- met a guy about a month ago, we’ve texted and hung out a few times in the last month. The most recent time he wanted to kiss me and was very clearly interested in me (physically). I told him “I know you want to kiss me but I want to be taken on a proper date first.” He told me to text him when I got home that night (we were bar hopping with friends), I did. We chatted pretty frequently throughout the week about anything and everything, I thought things were going well! (Even sending cute little photo of us at work to each other) he kept showing interest over text asking how my day was going, and just conversations back and forth about things we like/don’t like and him saying how gorgeous I am, smart, witty and he said he looking forward to the date Friday!
well, Friday came along, I got a text at 9AM that he had gone out to dinner with friends the night before and it was a long night and he woke up with a sore throat.
I recently was stood up by another guy like bad stood up this dude played me like a fool! I showed up we confirmed the date, time, place everything and I stood there looking stupid and it really hurt.
I assumed this guy was kind of hinting at flaking out, I told him to loose my number, he replied “with that response I probably should” - I then apologized and explained to him why I reacted the way I did and i recently got blown off and it was coming off he was trying to bail on the date the day of. He even made reservations at the restaurant (but I know everyone can make reservations, it’s not that hard).
- I feel bad I was so harsh and quick to respond negatively and I am EMBARRASSED.
I just don’t know if he was blowing me off or I actually dodged a bullet and called him on his BS.
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Was he blowing me off on our date or did I blow it out of proportion?
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Yes, you reacted way too soon. I understand you feeling like you were being stood up since you went through that before and you were worried it was happening again, but the real test would've been if you had just told this guy something like "Okay, no problem. Let me know when we can find a better time." That would've left the ball in his court and allowed you to see what he would or wouldn't do next, which would also tell you if he's serious or not.
It's okay to have concerns about somebody being just another douche, but you don't just jump the gun like that without having more time to see what unfolds. Best thing you can do from here is not say anything else to him. He'll either accept your apology or he won't.
Hmmmmm... sex...
What? 😂
What are you getting at here?
That’s what he wanted?
yes definitely
move on