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I have had to turn down a few women over the years for this reason (despite liking everything else about them).

It’s tried to force myself to date a woman who I wasn’t physically attracted to once in my life. That ended in absolute disaster. I also left feeling like a pos because I got her hopes up.

But I have never straight up told a woman I was turning her down because I wasn’t physically attracted to her. It just sounds way too cruel. I have alluded to it (e. g. said I wasn’t feeling the spark, she’s not my type, etc). But not said it straight out. I know the desire to feel attractive and getting attention from men is a big deal to their existence (it is for men too even though we don’t admit it)

However I have had woman reject me and say this straight to my face. It was the truth but they could of just said “sorry but I don’t have feelings for” or just “sorry I am not interested”. I would of gotten the hint just as easily. Not need to point the obvious anyhow then necessary.

Women often accuse men of being superficial and cruel. But I’ve observed the opposite more often then once. I think men have generally conditioned to be more “delicate” when rejecting women. But not the same vice versa.

I have been seeing this woman for a while and today she said something which confuses me. She said to me “when you don’t watch my Instagram story or look at my stuff… I start to ask questions”. What does she mean by starting to ask questions? I’m busy I have things to do and I can’t sit around watching her content all the time so sometimes I miss the content but what’s with the phrase “I start to ask questions”. Please let me know.

another time I did not reply to texts and she was like “oh really you wanna (beep) ignore me”

one time we had a argument and I said forget it and turned my phone off. I turned it on later and she sent me a voicemail saying “oh forget it then? You hurt me so bad”

I meant forget it as in don’t worry about it. She was very upset and I tried to calm it down by writing that and turning the phone off

I can’t ask her this because I told her once before that we are fine and then she said “oh what? You think I’m crazy do you? l” and there was an argument. Thank you