doesn't work Mondays. Well today is Monday and I saw her walk past me man. I really felt uncomfortable it's just too much. But the difference I saw was she was wearing a hat and her hair wasn't done. I don't know what else to do. I know she is lusting which is my point she can't love me. I'm a tall guy who works out a lot what more to say.

[fakewomen]

She is my boss in a way not a good look. Also she hasn't done much but stalk me.

[WhitneySnow]

That sounds creepy

[fakewomen]

It really is, I am thinking of just talking to her. But I need advice on how I know she hates my guts and wants me dead. But I want to see if there is a way to soften the blow, you know?

[WhitneySnow]

I’m not sure. Tell her you’d love to be friends?

[fakewomen]

Can that happen? From crush to friend? She has those feelings for me. Again there is nothing wrong with her she is vety attractive. Just I have morals and I think you know where this is going.

[WhitneySnow]

Sometimes friendzoning people actually works. You just have to make it clear to her in a very discreet and subtle way that you’re not into having sex with her. Which I think you’re already doing by fist bumping her and calling her bro and telling her you’re not gonna date her. She gets it. Now the only question is how she’s gonna react to it.

[fakewomen]

Crushed litterly, she doesn't work on Monday but she work on Monday. I saw her walk by wearing a hat and her hair was all messy. She didn't show up since, I really do feel bad. There is nothing wrong with her. I just believe she isn't ready for a serious long term relationship. I'm not look for fun I'm looking to settle down. She won't accept being friends because of the feelings. I'm not going to put a lot of energy then after a few months she's tired and wants out. I also got feelings as well everyone has them. Do you believe this girl was in love with me? I have had crushes and they were nothing this intense. How Is my question? How can you love something you have never known on a deeper but a surface level to begin with?

[WhitneySnow]

In love is a strong word. I think she's infatuated with you, which is a fancy way of saying she’s really into you. But she’s not in love with you for real. She doesn’t even know you.

[fakewomen]

That's what I thought, so what is the real difference from a girl's view? I am going to talk to her, it's been 3 days after this happened and I can't stop thinking about it. It sucks it really does, I at least want her to be happy afterwards. Tell her she is attractive nothing wrong with her, she is a hard working strong independent woman. Then I'll explain more in detail as to what is the reason. Do you think she will listen or that's it, she doesn't want to hear it anymore? I really care for this girl... She did nothing it really urks me you know?

[WhitneySnow]

I think she’ll listen if you’re sincere about it

[fakewomen]

I sure am I really feel bad and I want her to understand. I don't want to explain just give her hints as females do as well. Do you think she is over it or not? How long do you keep your crush when rejected or not? Sincere? Oh yeah the issue is will she listen or just get bored of me talking a lot?

[WhitneySnow]

I really think she’ll listen to you

[fakewomen]

Thank you very much! You're a good listener wish you the best and hopefully you find your man. Just out of curiosity, do women usually try to make their crush jealous or someone they really like, why though?

[WhitneySnow]

Sometimes lol. We think he’ll like us better and appreciate us more if he thinks someone else does too. And thank you 😊.

[fakewomen]

So that's what it means, I don't know how that really helps it kind of shows us she is playing mindgames. Sorry but those online articles about how to get your crush to like you back or how to let him chase you. Those work for boys they don't work for men. We are looking for our Queen. Not just have a good time, that means, just have sex and get bored from each other. Well tomorrow I am going to talk to her, any advice on how to approach for her to just want to listen. Or will she be so hurt and mad at me that she just doesn't care?

[WhitneySnow]

No. No real advice. Just be sincere. Good luck.

[fakewomen]

Alright. I'm thinking of just approaching her and say, Hi *insert name* I would like to talk to you about last week. That good or continue? He is my supervisor I need to be careful... I don't know if she is planning to get me in trouble in a way. I care for her she just needs to understand these fantasies don't exist in real life 99.99% of them that is. Anyways thank you I'll update tomorrow.

[WhitneySnow]

Awesome 😊

[fakewomen]

As I suspected, she didn't even budge. She looked normal as if it was the first time I ever met her. I asked her if I could see her whenever she is available. She said do I need and told her about last week. She said what about last week I forgot what happened. I said I called you bro and fist bumped you. Then she laughed and said so. I told her alright you sure you're okay she said yeah I'm fine. I told her alright, if you ever need to talk let me she said okay.

What the f*ck! I really planned on how to talk to her. It's pointless man.

[WhitneySnow]

She’s covering her ass. Pretending like she has no idea what you’re talking about. Dw. Now that you called her on her bs it’s unlikely she’ll bother you again.

[fakewomen]

Well that's the thing I want to clear the air. Why do this? Is it to make guys more gulity or what?

[WhitneySnow]

Not sure. I don’t do that.

[fakewomen]

Well she got me I'm feeling gulity and pissed.

[iseekpinetrees]

Yea I guess

[fakewomen]

What would you think if a guy did that to you? Don't get me wrong, I would but this girl is that type and you know what I mean.

[iseekpinetrees]

If it bothered me enough prob move jobs

[fakewomen]

Wow I mean it's just a crush...

Well I told her and I ended it with a fist bump. I said okay in a sob kind of way I didn't like it I really didn't. She is now stalking me. She hasn't fixed her hair and just wear a hat now. Mondays she doesn't work as she told me in a professional manner of course. It's Monday today and I saw her walk by looking at me the entire time. What should I do? She is my boss in a way and hasn't done anything but stalk me. Why won't she get the message. No she is pretty nothing wrong with her.

[iseekpinetrees]

Might wanna move jobs if she's making u so uncomfortable

[fakewomen]

I actually want to talk to her. I know she hates my guts. She has the right to understand. How can I transition for her to hear me out?