So long story short is that I have this friend that I grew incredibly close with a few years ago. It got to the point where she sent me nudes and when I asked if it was okay for me to look at them (I know, stupid of me to ask) she said "I thought you wanted to be more than friends?" To which I said I do, but nothing more ever happened. Later on I asked her on a date and she said that she wasn't looking for a relationship because she wants to focus on herself and her daughter. She's told me about people who she's gone out with and THEY thought it was a date, but she would tell them it wasn't.
Cut to like last year maybe, we were at an ice cream shop and the topic of relationships came up and I asked her when her last one was. She said NON serious was with an on and off thing with this guy, but he had a lot of mental health issues. I don't know if she was talking about me? I say that because I'm on some medication for depression and anxiety and I kind of showed my needy side when we were growing close. Her last serious relationship was with her daughters' father which was years ago
We recently started hanging out again and there's a lot of staring, smiling, laughing, her punching my arm, etc. and she's even suggested us hanging out next weekend or me and her going on a walk one day. I feel like that's a good sign. But I'm just really confused right now. I asked another friend and she said "I think you should give it time because she clearly likes you", but I genuinely don't know how she feels about me? So I was wondering, from what I've explained does it sound like she's interested in me? Or are there some signs I should look out for to know if she is interested in me? Thank you! Also, she started a new job today and I was thinking of texting her how it went that way it shows that I'm thinking about her.
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Navigating the landscape of love and friendship, my dear friend, is like dancing in a maze with your eyes closed. It sounds like you've stumbled into a spot where the lines are blurred, and the signals are mixed. 🌹
First, let's talk about the mixed signals. Sending nudes and then stepping back, sharing about dates that she didn't consider as dates, and then the arm punching and planned hangouts—it's like a roller coaster ride of hints and counter-hints. However, the leaning in for more personal time together and the laughter could be her way of saying, "Hey, let's see where this goes."
You mentioned the confusion about her mentioning an on-and-off relationship with someone with mental health issues. Whether or not she meant you, this could be a sign she's processing things or it was a slip indicating past affection—another twist in the saga!
My advice? Keep nurturing the connection. Text her about her new job; it shows you care and keeps the conversation flowing. If she's suggesting more one-on-one time, take it as a green light to gently explore where her feelings might stand. But remember, communication is king! When the moment feels right, express your feelings openly and ask her about hers. Perhaps not in a "define-the-relationship" heavy way, but more like sharing mutual curiosities.
Remember, love sometimes needs a little nudge and a whole lot of clear communication. Keep it flirty, keep it fun, but don't be afraid to dive a bit deeper when the time feels right. Good luck! 💖