My Crush Thinks I'm Creepy?

[Anonymous]

I've started having a crush on this boy in my Gym class. I sent him a message on Facebook and a friend request... it went horrible. I asked him a simple: "Are you in my Gym class?" Oh God, worst decision ever. He's one of the smarter kids, and is my first crush, however I didn't expect him to be so upfront with me. I've told others of my liking of him, and it ended up ruining my chance of ever being with him. He messaged me back saying that I'm being annoying and to stop and don't talk to him etc. The people who knew pestered him about me, so obviously I know that he's irritated. My question is: how will I get to know him if he doesn't want to talk to me? I already messed up, big time and you probably think he's rude but he's actually a kind and interesting person. Please, only real and effective advice! I really don't want answers like "there are other fish in the sea".

[Paris13]

He is still Wet behind the Ears in Years here, dear, and with this Being said and Al... He messaged me back saying that I'm being annoying...
For now, let it Go and Let Him Go as well, don't "Bother" with him and Allow things to calm down, Including yourself.
The only thing you can do perhaps a month maybe from now, is go slow with Joe, be Civil and friendly but do not Over do it. He sounds like he has gotten this sour ball already in his Mouth and yes, I admit, things could have gone South. But the way too man's heart is not always through his tummy, so with trying to be light and semi sweet, being too this hardest apple to Grab and to Get, is also a Good way to try and pave the way to this Guy.
Don't focus on just Joe Though... Many others for The... Picking. A guy, no matter how Hard you try and reel him in, will Only Bite if he Sees a Delight.
Good luck. xx

[OldTimeFlicksChick]

Obviously he is very kind and intelligent with that answer. I know you don't want to hear it but honestly you didn't do anything wrong at all and for him to act that way only shows his immaturity. You probably want to hear that he likes you and that is why he is stand offish but that is unlikely. Personally I think you should move on.

If you are hellbent on this guy there is only one way to fix this. That would be to stop talking to him and act like you are better then him because you are. Don't be a bitch just don't let his actions/words or other peoples actions/words affect you. Guys like girls that are confident and are a challenge. By "moving" on you will not only be happier with yourself in the long run but it will make him see what he is missing and it will be the only way you could possibly get him to like you.

[Asker]

Your opinion is actually very helpful, thank you! :)

[Darkfairie17]

Awe, i'm so sorry this happened! He was being kind of rude by telling you that you were being annoying.

He could have just let you down easy by saying he wasn't interested, but that he was flattered. Forget about this guy!

It sounds to me like he's not interested in you at all. Especially after being told by friends that you are interested in him. Don't push it.

[takumii]

You can still get him, when children at school tag and tease you by someone else's name, its embarrassing. But the good thing is he will now be thinking about you , even when he doesn't want to.

Now that "you act him" has gone out try to act like you don't. Don't be rude to him, just try to ignore him. And act like all the teasing doesn't bother you. Don't react.

[Asker]

Thank you for the advice! :)

[Anonymous]

You need to leave him alone. He's probably feeling suffocated by everyone making jokes about you two and then after all that you come on to him. You just need to leave him be. He has an animosity towards you there's nothing you can do to fix that other than leave him be.

[Asker]

This is actually probably he's thinking, I just feel horrible for making him feel uncomfortable. All I wanted was to get to know him... too bad I messed up. :/

Thanks for leaving your opinion, it's very insightful. :)

[Opinion Owner]

It's not your fault. Your/his friends shouldn't have been so nosy and teased him so much. Maybe you can just talk to a friend of his and tell them you never meant for anyone to harass him just so he knows you didn't want him being teased about you. And then they can just pass that message along to him.

[serious]

Well, you're right you won't get to know him if he doesn't want to talk to you but I think he has made his wish clear, he specifically told you to not talk to him, right? so you need to respect that and just leave him alone.

[soccergirl33]

That stinks! I would hate to be in your situation. If he treats you like that then he's not worth your time. Have fun with your friends, forget about him and move on :) Just don't be mean to him because chances are, he's not a total jerk his friends probably kept pestering him and he took it out on you. You definitely weren't creeping and I know a friend who had a very similar problem to you. Unfriend him on Facebook 😊

[melmel16]

Well... there are other fish in the sea...
Lol jk
So, I believe it had nothing to do with you personally, but everytime he encountered you, he is reminded of the people who are pestering him, hence doesn't want to do anything with you.
Sadly, I believe you should leave it as that and move on.

Best wishes

[WhatTheHellAmy]

ignore him but make sure he sees you flirting with other guys, he's going to notice you and you are going to ignore him this time.

delete him on every social media

[thewanderingme]

trying to make him jealous will be super obvious and make you look creepier.

[WhatTheHellAmy]

@thewanderingme she won't gangbang in front of him tho XD

[thewanderingme]

o... k? I don't get it

[Anonymous]

That's better than mine. My ex-crush massaged me that I'm a 'cheap girl', and it becomes a trauma for me for all along my life, after that I'm so afraid to be the first one begin my love story. 😭 So, I must think carefully when I do something.

[Opinion Owner]

And an additional, i never text him, only added him on his media social + e-mail.

[thewanderingme]

he turned you down. that sucks but you should respect his feelings and work on getting over your crush.

[Crumbles]

There are other fish in the sea

[Asker]

The one phrase I didn't want to hear! Lol, but ok. :)

[Anonymous]

There are other fish in the sea... you messed up.. he's not interested sweetie.. move on

[Asker]

Honestly, I just really wanted to get to know him and be friends. And I feel like if he got to know me first, the situation would be different. That statement of "there are other fish in the sea" is true, but how can you know he's not interested if he hasn't even gotten to know you? The whole reason of this question was to get pointers on how to talk to him, not forget him and move on.

[Opinion Owner]

I understand... just give him space

[Lynda_The_Devil]

Move on. There are plenty of guys that will and do like you. He sounds a jerk for treating you like that.

[Anonymous]

I don't think he's rude, I think you're annoying. Leave him alone. If this were a guy bothering a girl it would be just as irritating.

[Anonymous]

I don't think your question is bad at all. If he doesn't want to talk to you, he should have the balls to come up to you and tell you.