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The Small Often Defeats The Large, Especially Mentally

Small often defeats the large.


The small often defeats the large, especially mentally.



I saw a cricket on the ground as I was walking, and being the anti-insect-phobia person I am, I was hesitant to move, I was hoping it would move out of my way so I could keep walking and eventually I noticed it was covered in ants. It was still alive, but these thousands of ants that are a thousandth of the size of this cricket, together were able to bring it down.



I started this morning feeling happy and great, my SO got out of bed at 5.30am to give me a hug goodbye because I was leaving early. But within 3 hours I was sitting in my car in tears because 10 different things had managed to happen from 10 different people that while I brushed it off at first, just kept going.



We often hear that "it's weak to cry" or "weak to ask for help" (especially men - sorry guys). But I don't believe that, I think it's incredibly strong and brave to ask for help, or even just ask someone to sit there while you cry. Even if you can't think of exactly why you're crying, just doing it every once in a while. Because those 10 little things in one day, or 10 little things over a period of a month tear at you. And it's best to talk about them one at a time as they come.



To bring this into a relationship setting, if you find you dislike a thing like what nickname he's made up to call you, tell him straight away, don't let it get to a point it's annoying you. Because while that's only one thing building up, it'll link to other things, and something that happens externally from your relationship will add on and eventually you'll burst the next time he calls you that name (without bad intention because he doesn't know) and only end up hurting you both.



They say communication is key, and it is. When something starts to get to you, tell someone, and if you don't feel you can, because I can relate to that I've always been a "lone soldier" with nobody to talk to, at least 'talk to yourself', let yourself cry and think about what is going on and deal with the problem alone then.



We're all human, we all have emotions (well most of us), and emotions should be acknowledged, you're allowed to feel bad and let it get to you and deal with it. It'll help you personally and in relationships in the long run.

The Small Often Defeats The Large, Especially Mentally
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