Should I go after this manger and expose him?

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there's a manger at my work who I was previously good friends with until lately. I'm starting to see the real him. I don't like it one bit.

he is 40 years old whilst I'm 26 but I think he believes I'm younger because I look young for my age, like 18/19 so he thinks I'm gonna be more easy to manipulate but this isn't my first toxic male manger I've delt with..

one minute he's telling me I'm pretty when I smile, that I smell nice, that he cares about me, that I should out for drinks with him and other colleagues etc.

then next he's talking down to me and telling me I'm a stupid idiot, I wish I had his job, my partner doesn't know what he's getting himself into marrying me and trying to make me look and feel small in front of others.

I'm not the only woman at work he treats this way but he's also using his power as a manger to have inappropriate relations with colleagues that are wayyyyyyyyy younger then him and there's a massive power struggle there too.

I'm not stupid, and I know this guy isn't my friend, and I'm actually a very highly respected union rep at my work.

I'm the first female union rep my work has ever had a feel I big responsibility to do a good job to prove myself and bring more women into the union and start sticking up for their rights at work.

i especially feel protective of the younger girls at work, especially the ones who've from abroad for work as they have no one to look out for them and this manger especially targets these girls because they are young and alone.

I'm building an investigation into him and I'm making a complaint about him on Wednesday. obviously I can't talk about his inappropriate relationships with young female colleagues as I have no proof and it's a grey area as most these women haven't came out to complain yet but feel when they are older they may regret things they did for him to work there way up

TommyMountainFigure · Accepted Answer

When I was younger, I too had managers/manageresses who liked to lord it over everyone. There was one specifically who liked to throw people's work high into the air and claim it was sh*t.

She tried it on me once, and I said well of course it's sh*t, you're the one who taught me to do it like that! She went off at me so hard, I thought she was going to hit me. lol

As for what you should do? You have to nip it in the bud straight away because like you said, being the first Female Union Rep where you work is an honour AND you have to be seen by the other women to be strong.

SotiCoto · Accepted Answer

I've got a search specifically set up for finding where idiots have written "Manger" instead of "Manager" in the database so I can correct the error.
They keep doing it though.
It just sounds so funny when I say it out loud.

Jennz6 · Accepted Answer

You’re right, the manager should not be that way with the young girls or anyone really. Is he a pervert? Is it sexual or just demeaning verbally. I’ve been abused, and I didn’t have anyone to help me. You go girl.

MisterWack · Answer

Contact HR, don’t do stupid games of “I think imma expose him”. Just talk to HR.

JesseP1nk · Answer

If it comes to this that HR have to fire one of you. Who do you think it will be? :) Manager or you? :)

Dongie · Answer

That's not a male problem it's a power mad jerk problem. I've encountered at least one woman that was racist and used that against some employees.

DrPepper12 · Answer

Build your case and expose him! #Solidarity

jjj101010 · Answer

Ur in the UK aren’t u?

eagle1951 · Answer

yeah

Should I go after this manger and expose him?

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