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Okay... so I was on an online forum, presumably a pretty toxic one, and the topic at hand was whether it was "okay" or not for "fat" women to wear revealing clothing or show skin. And one of the people attached the photo of the woman above, saying something like: "Do you REALLY wanna see elephants like this wearing such skimpy outfits such as this? How can a woman who looks like THAT leave the house dressed like that and feel absolutely no shame?"

And I was just like... WHAT? Is that literally not just an average or normal body type? She definitely isn't super skinny, but she most definitely doesn't look "fat" to me either. She does have somewhat of a belly, but then again, so do a lot of people. I wouldn't even consider it a bad thing, just some extra softness. Her belly definitely doesn't look excessive to me either.

Honestly, I'd refer to her as "curvy." She has big boobs and relatively wide hips, only her waist is a normal size instead of super thin. Which makes sense. Usually curvier women won't be super skinny.

Also... my own body type is quite a bit "fatter" compared to hers, so if she's "fat" what does that make me... lol...

I'll also get this out there, I'm bisexual and her body type is honestly kind of ideal to me. She's in pretty good shape overall, yet looks like someone who can enjoy pasta and beer and just chill. She isn't supermodel attractive or anything, but I like more average looking girls since they're more welcoming and relatable to me. I find the supermodel types too intimidating/unapproachable anyway, lol.

So I (26 F) have this friend, let’s call her Dana (27F), who’s overall cool to hang with, however she tends to body shame every moment she gets. She’s overweight and super tall ( about 6’2) while I’m short (5’0) and in shape due to me actively competing in sports. In particularly, she comments about my chest size, often calling me flat, (I don’t think I am, I’m a 34 C) and saying that I’m super skinny (again I don’t think so because I lift weights). I told her several times her comments bother me and she would stop for a while but it would kick back up. That brings us to this past weekend. We were all hanging out at a party and we were having fun. Her husband was there and he’s no one really likes him. He mentioned to me how good I looked and considered messing around with me. I walked away annoyed because not only is he gross, but I don’t mess around with my friend’s SO. Later on that night we were all playing drunk taboo and the word on the card was surf board. My team didn’t get the word and as we were laughing at our competitiveness, Dana took the opportunity to say “you should’ve mentioned (my) chest, since she’s flat as board.” I got pissed off with her trying to embarrass me and I responded “instead of constantly body shaming me, take your fat ass to the gym and maybe you want to get to my size, since your man talks about how good I look and is dtf.” She looked shocked, started crying and left the party. The friend group is divided. Half of them laughed and says Dana deserved it because she talks a lot of shit while others say I shouldn’t have mentioned the comment about her man. So AITA?