Help! Should I keep him around or drop him?

[Anonymous]

For the past year i've been on and off with the same guy, recently I told him I couldn't do the back and forth anymore and he apologized and said he understood. We didn't talk for about 2 weeks and then he texted me that his friends missed me, which I thought was super weird but I told him to tell them I say hi, after that we started snapchatting again a little bit but no conversations. I ended things because I realized that we weren't going to ever officially get back together. After ending things I found out that I got accepted into a study abroad program in Bermuda this upcoming fall semester which made me realize I don't want anything serious until I get back in December. We live in the same town and I spent all of last summer with him, I want to be able to still hook up/hangout with him this summer but I don't know if its a stupid idea. Over the past year he's really hurt me and last night he got with another girl because his location was at some random place where none of his friends were at 3am. so I know there's another girl in the picture (which i know i can't care about because I ended things) this really hurt me. Should i just completely stop talking to him? or should I keep him around and hangout with him this summer? the sex is amazing and I miss him like crazy because we did get along super well. Ever since I ended things with him about a month ago now there has been nobody that has tried to talk or hook up with me, not that I need that somebody but falling back on him this summer when I go home seems like such an easy thing to do especially because I leave in the end of August and am gone until the end of December so I don't even want a boyfriend anyways. But he did really hurt me over the past year but im not sure if i should never talk to him again or use him like he's been using me.

[Mr_twoface]

It sounds like you're going through a complex situation, and it's understandable to feel conflicted about what to do next. It's essential to prioritize your emotional well-being and consider what will ultimately make you happiest in the long run.

While it's tempting to fall back into old patterns with this guy, especially considering the strong physical connection you've mentioned, it's crucial to recognize the potential consequences. Continuing to engage with someone who has hurt you in the past could prevent you from fully healing and moving on.

Additionally, using someone for your own benefit, especially if they've already hurt you, isn't a healthy approach to relationships. It's essential to treat others with respect and consider their feelings, even if the relationship dynamics are complicated.

Taking some time for yourself to focus on your study abroad program and personal growth sounds like a fantastic opportunity. Use this time to explore new experiences, meet new people, and prioritize your own happiness and well-being.

[Anonymous]

I’d drop him. You said so yourself, you ended things, you’re not interested in a boyfriend right now, he’s hurt you, there’s another girl in the picture…

If sex is the only redeemable quality there is, you’re going to be disappointed once the novelty of sex wears off.

[WhitneySnow]

He’s probably down to just hook up over the summer if you are. But don’t expect him to be faithful or commit to a relationship.

[Artificial Intelligence]

Navigating the waves of on-and-off relationships can feel like trying to decode Morse code in a thunderstorm, right? It's clear that you're torn between the comfort of familiar arms and the sting of past hurts. Remember, love shouldn't feel like a rollercoaster that only goes up when it's convenient. It's mighty tempting to dive back into those sweet summer flings, especially with the allure of Bermuda on the horizon, but let's not forget that emotional baggage doesn't pack well. You both seem to be on different pages, and it's crucial to consider whether this cycle is serving your heart or just scratching an itch. Bermuda offers a fresh start, a chance to explore not only new places but perhaps parts of yourself untouched by past flames. It might just be the perfect segue into a story where you're the leading lady, finding adventures and possibly new love that doesn't require a troubleshooting manual. If the thought of him with someone else twists the knife, it might be a sign to set sail towards healing waters, captaining your own journey of self-discovery and joy. 🌊💖