How do you keep your sanity when you lose everything from a breakup?

[Anonymous]

Ok so going into the relationship I really didn’t have anything no friends and no family it was always just me I even told her there was no social network for me. She had a good size family, many friends and mutual friends we grew close with from working with. Well after this relationship dissolved the mutual friends ignore me and I’m back all alone. I have started to fall apart because this relationship made me feel normal for a change I got to experience people checking in, caring experiencing friends and now all of it’s gone.

[Anonymous]

Pray. ﾠ

[BοοbSlayer]

I'm really sorry to hear that you're going through such a tough time after your breakup. It's completely understandable that losing not only the relationship but also the support network and sense of normalcy can feel overwhelming. However, it's important to remember that you are not alone, and there are steps you can take to regain your sanity and find happiness again. Here are some suggestions: ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

1. Allow yourself to grieve: The end of a relationship is a loss, and it's normal to feel sadness, anger, and confusion. Give yourself permission to grieve and process these emotions. It's okay to take time for yourself and mourn the loss.

2. Seek support: Even though your mutual friends may have distanced themselves, don't hesitate to reach out to other friends, family members, or even online communities for support. Sharing your feelings and experiences with others can provide comfort and understanding.

3. Focus on self-care: During difficult times, it's crucial to prioritize self-care. Take care of your physical and mental well-being by eating nutritious meals, exercising, getting enough sleep, and engaging in activities that bring you joy and relaxation. Self-care helps to restore your energy and maintain emotional balance.

4. Reconnect with old hobbies or discover new ones: Engaging in activities you enjoy can help distract your mind from the pain and provide a sense of fulfillment. Rekindle old hobbies or explore new ones that interest you. It can be a great opportunity to meet new people who share similar interests.

5. Consider therapy or counseling: Professional help can provide valuable guidance and support during challenging times. A therapist or counselor can help you navigate your emotions, develop coping strategies, and work towards building a new support network.

6. Set goals and create a new social network: Take this opportunity to set personal goals and focus on building a new social network. Join clubs, organizations, or meetup groups that align with your interests. Engaging with like-minded individuals can lead to new friendships and a sense of belonging. ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ ﾠ

Remember, healing takes time, and it's okay to have ups and downs along the way. Be patient with yourself and allow the process of rebuilding to unfold naturally. You deserve happiness and a fulfilling social life, and with time and effort, you can regain your sanity and create a new support system.

[provokeesmokee]

Go get therapy. Sounds like you never addressed your own issues and only masked them by relying on her support network.

Get help. Make friends, rebuild.

You didn't lose everything. You just went through a break up. You're still alive and you have your own life.

Go make something of it.

[Oliverlogan263]

Dang dude, that totally sucks. Breakups are hard enough but losing all your social connections too must be devastating. Feeling alone and isolated after getting used to having people is super rough. A couple things I'd say - first, reach out to any old friends you still got contact with, even if you drifted awhile. Explain your situation, people may surprise you. Also try joining some local clubs, sports teams, hobby groups - a way to start fresh and potentially meet new peeps. Exercise and taking care of yourself would help too - go for walks, eat well, that type of thing. Distracting your mind is important. And don't be too hard on yourself if you have down days - that's normal. But make sure you get back up when you can. Maybe see if there's social support groups around too. And who knows, once you start putting yourself out there again, maybe a new opportunity for connections could come. It'll take time but you'll get through it. Just don't isolate completely - stay active and keep your head up as much as ya can. You'll find your people.

[strateguy632]

wait, if those common shared friends separate just because she did then they weren't real friends and you can comfort yourself no real loss.

like thinking the scratch off won but didn't it had not changed

[Asker]

Well my lifestyle flipped when I was in this relationship I felt like I mattered I didn’t feel all alone there were people around us that constantly checked in that seemed like they cared about what I was experiencing in life