How do you stop being so perverted?

[Anonymous]

[TheSavageTruth]

thats not being perverted, thats social ineptitude. dont be immature, be respectful and show some dignity when you speak with people, not just girls.

think that way and you'll avoid any sort of "perverted thoughts." Talk to people like you're talking to someone of respect, a person you wish to gain information from - lets say you were talking with a teacher, you wouldn't have those "perverted tendencies" now would you? I highly doubt it - its because you're altering these people based on their appearance, race, sexuality and thus altering how you treat them. You need to evaluate that and notice how you behave around certain people. YOU control how you act around everyone. You just have to identify it and become more self-aware. Like others said, identifying is the first step. gl man. you got this.

[KDA20]

Being aware of it is a good start and what Zara said is good too - Just be careful and after a while it will become second nature to you.

[Summertime7]

Dont focus on your fear of being misinterpreted. Because when you do it will make it even harder to get rid of those awkward situations. Or next time laugh and say i mean like hip hop or ballet?

[_Zara_]

Every time you catch yourself doing something perverted stop doing it. Every time you'll catch yourself out sooner and sooner until you stop doing it

[Asker]

Sometimes i can't tell , and it comes out perverted. I dont have bad intentions but i usually word it pervertedly or something, like a girl was giving me a ride home and she mentioned she danced, i was honestly interested in what kind, like hip hop , ballet, etc. but when i asked it came out pervetedly like (in perveted/weirdo voice) "What kind of dancing?" I could tell by her expression she didn't like it, but i already knew her so she let it go. If that was when we met id be labeled a creeper.

[Asker]

*it came out as in im implying stripper dancing or something

[_Zara_]

That's a good start, try to pay attention to how you say things and eventually it'll stop coming out like that

[RJGraveyTrain]

By eating pizza and not giving a fuck.

It's pretty much my solution when all other logical decisions don't pan out.

[Maxemeister]

I try to think of her as a human being with her own side to her

[VampireEmpress]

what's your problem exactly?

[Asker]

I have perveted thoughts , but i also have regular thoughts that comes out perveted when i say it.

I dont have bad intentions but i usually word it pervertedly or something, like a girl was giving me a ride home and she mentioned she danced, i was honestly interested in what kind, like hip hop , ballet, etc. but when i asked it came out pervetedly like (in perveted/weirdo voice) "What kind of dancing?" So the way i said it implied stripping or something. I could tell by her expression she didn't like it, but i already knew her so she let it go. If that was when we met id be labeled a creeper.

[VampireEmpress]

oh, well just work on more emotional control then.

[Asker]

What do you mean enotional control? Like control my tone and body language and expressions? Because that communicates more to people then what you're actually saying.

Its just i dont have control over it, so i miscommunicate, like you know how something like a phrase could have a completely different meaning if they said it in a different way or with a different facial expression, so they think i meant it in a different way

[VampireEmpress]

like just say things in a more keyed down tone. like a placid tone.