I'm attracted to my "bully"?

[Anonymous]

Well he's been bullying me since we were small... And i've always thought he was hot. We argue a lot and he picks on me a lot. Despite how much we hate eachother... I always imagined us getting super mad at eachother and then... Exploding in some rough making out or something. Don't know if he ever felt like that too... But I don't know what to do. I still hate him though. I always feel like i'm on the edge of my seat, waiting for him to just go for it already. I don't want a relationship with him, he pisses me off but he just drives me insane and something needs to happen. What tf

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I'm sorry, i meant to put this under "social relationships"

[Ozanne]

I think you're just interested in the fiery passionate aspect - not so much thinking of the happiness you would have if you really were involved, which doesn't sound like would happen. Just the sex would be great.

I think it's sort of a power-transfer for you. Your bully makes you feel like shit, and it would be great to have him sit down and shut up while you seduced him. I get this. It's when *you* are in control of what's going on, and he himself transfers his negative attention in to passion while with you.

It's fine and probably normal to want to have a fantasy like this, but I think you see the writing on the wall if you actually got involved with him. He's already showing he has no respect for you by treating you so badly even now. Unless he does a complete turn-about and becomes fiercely protective of you and shows you that he actually has a lot of love for you, then you will just be a kick toy for him.

I personally wouldn't recommend pursuing anything because people like this are wild cards and you never know what you're in for. You may have a very negative experience on your hands, and will be especially bad if you break up. Keep your fantasy a pleasant one, until you meet someone who can actually give you all of what you want all together: respect and fiery passion at the same time. :)

[Asker]

Thank you, i apreciate all the effort in your response!!!

[Kiwedin]

Ouu I remember being in a situation like this when I was in high school. So much tension and he pissed me right the fuck off, I hated him so much. He was always teasing me and sometimes we'd even get in actual very heated arguments where would actually yell at each other, but I moved away for the rest of high school. When I graduated I went back to my home town for the summer and we saw each other at a party and ended up hooking up hahah. Best hookup ever and we've been dating for over two years now lmao. We don't argue anymore either, it's like once you add the sex in and admit attraction to each other, that anger just dissipates.

[Dave20151]

Ah, yeah, the immature ones

[Kiwedin]

Pretty much, but that was like junior high years, so no surprise.

[ConfusedShyGirl]

This isn't like in the movies or storys. He is a dickhead, realize that you only like him for the looks and find someone nicer.

[Anonymous]

Maybe that's why he bullys you because he secretly loves you.

[523206720]

you have self-esteem issues which is why you are willing to have sex with your bully.

[Asker]

I promise you i am completely confident and satisfied with myself. I am positive that is not the case but thank you fir replying.

[mithramitzmittu]

Ignore these feelings or else you'd be in huge trouble!

[Anonymous]

He likes you and y'all could have some wild fun kinky sex/foreplay

[Anonymous]

Ah the sprouting of a submissive in the bed room it's cute

[cinderelli]

life is not a movie.. or a book.

[Anonymous]

stockholm syndrome is strong with this one... .

[WaterNymph611]

Ana Steele?

[cinderelli]

hahahaha... good one..