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Lets say a male is dating another male... but that person is converting to a different gender... whom knows which one.

That can be really messed up if the first male didn't know the other other wanted to change in the first place, causing sexual frustrations. They may be confused themselves on their gender identity... maybe they should switch too, causing the other to lose interest?

Add to it, the person they are dating could be putting an emotional burden on them about how people don't like trans people and they call trans people mentally ill. Hurting the feelings of the partner might invoke the first person to fits of hatred and rage... pride... enough to do harm to others.

It all seems nuts, but in this mindset, it seems they may act out... and feel good about what they did.. because they are confused and kind nutty in the first place. Maybe they kill someone to defend the honor of their gender changing mate? It be justified to some to silence the voice harming the one they care for, might even feel good about it, but later, confused. People have been known to kill on command from others. doesn't' take much.

Lastly, do you think such people caught up in such gender, sexual, and relational confusions might possibly... have mental illnesses lurking? Like... some deeper issues that distort reality?

It's girls ask guys... so seems a valid psychological question.

It strikes me... without a reference point for what is sane, it's difficult to have that... sanity...

It's all conjecture...

Ok me and this girl met when we were about 20 and had a great relationship for 8 years. I started drinking and it lead to us breaking up. She started dating a guy 2 weeks later I introduced her to. They lasted less than a year and we got back together exactly a year after separating.

I ended up finding pictures of her in sexy outfits and nudes on our old camera one day and some sexting stuff while going through our stuff in a closet I was cleaning out. I didn't tell her I found them. I spent the next 3 years trying to get her to send me dirty pictures. She broke up with me again and we separated for 3 years and then ended up back together again.

we've been back together over 10 years now and I have randomly tried a lot of times to get her to send me sexy stuff or sext with me, nothing has worked. This finally came to a head. I got tired of trying and getting nothing. We got into a pretty big argument about it and during the argument I find out that she thinks I'm talking about pictures she sent to another guy she dated right after we broke up the second time.

So both guys she dated right after we split she sent nudes and sexted with but whenever I have tried to get her to in the past I get excuses like she's worried about sending them because someone could get them for whatever reason which is all just excuses to me. So What, did you send them with pigeons the last 2 times.

Over the years this has gotten under my skin trying and never getting anything back. I usually have tried when I've been out of town for work or something. When I've tried sexting with her the responses have been either nothing at all or something that was just lame or her saying she didn't know what to say.

She says that she's been more sexually adventurous with me than anyone else ever. Our sex life I used to think was good but now I'm second guessing it. I usually make sure she gets off first and then she's in a hurry to get it over with. why is there no desire or lust there for her?