Anonymous questions and anonymous answers?

[Bruce]

Many persons on this website, ask and answer questions anonymously...and I often wonder why ? As near as I can tell, your question and /or answer is virtually "anonymous" anyway just by the way this site is configured, managed, etc.

I very rarely ask or answer in that manner, since no one would be able to identify me anyway...and in addition, I try to ask and answer (most of the time ...unless I really lose my cool over a particular asinine question) questions in such a way that I hopefully don't sound like a barbarian, or a pervert in a raincoat hanging out on a street corner.

I guess my question, has to do with maintaining some propriety, as to the way I ask a question or answer a question. i.e. the question that was recently ask, and then promptly 'deleted' by a moderator "Do guys like to have their butt whole licked" ? Besides the incorrect spelling, the asker needed some coaching on how to ask a question.

I can't imagine asking a question like that / especially in such vulgar terms, and expecting a civil answer, and in addition, to expect that it would not be thrown out.

Many questions / answers are still 'anonymous' and I often wonder why based on the above parameters.

Anyone asking a question like that in those terms, has to know it is going to be short lived on this site...ESPECIALLY if they are a minor...

Many persons ask more 'civilized questions and answer in a civil way but still as an "anonymous user"...and I wonder why that is...?

Any one have any ideas ?

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One has to wonder also why a user has 'no profile', nor any pictures, to make any determination if they are who they say they are. A name that has no profile and no pictures, always begs a question of being honest and credible.

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My bottom line comment on all of this is, "If you can't stand the heat, stay out of the kitchen"

[Anonymous]

This is the internet. You have to take things with a grain of salt. You will NEVER know exactly who a person is or how honest they are, no matter how many pictures of them you see.

Some people choose to remain as anonymous as possible for safety reasons, and wouldn`t want to put up pictures or give out information.

People who reveal their true selves in their profiles may not feel comfortable discussing certain things or giving their opinions about certain things.

It`s a moot point, really. We are all anonymous here to a certain point, and that is how it should be. People may feel that different situations call for different levels of stealth. What is the big deal?

I am the pictures looking older person, by the way.

[Bruce]

Well, I guess that settles that question. Thank you

[Bruce]

For whatever it is worth at this point, I want to apologize to you, for what appears to be an insult or at least a circuitous attempt to insult you by the other 'anonymous' answerer to my question. I can understand at this point why you would want to be anonymous to avoid that kind of 'cut' or comment that is unnecessary at the least and uncalled for at best. I do respect YOUR wish to remain anonymous.

Regards, Bruce

[Opinion Owner]

You don`t have anything to apologize for, as far as I can see. I haven`t been my kindest here. And yes, that is why I chose to be anonymous.

I`m not completely sure what you mean.

[Opinion Owner]

Wait a sec... when I said, "I`m the pictures looking older person..." I meant I am the person who made the comment. I was leaving a second answer because I felt it was a new subject.

I didn`t mean that I had pictures that looked older.

Just to clarify. If that was why you were being so apologetic. I`m still slightly confused, but anyway.

[Bruce]

I thought you were someone else. I apologized because I thought it was appropriate.

End of discussion................have a nice life.

[Opinion Owner]

Wow

[Bruce]

I can only suggest that you enroll in a good weight loss program, and stick with it, and then at the end of the year consult with a competent plastic surgeon in your area and see what can be done to make your face a bit more socially acceptable

[Opinion Owner]

Ooooooookay. Someone is a little bitter...

108 pounds... so... yeah. That`s not really a problem I have.

[Opinion Owner]

But if you can find a way to go into the kitchen while avoiding the heat, why not? Why is it such a problem? I mean, if you`re reasonable you should be taking this stuff with a grain of salt anyway. So why is honesty and credibility an issue? And, who are you to talk....

[OrallyFixated]

I don't have a profile or a picture, as I just opened this account a few days ago and was looking for something specific. I have read some of this stuff and added my 2 cents here and there. I don't think I will update my profile with any info or a picture, I'm not really here to become friends with anyone. (I don't mean to come off as rude either) I'm here to find ideas mostly of the sexual nature, and share ideas when I feel I have something to add. If you want to disregard a comment I posted because I don't have any profile, It's all good.

[Anonymous]

I personally answer anonymously because there have been times where people disagree with you and then basically stalk you. They will either send you emails on here, try to friend you, IM you, or follow you onto multiple discussion boards and bring in a past argument. I don't care about making friends on here and talking to people, I just want to ask for advice and be left alone to be honest.

[ArtistBboy]

Agreed +1

[Opinion Owner]

See I wouldn't even comment on someone else's comment because you can't hide the name and it's like now I can stalk you... lol not that I will don't worry.

