I'm a relatively new member of this site (been here for about a month) and so many questions on here deal with insecure young people asking about their weight. When I first saw the comments under those, I couldn't believe my eyes. Instead of encouraging others to love themselves, which was what I still had hope for, even though it's the Internet, most of you seem to think it's a good idea to bash them as "fat" and to make them feel ashamed of their body.
Has your mama not taught you some manners? Do you think it's okay to tell someone "yeah, you're a fat and therefore lazy and bad"? Well, I already can hear all the health fanatics coming in, chanting their never ending choirs of "but they're unhealthy, I just want to help them, so it's okay!!!!"
NEWSFLASH FROM A FORMERLY OVERWEIGHT GIRL: no, it's not okay. I don't care about how good and pure your intentions might be, but you don't know anything about the person behind the screen. They might be struggling with an eating disorder. Maybe they already have a low self-esteem because of the way they look. Would you know if the asker is on the verge of suicide? What if I told you that your hate might be the final push?
And apart from that: Why is it your business? You probably don't know that person, you're probably not friends with that person, you're not sleeping with that person. I guess you wouldn't just go out in the street and yell "you're fat" at a stranger either, wouldn't you? Oh yes, because it's RUDE.
Plus, who gave you the authority? Where's your PhD in medicine? In nutrition? You don't have one, do you? So no actual authority to talk about that anyway. In case do have one: you surely did a proper assessment of that person and their lifestyle before voicing your professional opinion?
Well, you see where we're going with this. I don't want it to be confused as an apology for obesity, which is dangerous and shouldn't be encouraged, or as an attack against people who genuinely promote a healthy life (which includes both physical and mental health) but unless you have a real qualification apart from some side "education" and have properly assessed the situation, you have no business with another person's body.