I analyze everything.
Probably a little too much, but I'm sure I'm not the only one.
This is quite a common trait- people who just decode everything, even if in reality, it is very simple. If you're a fellow #overthinker , holla at me :P ✌🏽
The Over-Thinker is either born that way or has had something happen to them which has caused them to be exxxxtra weary in situations that could harm their well being. They are quite intelligent, and like to remain in their comfort zone. They are skeptics, and ask a lot of questions, even if they aren't all outspoken. Their mind is always racing about one thing or another. And it is fucking exhausting.
Questions within questions. Why? To stay safe.
This can take a huge toll on all kinds of relationships though, so it is a blessing and a curse. You need to understand that an over-thinker can come off as selfish, picky, insecure, and/or high maintenence. No. An over-thinker is a person who has had enough of being screwed over. I'm not defending this trait, because it can be quite tiresome to the person dealing with it, but I'm explaining the important point that there is so much lying beneath the surface. I'm sure guys can relate, but I'll let you into a little into the mind of an over-thinking woman to show you what I mean.
Why me?
Of all the women in the world, why choose me? Am I some kind of target? Am I just another woman you want to add to your precious gallery? Another name on the list? Another number in your phone? Another girl on your social media? Another girl to entertain you?
I am not your masterpiece. 👗
What do you want?
How long do you want me? Do you want sex? Do you want my heart? Do you want my soul? Is it my body? Is it that you like my smile? Do you want to get married someday? A one night stand? Do you want to love me for real? Or do you want to break my heart?
I am not your movie. 🎬
How many women have you said that to?
'Sexy' doesn't make me feel special. When you say 'I never knew what love was till I met you', how am I supposed to believe you've never said that before? When you write poetry and love notes, are they just for me? Do you even remember my birthday? When you send me romantic songs, are those just for me? Or are those saved in some kinda 'romance' folder on your desktop?
I've heard it all before... 🔇
What if he's playing me?
I'm looking for the real deal. But you? ... What if you're just a man in a mask? What if you're not who I think you are? What if you're performing to give me what you think I want? What if you're willing to take me all the way, just to drop me in the end? What if you're just playing the music you think I like, but it's music you hate? What if you're rolling with my interests, because you know that will lure me in?
I am not your piano. I am not your violin. 🎼
How am I supposed to trust you?
You tell me you love me, but you don't call me. We try to set up dates, but you're always 'busy'. You say you feel strongly for me, but you ignore me. You say you respect my privacy, but you tell the world about us. I tell you my secrets, and I find out later that you've told someone... or some ten. I give you my talent, and you pass it off as your own. I give you my heart, and you think I'm your accessory.
I am not your Ferrari. 🏇🏽
Why can't I just let go?
What the hell is wrong with me? I'm only being hurt. I'm only being pushed up against a wall, getting beat up. And not in a good way. I still come back. Why is that? Why am I so stupid? Why am I even giving you another chance? Is this a moment of strength or weakness? How much longer will I have to hold on?
I am not your doormat. I am not your punching bag.💥
THE SOLUTION?
An over-thinker will ALWAYS drop their guard when you can prove that you have the ability to drop your own. That goes beyond words and must show in your actions too. You can't be half in. You need to put it all on the table. As a result, you prove yourself trustworthy. If your ego is too high to make that kind of effort and take that kind of risk, then an over-thinker is definitely not someone you should pursue.
Sounds simple? Well that's because it is, but you know what they say, 'easier said than done'.
~j.B🍌
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