[Opinion Owner]

Did I not give you enough reasons Oliver about how people will stalk you on this site? I've had it done many times to the point where I've cancelled accounts. I've stood up to guys being assholes on this site demeaning women and they emailed you talking crap, IMed you, went into every discussion board I either posted a question or answered and made rude remarks. I cancelled accounts to get them to stop &now only post anonymous. Now does that sound like stalking over this site to you? It happens.

[Bruce]

There is an easy remedy for what you are talking about. Just don't belong to a site like this. Easy enough answer, if you find yourself so much in "demand". "Stalking" is a real life issue. You just simply must get a real life and move on.

Bruce

[Opinion Owner]

So because people decide to follow me around on this site because I told them off then I shouldn't be on this site? Obviously it's not like in real life but it's annoying. I do have a real life and only go on this if I want advice or if I'm bored.

[The_Box]

No way. I've never been stalked and I don't exactly sugarcoat my answers.

[Opinion Owner]

I was stalked after answer some question about how women are inferior. I told them off, they were assholes who didn't listen to anything and just went onto my profile found other questions I posted or answered. It was always guys doing the stalking and I don't think guys would really go after other guys. Then there was just also the annoying people who after I answered one question not anonymously they would start IMing me asking me a million questions.

[Anonymous]

Sometimes people want their response to be separate from things they have said in the past. Sometimes they want to preserve their reputation and are saying something that they wouldn`t want to have associated with them. Maybe they want to be taken seriously despite the fact that they say they are 30 but have posted a ton of pics in which they look about 50..?

[SnowAngel]

Hahaha too funny!

[Bruce]

That wouldn't seem reasonable..........in that they would not be taken seriously if they were not truthful about their age ? Hmm, just not wanting to be associated with an answer would be more accurate.

[Bruce]

How does an "anonymous user" post pictures to the site, that anyone can see ? I have ever been able to see the profile of an anoymous use to see their pictures, or anything about them, for that matter ?

[Opinion Owner]

You missed the point...

[Bruce]

What is the point ? You really sound very neurotic. Is that why you live your life on the internet ?

[Opinion Owner]

I realize that all this is getting a bit more muddled up than I had originally intended it to be. My point was, why lie about your age and then post pictures? Where is the logic there? You are either significantly older than 30, or you need medical help. I`m sorry if that sounds confrontational (and I KNOW it sounds rude, but ahem...)but I have been dying to ask you for some time what is up with that whole thing. I know it is none of my business, but... people do notice..

[islands7]

AGREED!
There are some odd circumstances that merit this feature, perhaps the frequency should be limited
why?
b/c there's far too many that abuse the ANON mask
e. g.
> trolling for answers, seeking some good samaritan to argue with to kill time until they are hot/bothered which adds to their kicks
> trolling for answers that support their opinions from right field so they can feel "right"/correct in their real life fight, wasting the time of those giving opinions
> giving an opinion (of asking a Q) with little/no thought... for the GAG points
> ability to throw stones/mud on other GAG members from a safe position, then report the "fight" as an innocent

[armyant]

Some people are just cowardly, whatyagonnado.

[Bruce]

Sounds most reasoable to me.............Can't imagine being "stalked" on a website......sounds like something from a "B" movie. Armyat, you seem to be 'straight up" about what you ask and answer............Without being 'dramatic' about it.

[ArtistBboy]

Multiple reasons:

- They are providing a sarcastic / rude / etc response

- They are providing a response opposite of the truth

- They are underage asking / answering an adult topic

- They don't want feedback about their answer / question via their inbox (either good or bad feedback)

etc

These are the most common of typical reasons~

ArtistBBoy

[Anonymous]

I'm sure the reasons vary as much as the people themselves.

Propriety is a relative term, it is different in various cultures and contries. This site has members from all over the world. Try to be a little more open minded; the question you think is fine to ask may be as offensive to a muslim member as that butt question was to you.

[Bruce]

The question was deleted by a moderator, as inappropriate.

[Opinion Owner]

Being hired or named as a moderator of a website doesn't mean your mind couldn't expand some, as well.

[Opinion Owner]

BTW, the first anon. girl gave you an honest answer, I don't think it's either polite or particularly your place to be telling her to leave. She's gotten a lot of up arrows, perhaps you should reconsider your point of view.

[Bruce]

If the woman is being "stalked", ............that would seem to be a reasonable thing to do.........not put yourself in the position of being 'Stalked"

[Bruce]

Thanks for your polite comment, and based on that and other comments here, I have, and will in the future, reconsider my point of view on this subject. Once again, thanks for the very civil exchange on this subject.

Bruc e

[Paris13]

I do sometimes so no one knows it is me a master on here who is writing and asking. Maybe I don't want them to know it is me who is asking either a silly question or one that will get slack.

[Anonymous]

it's their choice... all are individual... so do... to be anon... like to tell real feel of themselves... they wish to be true and hide from society as well

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